alex1960 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I read all over the Internet that a guy should move on when the girl only wants to be friends. In my experience, this has proven to be incorrect. When I was younger, I was enough of a wuss to remain friends with girls who didn't want to date me. It didn't happen overnight but all of them without exception ended up developing feelings for me. Have you ever had similar experiences that you're willing to share?
somedude81 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 It didn't happen overnight but all of them without exception ended up developing feelings for me. Have you ever had similar experiences that you're willing to share? All of them without exception ended up never wanting to see me again. No girl I have ever been friends with, has ever wanted to turn it into anything more. Some were able to tolerate my interest longer than others, but eventually the end result was always the same.
fetish1980 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 its possible but usually its one of those things that are very unexpected. you pretty much will have had to have dropped any hopes of ever having a romantic relaitonship with her, then the ball will have to be left in her court. fetish
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I read all over the Internet that a guy should move on when the girl only wants to be friends. In my experience, this has proven to be incorrect. When I was younger, I was enough of a wuss to remain friends with girls who didn't want to date me. It didn't happen overnight but all of them without exception ended up developing feelings for me. Have you ever had similar experiences that you're willing to share? If you can put up with hanging out with a woman you have feelings for while watching them throw themselves over, date and make out with other guys, then by all means, keep trying to claw your way out of the friendzone. Hell, I've even heard a woman I was nuts for having sex in the next room with another guy before. Well, that made for a fun night. But by all means, keep clawing and scratching away.
zigg1 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 i think its possible, i have feelings for this girl right now and ive known her for a year, we hang a lot. I told her yesterday how i feel and it was a bit awkward. I remember her telling me how this guy liked her and she didnt like him but eventually started to like him, i think its possible and i think im going to keep trying even though she has feelings for her ex still.
phineas Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 fall off the face of the earth for a yr, get hench, find other hot women to date & be completly over her and have the attitude that if a woman doesn't have anything real to offer you, their wasting your time. THEN she will want you. serious. Women who friendzone men aren't attracted to guys who let themselves be friendzoned. 1
Sweetheartt Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I read all over the Internet that a guy should move on when the girl only wants to be friends. In my experience, this has proven to be incorrect. When I was younger, I was enough of a wuss to remain friends with girls who didn't want to date me. It didn't happen overnight but all of them without exception ended up developing feelings for me. Have you ever had similar experiences that you're willing to share? In my exp no guy EVER gets out of the frndzone because I only put them in there to hush them up not because they're truly frnds LMAO!!
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 fall off the face of the earth for a yr, get hench, find other hot women to date & be completly over her and have the attitude that if a woman doesn't have anything real to offer you, their wasting your time. THEN she will want you. serious. Women who friendzone men aren't attracted to guys who let themselves be friendzoned. Yea, but what's the point of having her come around when you're over her. She'd be another skank and another piece of a@@ that you have no feelings for. And you're dating someone by then to make her jealous and so would she so you'd both be cheating. And the merry go round of meaningless relationships goes round and round. Who'd want a nasty skank who thought like that?
phineas Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Yea, but what's the point of having her come around when you're over her. She'd be another skank and another piece of a@@ that you have no feelings for. And you're dating someone by then to make her jealous and so would she so you'd both be cheating. And the merry go round of meaningless relationships goes round and round. Who'd want a nasty skank who thought like that? ok, but just think about how the other guys she winds up with treat her. They view her pretty much EXACTLY the same way you just described. At least, the women I know who friendzone decent guys always seem to be with guys who treat her like a cum dumpster. whatever you are, it isn't what she wants & even though she allready knows how you feel (trust me, she does) speaking the words will just make you more pathetic in her eyes. unless on that very rare occassion she actually is secretly in love with you and afraid of your rejection. but if that were the case you'd have lots of options & not even talking about the friendzone.
