fevensd Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Hello, I'm a recently divorced man age 44. I am going to be dating when I feel I'm ready. The issue is however, that I am wondering what kind of woman would be interested in me. Here's why I ask this question: A) I am 44 of just average looks and just ended my 20 year marriage with the only partner I ever had. Infidelity definitely was not the cause for either of us. B) I will be having our oldest son age 18 live with me while the other 6 children (YES SIX) will live with her. The children's ages run from 18 down through less than 2. C) My ex and I were planning on having 1 more child so I have yet to get a vasectomy. I feel that it would have to take someone extremely unique (of course everyone is unique - but you know what I mean) to have a permanent relationship with someone like me. I only have sporadic internet access, but I definitely will be anticipating you answers which will be most appreciated. p.s. I am not a deadbeat dad - i am paying child support. My children are my world. Also, I have the children every 2nd weekend and at other times as well. We live in the same general area. Much thanks, Dan.
oaks Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Hello, I'm a recently divorced man age 44. I am going to be dating when I feel I'm ready. The issue is however, that I am wondering what kind of woman would be interested in me. I suspect that many people who are available to date at age 44 have been married before, and many will have children from previous relationships. Your situation is far from unusual, so don't worry too much about it. It's not like you suddenly grew a second head or anything. As for not having had a vasectomy... well, me neither, but that's what condoms are for.
FitChick Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I'm guessing you are either Mormon or Catholic. Get a vasectomy before you start dating. You don't need more children, do you? I think just having so many already will turn a lot of women off. In the dating world, kids are "baggage" and you are over the limit!
Author fevensd Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 I'm guessing you are either Mormon or Catholic. Get a vasectomy before you start dating. You don't need more children, do you? I think just having so many already will turn a lot of women off. In the dating world, kids are "baggage" and you are over the limit! I am a Deist so no I am not either Mormon or Catholic. Religion was not the incentive for having brought these wonderful beings into this world.
NeverDated Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I'm guessing you are either Mormon or Catholic. Get a vasectomy before you start dating. You don't need more children, do you? I think just having so many already will turn a lot of women off. In the dating world, kids are "baggage" and you are over the limit! ...really...? fevensd, I don't think you have much to worry about in your age bracket. You may find a woman who has many children herself, or "never got around" to having children but would like the mother experience. I had the same fears that no one would "want me" - a woman in her late-20s with several small children already? Ha. Seemed impossible that I'd find a man in my general age group up for the task. But I did...there's a sock for every shoe.
Author fevensd Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 ...really...? fevensd, I don't think you have much to worry about in your age bracket. You may find a woman who has many children herself, or "never got around" to having children but would like the mother experience. I had the same fears that no one would "want me" - a woman in her late-20s with several small children already? Ha. Seemed impossible that I'd find a man in my general age group up for the task. But I did...there's a sock for every shoe. Thanks for the encouragement. As you may have guessed, I'm leaving all my options open right now.
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