DuchessKaye Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 This is true! Most men can tell a story about how they weren't looking for anything serious and then fell in love. And most men can tell a story about how they were looking for love, but discovered they had a lot of fun being single. I'm not speaking for all men but I'm sure I'm pretty damn close. Admit it dudes, you are some pretty strange beings.
d'Arthez Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I never was interested in anything casual. I suppose that makes me strange.
Cracker Jack Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Most people in general don't know what they want. That's just how it is. It all comes down to the individual. However, there are a ton of people who are well aware of what they want. You just have to find them. 1
d'Arthez Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Agreed. Even last year I ran into a fair number of women with whom I could have had a ONS. Just because I am not interested in that, does not mean I know what I want, or for that matter, what these women wanted. Just not compatible at the time in terms of wants.
joystickd Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Its not a matter of not knowing what you want I mean men know what type of woman they want. Its just often women want and meet men that are wanting different things. Also there is a fear of actually saying what they desire think of the men that say they want a relationship but want sex or women that want a relationship but the man they want on is in for sex so the women attempts to sex the man into a relationship 1
d'Arthez Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Agreed. Even last year I ran into a fair number of women with whom I could have had a ONS. Just because I am not interested in that, does not mean I didn't know what I wanted, or for that matter, what these women wanted. Just not compatible at the time in terms of wants. Sorry for the duplicate post, I just saw that the sentence made no sense whatsoever, grammatically speaking. And I could not edit it anymore.
udolipixie Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 It is very true from my experiences as well since guys are humans and generally people don't know what they want. I highly doubt many guys will agree that guys or some guys don't know what they want as it seems the mindset is that guys know what type of gal while gals don't know what they want. Though different experiences on most guys being able to tell a story about how they weren't looking for anything serious and then fell in love. I have yet to see that from my experiences much less any implication that most guys are capable of love beyond loving a gal's body.
Els Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I think people, in general, find that they often more capable of change than they believe themselves to be. 1
oaks Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Admit it dudes, you are some pretty strange beings. If you hang out with enough women, you'll come to the conclusion that they are strange creatures, too. 1
musemaj11 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Men want beauty and women want money. Love doesnt exist. 1
Alexanda Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Men want beauty and women want money. Love doesnt exist. I agree with everything, but the love doesnt exist part.
phineas Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 A man can usually decide if he wants sex with a woman on the spot. Relationship takes longer than that. But honestly, my experience is even if a woman say's she is looking for a serious relationship, A man telling her they want the same thing before the first date or on the first date = total turn-off to them for some reason. As soon as I started telling women "a steady GF would be nice but i've become selective since my divorce & just looking to have fun with someone & get to know them. Or something like that & I got a lot more women interesting in dating me.
somedude81 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 This is true! Most women can tell a story about how they weren't looking for anything serious and then fell in love. And most women can tell a story about how they were looking for love, but discovered they had a lot of fun being single. I'm not speaking for all women but I'm sure I'm pretty damn close. Admit it dudettes, you are some pretty strange beings. 5
Brit Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I agree, that men are almost impossible to understand from the female perspective. In polls men say they lust after Megan Fox and she is the most desired, but she wears heaps of make up, although wears it well, and the same men will then claim they wish for a girlfriend who wears no make up at all. And then the opposite can occur, too. Men will then lust and desire Victoria Secret Models, then claim they are turned off by skinny women and wish for lots of meat on the bones, and a little jiggle in the walk. Men claim they want a good girl, but in no way wish to be 'gasp' friends with a woman before dating her. Men like to play games, but when a woman plays back the same game, more clever, she is to be barred, dismissed.
carhill Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Agree with the OP. Men can be exceedingly unpredictable, especially emotionally.
ScreamingTrees Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I agree, that men are almost impossible to understand from the female perspective. In polls men say they lust after Megan Fox and she is the most desired, but she wears heaps of make up, although wears it well, and the same men will then claim they wish for a girlfriend who wears no make up at all. And then the opposite can occur, too. Men will then lust and desire Victoria Secret Models, then claim they are turned off by skinny women and wish for lots of meat on the bones, and a little jiggle in the walk. Men claim they want a good girl, but in no way wish to be 'gasp' friends with a woman before dating her. Men like to play games, but when a woman plays back the same game, more clever, she is to be barred, dismissed. I guess, but that's not even a majority of guys. Maybe meathead players do some of those things, but is that who you're going after? Might want to rethink things. I for one would rather have a girl who is on the skinny side, but I definitely don't want to date a physical clone of myself or I'd just go for other guys. I'd prefer her to not be anorexic, but not be overweight. Those are two extremes, and as long as she falls in the healthy mid-range, I have no problem. If it helps, I'm neither anorexic or overweight and exercise regularly. Also, guys who generally try to play it "nice" and befriend a girl with alterior motives are usually shut down when it comes down to making a move, because I'm assuming they come off as dishonest or passive aggressive and weak of character.. I've never been an "orbiter", either things go somewhere or nothing happens and I quickly move on. Ironically enough, I've had the most luck with girls actually wanting ME when we'd spent several months around each other..
sigurpol Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I know I'm strange; just not in the dating department. 1
Brit Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 No, I was just generalizing. Just by reading posts here, if a woman sleeps with a guy on the first date, she is loose, if a guys has been on 5 dates, with no physical relations, then he questions the girl's intentions. If a woman takes care of herself, she is high maintenance, and if she doesn't, then it is not desired either. Men refuse to be friends with a woman first, because this the friendzone and it is to be avoided at all costs. If a women keeps things to herself she is cold, if she mentions problems she is drama. This is the reason I enjoy staying to myself at this moment. I am not out searching for a soulmate and am enjoying drama free activities. 2
RedRobin Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 self awareness is a rare commodity in either gender...
kaylan Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 When someone says they dont know what they want, or that they arent looking for anything serious, its them basically telling you that you arent what they are looking for in a boyfriend/girlfriend. /thread
insertnamehere Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Just remember, any time a woman complains about men in general, she only means the guys she wants to ****. For all the whining and moaning that men are so difficult, ya never quite see the gals giving the socially awkward shy guys a fighting chance. Remember this, guys. If she says "men are ______", she only really means "the men I wish would **** me are ______". The rest of the male population might as well be chimps masturbating in a cage, because they don't count as human. Women are so full of **** when they talk generically about men.
Art_Critic Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 The older you get the more you have figured out what you want and what you don't want. Knowing what you don't want is also an important item...sometimes that can be mistaken for not knowing what you want.. In my younger years I would say I didn't know what I wanted out of a relationship.. but today at 49 I certainly do. 1
boytoy Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 OP, I disagree. Some guys want casual dating, some want a long term relationship, and most know what they want. However, here's why you get the illusion that they don't: - If a guy says he wants a relationship, but has a one night stand which he does not want to turn into a relationship, all that means is that he decided he doesn't like that particular girl enough for a regular relationship. Very simple. - If a guy says he wants casual dating, but ends up in a LTR, all that means is that he met a girl who is so high quality in his eyes that he thought to himself "better nab her now because I'm not likely to find someone else that good later on". So, in reality, pretty simple and not confusing at all! You're welcome!! This is true! Most men can tell a story about how they weren't looking for anything serious and then fell in love. And most men can tell a story about how they were looking for love, but discovered they had a lot of fun being single. I'm not speaking for all men but I'm sure I'm pretty damn close. Admit it dudes, you are some pretty strange beings.
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