phineas Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 In my exp no guy EVER gets out of the frndzone because I only put them in there to hush them up not because they're truly frnds LMAO!! This is what i've seen of women who friendzone other guys. If I ever find myself in the friendzone I'm outta there & she's forgotton. The way I see it, she knows what I want, if she wanted the same...well she has my number. Chasing is a waste of time & energy. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 At least, the women I know who friendzone decent guys always seem to be with guys who treat her like a cum dumpster. whatever you are, it isn't what she wants & even though she allready knows how you feel (trust me, she does) speaking the words will just make you more pathetic in her eyes. This is what i've seen of women who friendzone other guys. If I ever find myself in the friendzone I'm outta there & she's forgotton. The way I see it, she knows what I want, if she wanted the same...well she has my number. Chasing is a waste of time & energy. That's right. It's just stupid to chase. Absolutely stupid and no self respect.
grkBoy Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 I read all over the Internet that a guy should move on when the girl only wants to be friends. In my experience, this has proven to be incorrect. When I was younger, I was enough of a wuss to remain friends with girls who didn't want to date me. It didn't happen overnight but all of them without exception ended up developing feelings for me. Have you ever had similar experiences that you're willing to share? Most of my ex girlfriends were women who didn't want me initially. We started off just chatting online or elsewhere, and I really didn't "try". Over a period of weeks or months, she just ended up falling for me. I only tell a guy not to bother when he's been FZed if the girl clearly shows she's flaky on top of it all or she starts immediately dating other guys whom you can see are nothing like you. So she FZ's you and then starts chasing guidos, bikers, or other douchebags. Don't bother even fathoming. HOWEVER...if she just initially isn't interested in dating you or anyone, but she enjoys your company, then be her friend. Sometimes they just need time. Just don't become her crying blanket/patsy.
monkey00 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 It is possible escaping the friend's zone. You just have to maintain a distance, starting dating other people, do your own thing, and let her know your life doesn't revolve around her. It's kind of like a drug for some women. Let's say you are really close friends and hang out all the time, then one day you drop off the face of the earth. You're busy and barely have time to hangout or talk. This drug will have her wanting your attention again, even if it means being more than friends. Personally I find it easiest when you treat a woman like your friend and want her to be your friend more than she wants you to be her friend. Tell her and complain to her about your dating life. I do this to my female friends and I've found out they have had crushes on me in one way or another. I do this to my ex too and she keeps wanting to be around me. Women are just as afraid of the friend's zone as guys are.
phineas Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Most of my ex girlfriends were women who didn't want me initially. We started off just chatting online or elsewhere, and I really didn't "try". Over a period of weeks or months, she just ended up falling for me. I only tell a guy not to bother when he's been FZed if the girl clearly shows she's flaky on top of it all or she starts immediately dating other guys whom you can see are nothing like you. So she FZ's you and then starts chasing guidos, bikers, or other douchebags. Don't bother even fathoming. HOWEVER...if she just initially isn't interested in dating you or anyone, but she enjoys your company, then be her friend. Sometimes they just need time. Just don't become her crying blanket/patsy. Ooooo. I forgot about this aspect. Every woman friend I had wound up crossing that line. Most times it had disastrous results because they were attracted to d-bags & since I wasn't a d-bag but the kind of guy they thought they should be with they'd tell me they "need to take it slow" That never ends well. LOL!
phineas Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 It is possible escaping the friend's zone. You just have to maintain a distance, starting dating other people, do your own thing, and let her know your life doesn't revolve around her. It's kind of like a drug for some women. Let's say you are really close friends and hang out all the time, then one day you drop off the face of the earth. You're busy and barely have time to hangout or talk. This drug will have her wanting your attention again, even if it means being more than friends. Personally I find it easiest when you treat a woman like your friend and want her to be your friend more than she wants you to be her friend. Tell her and complain to her about your dating life. I do this to my female friends and I've found out they have had crushes on me in one way or another. I do this to my ex too and she keeps wanting to be around me. Women are just as afraid of the friend's zone as guys are. LOL! I've done this before. Friendzone them harder than they friendzoned you.
