Younger men are interested in older women, men just do not want us to believe this?

[Taramere]

Don't you sleep with people out of curiousity? I've dated different types of men (younger or older) because I wanted the experience. I don't think that's callous or disrespectful since neither of us knew how it would pan out. It could have worked as well as not.

 

I have a couple of times, when I really clicked with somebody but there were reasons for a relationship to be out of the question. In those situations, I didn't stay in touch with the guys because I didn't want any kind of FWB situation developing.

 

It's not callous and disrespecful if both parties have a robust attitude towards the encounter, but it's callous and disrespectful if one person is treating it as a game/practice whatever else has little or nothing to do with love and they know that the other person has very strong feelings for them.

 

Some people can manage casual sex very easily, and if an encounter features two people like that then I think that's fine. However, that it works for some people doesn't mean I have to somehow make a situation like that work for me. It isn't who I am. Undoubtedly that's caused irritation here and there with men...particularly as there's a strong expectation now that women will have sex very quickly.

 

However, when I get that a man has that "have sex with me straight off, or I'm walking" mentality, I find it very easy to switch off and let him walk away....because whatever loose connection might have been made, an attitude like that will break it very quickly. There are all kinds of aspects of life that I get a sense of excitement from. It's not a big sacrifice for me to walk away from a man I fancy when I realise that he's just out for a quick thrill and isn't really into me.

[LittlePrince]

I have read many posts of older men dating younger women, want women with no baggage, that once a woman passes 30 she is not desirable anymore. This is hogwash. Since single, I have been in many interesting conversations with young men, early 20s, while out, (gorgeous young men), and when I told them they were just babies, and I was in my thirties, this had no phase on them, seemed more of a wow factor, and they were even more interested. Not the slightest hint of ageism, hangups about women, and it was so refreshing to interact with such non judgemental men.

I have yet to take a chance with a man who is 20 or 21. Are there any women here who do date much younger men and if so how did it go or how is it going?

A man going for a much older woman is purely sexual on the part of both parties.

[Ruby Slippers]

I think most men in their 20s aren't really looking to settle down with any woman, no matter what age she is. Or even if they think they are, they're rarely mature enough at that stage for it to work.

 

Of course, we hear stories of successful pairings of younger men and older women on LS, and I know of some in real life. One of my sisters is almost 20 years older than her husband, and they've been together for years and he's crazy about her.

 

I've had light involvements with a couple of younger guys, and they were very fun and extremely hot. And there's another one after me now

 

The last younger guy I dated said he wanted something more serious with me and certainly acted like it. Not only did he love me up right big time, he was also very caring, protective, giving - all the boyfriend stuff. He was doing just what you would expect of a man stepping up to make his girl happy.

 

I don't get why people have so much judgment about couples of different ages, whether it's an older man or an older woman. I think a lot of them are just jealous.

[wordrock]

they all want just sex, believe me. for serious stuff like marriage and kids they will choose younger women.

 

As a man in his early thirties, I can verify this is mostly true. I sometimes date women my own age or a touch older. Generally they either already have children and don't want more, or don't want children at all. That's something I want in the future. Therefore the only thing left in my mind is a short not too serious relationship.

 

I think most men in their 20s aren't really looking to settle down with any woman, no matter what age she is. Or even if they think they are, they're rarely mature enough at that stage for it to work.

 

In my mid to late 20's I thought I was ready to settle down, but I was certainly not mature enough to make it work. I feel I am now... but I have no intention of such until I secure my finances and career. Interestingly, I did that by age 28, but I decided to switch careers a couple years ago and return to school. I'd like to believe I'll have this sorted out by my mid 30's... that generally makes most women my own age too old to have children with. Most younger guys aren't thinking about that sort of thing, but you better believe many guys in their 30's and on are thinking about it even if they don't tell you. I sure as hell don't talk about this to ANY woman I've dated recently. That's a type of conversation reserved for when it's necessary with the right woman.

[Ruby Slippers]

Most younger guys aren't thinking about that sort of thing, but you better believe many guys in their 30's and on are thinking about it even if they don't tell you. I sure as hell don't talk about this to ANY woman I've dated recently. That's a type of conversation reserved for when it's necessary with the right woman.

Sure. And I have an acquaintance who married her 24-year-old man (sexy, sweet guy) when she was 40. Then they made 3 babies, got a cute house, and seem to be living happily ever after.

 

A mid-30s guy I dated a while back brought up the kids conversation. I said that since I'm 35, I don't have much time to waste there. He said, "Oh, you're young and have plenty of time," then told me his brother's 46-year-old wife just had their 3rd happy, healthy baby.

 

Takes all kinds to make the world go 'round.

[LittlePrince]

The last younger guy I dated said he wanted something more serious with me and certainly acted like it. Not only did he love me up right big time, he was also very caring, protective, giving - all the boyfriend stuff. He was doing just what you would expect of a man stepping up to make his girl happy.

Yet you are not with him.

[Stellar Wench]

I'm sure this is the case for many men looking for intelligent life out there. The current instant gratification sexualized culture we live in, young women are being taught to spread their legs instead of opening their minds. For a man looking for more substance than a party girl, a more mature woman is the way to go.

