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People in long term relationships...how do you keep it going?


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I've been in a relationship for a bit more than 3 years...and have been living together for 2. Lately, I feel like we're the stereotypical "old couple," where there's no romance left...only mundane details of everyday life. All that's left (at least on my part) are frustration, annoyance...and more frustration. I feel like a nagging mother all the time, and that's just a terrible feeling when you have yet to hit mid-20.

 

I know he's crazy about me, and I'm not questioning his feelings for me, BUT...he is very passive, so if it's up to him, we'll never do anything or go anywhere. Also, he plays games all the time...and that's another sore topic...*sigh*...I guess I'm just feeling restless. I just want to feel loved and wanted and adored. Great, now I sound like a spoiled little girl... :confused:

 

The other day, one of my friends' boyfriend came home with a vase of roses. I asked him what was the special occasion, and he said, "Nothing." He bought her flowers for no reason at all!! I really didn't know how to react to that, because I thought romantic little things like that only happen in movies...

 

Help! Am I asking too much? What should I do? Is it time to give up and move on?

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I honestly don't know how people keep long term relationships being as romantic as before.

I remember a phase in my life where I wasn't trying to be romantic at all. It's not that I don't appreciate my ex-girl, it's just that I have a goal I was trying to accomplish for her.

She wanted and nagged about a lot of things. I felt I needed to do better just to please her. I felt I needed to have money, and stuff since there are always bills to pay. I didn't want her to worry about monetary problems in the future.

The relationship did end but the reason doesn't relate to this. After looking back at it right now, it was a phase I didn't want to be in again. I really can't live without romance. If there's no romance then there will only be sex. I have to have both of them.

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You have to almost constantly work to keep the spark, It will not always happen on its own. if you notice you are doing something you dont like over and over, such as nagging, you have to fix it, figure out what it is and do somethig about it.

its work, but its good work and worht it! living together could haev done some damage maybe

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