kyle77 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 My ex-girlfriends friends are soooo nice to me. I thought there would be sort of an awkward situation but they are actually so nice to me. We go out to bars and clubs together on a regular basis. When they see me they are excited. In fact her best friend always plans time to hang out with me. We always hang out without my ex of course....I am just surprised that this would happen. I don't think any of them are interested in me....but they definitely enjoy my company or something. Is this normal? I wasn't expecting this.....
Author kyle77 Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 Any ideas why this would happen? Or are they just being friendly?
MissBee Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 This is weird. Her friends should be loyal to her, not you. Mind you, I am not saying they should shun you and treat you badly, but to make time to hang out with you, without her? That is disrespectful and weird and shows a lack of boundaries on both your parts. I wouldn't hang out with my ex boyfriend's friends behind his back or at all. I have my own friends... If my friend breaks it off with a man, I will say "hey what's up?" and be cordial when I see him around but we won't be going out clubbing, to bars etc. I also keep a line between my friends' SOs and myself while they are together. We hang out in a group and I am friendly towards them but I do not become close friends with them. That is so odd. You obviously think this is odd to, or else you wouldn't post.
EgoJoe Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 It could be that they know something you don't know and don't agree with their friend's actions or decisions. There might be interest but Women are fake man so that is all it probably is. Fake kindness and empathy. Start blowing them off and watch for the fall out.
Author kyle77 Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 Ya I am really confused I mean they definitely favour my ex more than me. That will never change. But I just thought they would definitely not want to be in the same vicinity as me because of "girl code". I was at the club last night with two of her best friends...dancing...not grinding....but dancing together as a group and I just don't know whats going on. You think I would be off limits for my ex's friends just to talk to now but who knows. I like my ex's friends. They are cool people and I would love to keep them as friends, but I can't help but wonder if I am also doing something odd here... Should I not be hanging out with them? This might help you answer my question: So when me and my ex were together I got to know her friends, obviously, and we hung out together as a group a lot (her friends and my friends). Now that we have been apart though we occasionally still hangout same group....all of us together minus my ex....I wouldn't say me and her friends are really close....we text occasionally but its not like were "tight". We just still hangout, just without my ex? Any thoughts on what this means and if I should be trying to avoid this....(I don't want to be doing something I shouldn't)
EgoJoe Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Dude they are keeping tabs on you among other things. Cut this sheiza off and be a little rude with them too.
Author kyle77 Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 but what is the point of keeping tabs on me? me and my ex are done....we won't be getting back together anytime soon if at all....why would my ex even care about keeping tabs on me? I personally would rather know nothing about whats going on in her life
Sugarkane Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Wow that's just bizarre. Are you sure they aren't keeping tabs on you? When I got dumped I was devasted and suicidal. Not one ex friend cared at all. I never want to see The sheep ever again! Sounds like they really want to keep tabs on you though.
coltsfan1 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 How old are all of you? Sounds to me like there isn't any "rules" or "honor" amongst these girls. But I really shouldn't judge. There could be outside issues you don't know about between the girls. Are these girls dating/married to your guy friends? Your male buddies could have made their gals choose between a female friend or issues with their husbands.....
johan Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 I've never heard of such a thing. I'd say just go with it until you decide you don't want to anymore. As long as you enjoy it that is. Maybe at some point you'll figure out why it's happening.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 My best friend got really close to my ex and his brother and their friends. She always complained that after we broke up, she never sees them anymore. She had this party and wanted to invite the group of them (and me). She checked if it's OK with me. I said yeah, if you want to (even though it really wasn't and I was kind of pissed that she suggested it). My ex and his brother and their friends didn't end up coming, they said that they all had other plans Ex later texted me "what kind of manipulation tactics are these" He just assumed that I was the instigator. I would say that your situation is very weird. Either they don't value her as a friend or one is crushing on you (possibly her best friend) or both.
Author kyle77 Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 im 19 years old we are all around that age 18, 19, 20 etc. ya I guess maybe I should just continue to be there friends I just don't want to be imposing or anything. These girls are in no way connected to us other than my ex is there friend. I have no idea how I would tell if they are keeping tabs on me though. Not really sure what to think of this......do you guys think it would be best then for me to just prove I have moved on the next time we are all at the club together?...
Author kyle77 Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 also when you say they are keeping tabs on me....what do you mean by that? what are they looking for particularly?
aiyam Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Depends on the reason of your break up, i think. If you have been good to their friend, and to them, i find no reasons for them to un friend you.
Author kyle77 Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 so you dont think this is weird in anyway?
g450 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 18 19 and 20 year olds? Seriously. The answer is simple. These are immature little girls. Literally. And they are doing what all teenage girls do. They play games. Doesnt mean a damn thing. You are young as well. I would not even worry about it. Just double wrap that sucker and keep it safe.
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