SuperDaimyo Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 hi guys, I never thought I would use an internet forum for relationship help, but I am a broken man who needs a billion shoulders to cry on. I have had a girlfriend for 5 years, she chased me for 1yr before I agreed to go out with her, and then we fell madly in love. She moved to America to be with me (we are both originally Jamaican) and we went to college together. I have graduated and am now looking for a job in the area that she got her job, however she is still in our college town studying for her Accounting CPA exam before she starts working. She came to visit me yesterday after being a month apart, and dropped the bomb, she wanted a break. She doesnt even know why, she says she is confused, needs to find herself, and every break excuse in the book, even if it contradicts a previous one. We have been inseparable since 5yrs ago, except for 1 month bursts of away time when we visit respective parents. We are apart now in terms of distance, why did she need to have a break when we were never really together in terms of a geographic sense and what the hell to do? Also, she was always really into me, we did everything together like best friends, now she has new friends from her accounting school , and they do things together that I dont enjoy like shooting , camping,getting drunk at bars, and things that a guy type like me just cant bring himself to do and that she never showed interest in before. Sorry if i dont make much sense, but like many others here my head is a balloon right now.
unreal Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Do you think there may be another guy? My ex did the same thing. Told me she was confused, wanted to breakup, didn't know why? She was the type who never wanted to party or drink or go to bars. Suddenly, out of the blue she started the same thing. She wanted to do these things. And she wanted to hang with her friends. Which all of this was fine, except she didn't want me along. Nine times out of ten, it is because of another guy.
unreal Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 We also had the distance apart and were about to get married.
Author SuperDaimyo Posted June 26, 2004 Author Posted June 26, 2004 As far as I know there is no other guy, she has assured me that it isnt another guy, and knowing her for 5 yrs I believe she would tell me. She even said she wants to get back together when we both have settled down and have jobs, but there is a chance we might not. I also think what she is doing is cruel and dont know if i should let her have her cake and eat it too, but i love her so much I am willing to take this abuse. She really needed alone time she said, but when you live 400 miles away from someone, I assumed that was more than enough space. She has stressed she doesnt want either of us seeing other people. She was sending me pictures of wedding rings just a week ago man, everything was going perfect then BOOM!!!
Author SuperDaimyo Posted June 26, 2004 Author Posted June 26, 2004 Just to add....9 out of 10 friends have said it usually is a guy too.... she gets really mad when I ask her if thats what it is...<sarcasm>coz the "I just need alone time" is a very clear descriptor of whats wrong</sarcasm>
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