[wordrock]

Sure. And I have an acquaintance who married her 24-year-old man (sexy, sweet guy) when she was 40. Then they made 3 babies, got a cute house, and seem to be living happily ever after.

 

A mid-30s guy I dated a while back brought up the kids conversation. I said that since I'm 35, I don't have much time to waste there. He said, "Oh, you're young and have plenty of time," then told me his brother's 46-year-old wife just had their 3rd happy, healthy baby.

 

Takes all kinds to make the world go 'round.

 

I don't doubt there are some exceptions. While it is true women can have children well into their forties, the chances of complications such as birth defects, miscarriage, and threats to the life of the mother arise.

 

Approximately 1 in 1,400 babies born from women in their 20's have Down syndrome; it increases to about 1 in 100 babies born with Down syndrome from women in their 40s.

 

Studies show that the risk of miscarriage (loss of a pregnancy before 20 weeks gestation) is 12% to 15% for women in their 20s and rises to about 25% for women at age 40.

 

etc...

 

The current instant gratification sexualized culture we live in, young women are being taught to spread their legs instead of opening their minds.

 

You really think this is a new thing?

[Ruby Slippers]

The risk of reproductive problems and birth defects increases with age of the father and sperm, too. I could point you to some credible links, but there are thousands of them.

[LittlePrince]

The risk of reproductive problems and birth defects increases with age of the father and sperm, too. I could point you to some credible links, but there are thousands of them.

So as a man gets older he needs more concubines to ensure healthy offspring.

[Brit]

So as a man gets older he needs more concubines to ensure healthy offspring.

 

Adoption:)

[wordrock]

The risk of reproductive problems and birth defects increases with age of the father and sperm, too. I could point you to some credible links, but there are thousands of them.

 

That may be so, but it's pretty much fact that statistically, there are far more older men paired with younger women than the opposite. While there are some social reasons for this, it usually gets down to fundamental mate selection. I'm not arguing that older women can't have children with younger men. I'm simply trying to reiterate that most men prefer younger women, and it seems most women seem to agree as well. The older women I've dated always seemed to require some sort of rationality as to why they should date a younger man and seem to be highly insecure about it. As I also look far younger than my actual age, it has made it especially troublesome for me.

[Brit]

That may be so, but it's pretty much fact that statistically, there are far more older men paired with younger women than the opposite. While there are some social reasons for this, it usually gets down to fundamental mate selection. I'm not arguing that older women can't have children with younger men. I'm simply trying to reiterate that most men prefer younger women, and it seems most women seem to agree as well. The older women I've dated always seemed to require some sort of rationality as to why they should date a younger man and seem to be highly insecure about it. As I also look far younger than my actual age, it has made it especially troublesome for me.

 

Yes, but many of these (not all) older men who are 50 dating a 20 year old are seriously whacked in the head, too many issues, huge amount of mental baggage, so older women really do not lose any sleep over losing these men in the dating pool. It is actually a good thing.

[Ruby Slippers]

Well, wordrock, the times, they are a-changin'. It'll be interesting to see how this evolves over the next hundred years and beyond.

[LittlePrince]

Adoption:)

Why adopt someone else's worthless bastards when you can have your own without having to jump through hoops?

[LittlePrince]

Well, wordrock, the times, they are a-changin'. It'll be interesting to see how this evolves over the next hundred years and beyond.

The answer is it won't.

[Brit]

Why adopt someone else's worthless bastards when you can have your own without having to jump through hoops?

 

Nice, I bet the poster's of LS who were adopted, enjoy your thoughts that they a worthless bastards.

[Taramere]

Why adopt someone else's worthless bastards when you can have your own without having to jump through hoops?

 

To understand the answer to that, you'd have to first be the kind of person who doesn't view other people's children as "worthless bastards".

[LittlePrince]

Nice, I bet the poster's of LS who were adopted, enjoy your thoughts that they a worthless bastards.

 

To understand the answer to that, you'd have to first be the kind of person who doesn't view other people's children as "worthless bastards".

You both act like there are people of some worth.

[Brit]

You both act like there are people of some worth.

 

Which personality is posting now? You are splitting all over LS. Is MeanPrince, on another thread, DignifiedPrince, SportyPrince, Healthy Prince:)

[LittlePrince]

Waiting for my pizza prince.

[Brit]

Waiting for my pizza prince.

 

Snoooooooooooze..........................................

[LittlePrince]

Snoooooooooooze..........................................

That's what I am worried about. I can't eat my pizza if I fall asleep.

[Brit]

That's what I am worried about. I can't eat my pizza if I fall asleep.

 

Well, you could donate it to all the worthless bastards in orphanages.

[soserious1]

May - December romances with a huge age gap between the parties seldom turn into marriage and babies. Sometimes we're destined to love just for a season after all.

 

I'm in my early 50's, while I've certainly seen good looking 21 year old men, I view them in almost the same way I look at a magazine featuring pics of really young people. Nice to look at but that's as far as it goes.

 

I only date casually and prefer no strings relationships but even so, I am not comfortable dating someone who's more than a generation younger than I am for a lot of reasons.