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 It is possible escaping the friend's zone. You just have to maintain a distance, starting dating other people, do your own thing, and let her know your life doesn't revolve around her. It's kind of like a drug for some women. Let's say you are really close friends and hang out all the time, then one day you drop off the face of the earth. You're busy and barely have time to hangout or talk. This drug will have her wanting your attention again, even if it means being more than friends. Personally I find it easiest when you treat a woman like your friend and want her to be your friend more than she wants you to be her friend. Tell her and complain to her about your dating life. I do this to my female friends and I've found out they have had crushes on me in one way or another. I do this to my ex too and she keeps wanting to be around me. Women are just as afraid of the friend's zone as guys are. LOL! I've done this before. Friendzone them harder than they friendzoned you. Serious question though. Would you seriously date a woman who did that? Wanted you only because you now represent something that is more desirable/a higher asset because you are with another woman?
irc333 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 This is what i've seen of women who friendzone other guys. If I ever find myself in the friendzone I'm outta there & she's forgotton. The way I see it, she knows what I want, if she wanted the same...well she has my number. Chasing is a waste of time & energy. Sometimes, I call women out on the FZ, you know...when they say, "I hope it's okay if we can be friends", then I call them on it...like go along with it, and usually when I try to get them to hang out with me, or join me with other people at a group outing...they always seem to blow me off...eventually, I do something that ticks them off when I prove them wrong about wanting to be friends anyways, hwen really....they had nothing to do with me, even as a "buddy".
freetolove Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 i hate to say this but it's true. my first boyfriend was my friend for one year before we got together. we were together for 5 years before we broke up.
irc333 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 i hate to say this but it's true. my first boyfriend was my friend for one year before we got together. we were together for 5 years before we broke up. As great as this sounds, experiences like this, just never happens to some of us guys. lol I had talked to this one woman, she was telling me she's friends with him, (met him when online dating), but she said to me (about him) that it'll NEVER get further than that. And he keeps holding out for hope. I wonder this is where women start complaining about this whole, "No means yes" situation Men hear about how their friends have fallen for reach other, after being friends for so long, they try to EMULATE it and tries to do the same thing with a future mate.
phineas Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Serious question though. Would you seriously date a woman who did that? Wanted you only because you now represent something that is more desirable/a higher asset because you are with another woman? i'm 40 yrs old, divorced, not looking to re-marry & not having anymore kids. Long term is possible but I don't see how serious I could actually get with someone other than moving them in. However, those types of women are damn good in bed because the type of guy they usually go for has women throwing themselves at him so they learned to up their game. so, as long as the sex is good & their not disrespectful i'll keep them around.
phineas Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Sometimes, I call women out on the FZ, you know...when they say, "I hope it's okay if we can be friends", then I call them on it...like go along with it, and usually when I try to get them to hang out with me, or join me with other people at a group outing...they always seem to blow me off...eventually, I do something that ticks them off when I prove them wrong about wanting to be friends anyways, hwen really....they had nothing to do with me, even as a "buddy". Yeah, calling them out on that = them blowing me off. Oh wait, they were already blowing me off & only contacted me when they needed something. If they want to be friends, it's on MY TERMS. not theirs because the truth is if I asked them out it's because they showed signs of interest to get me to ask them out & then started dangling the sex carrot. Because i'm generally a nice guy & a jack of all trades that can do things quite easily that most men can't it's nothing for me to fix a leaky pipe, a faulty light switch, ect. and i'd think nothing of it. well, if I learned doing that stuff BEFORE sex = friendzone for some reason. so now I don't do sheet for a woman until she's sleeping with me & my GF. Basically, no special treatment until she is in an exclusive sexual relationship with me. Have not been friendzoned once. Also, getting in shape, having some muscle & acquiring a jawline gives you options. and men with options don't make suitable friendzone candidates apparently. LOL!
phineas Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 i hate to say this but it's true. my first boyfriend was my friend for one year before we got together. we were together for 5 years before we broke up. but what kind of friend? were one of you dating someone else? Was it a social circle thing. Or were you guys hanging out one-on-one like same sex friends & doing things the you were both commonly interested in with zero flirting as real friends. Why did it take a yr for you to get together as BF & GF?
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