Caveman Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 So she dumps me after almost 4 years...gives me the "I lie awake at night wondering if I'm making the biggest mistake of my life...i fear i will wake up in 6 months and want to be with you, but you will be in love with another and be out of my life forever"...Holy, wack-job, Batman... Now she won't even take my calls. It's as if she wants to pretend the last 4 years didn't exist...like we don't know each other...I'm still friends with my previous ex that I dated for 9 years... Well, if she wants to act as if we never existed, I believe she should return ALL the jewelry, presents, etc...Can't have it both ways, unless you are Elton John... At least I'm a jock on a 50,000 watt station...nothing like revenge thru a microphone...
Samson Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Revenge is a dish best served cold. Your calls only flatter her. Give her ("who?") sub zero attention, and get on with another.
unreal Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Originally posted by Samson Revenge is a dish best served cold. Your calls only flatter her. Give her ("who?") sub zero attention, and get on with another. Great quote and soo very true!
Pyrannaste Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Originally posted by Caveman Well, if she wants to act as if we never existed, I believe she should return ALL the jewelry, presents, etc...Can't have it both ways, unless you are Elton John... I absolutely second that. (I don't really like the way she's acting) But only if the jewelry was very expensive (otherwise it will not be worth the hassle) and unless she lent you money or gave you presents/money you can't/would not return if asked. At least I'm a jock on a 50,000 watt station...nothing like revenge thru a microphone... Don't you ever try that, man. You'd only end up looking like a big jerk on a 50,000 watt station. People who'd hear you badmouthing her will not know the background. You'd look pathethic. I can understand how you feel, but it would be a very bad move. Your ex would get the sympathy of anyone who hears you.
Author Caveman Posted June 26, 2004 Author Posted June 26, 2004 Actually, my listerners know a lot about the situation...she has beenn a topic on my show since i started here...even talked about her on the morning show...so everyone has a good idea what's going on... I also lent her $550 and my laptop...
Pyrannaste Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Only keep in mind that she might be actually considering to get back together with you....perhaps she wants not to hear from you for a while to decide....she might be torn apart and trying to clear her mind and decide. She might still be in love with you. IMO when a woman says this "I lie awake at night wondering if I'm making the biggest mistake of my life...i fear i will wake up in 6 months and want to be with you, but you will be in love with another and be out of my life forever"... she usually means it. You sound still very in love with her. Keep in mind that if you ask for your stuff back...and *expecially*if you badmouth her on your radio programme, you'll have blasted any chance you still have to get back with her (and the chances might even be big). And it won't make you feel any better. Think carefully before doing anything you might regret. How long ago was the breakup?
Author Caveman Posted June 26, 2004 Author Posted June 26, 2004 she told me she "needed a break" on April 20...Then on May 23, she told me we weren't together anymore...i am so in liove with her that it's ridiculous...and probably unhealthy...
moimeme Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Well, here's the thing. If she had doubts about whether or not she should have kept you (i.e. maybe a chance for you), you effectively have trashed it entirely with your behaviour. You have done nothing but confirm that she made the right choice. So congrats, bubba. This is called 'cutting off your nose to spite your face'. In your zeal for 'revenge', you eliminate all chances that the outcome you'd prefer could ever happen. Duh.
Pyrannaste Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Moimeme.... he has not done *anything*yet. Tons of people fantasize about getting a revenge and *don't*act on it! There is a big difference......like the one between *feeling like* punching someone (it happens to everybody ) and actually doing it. He said he talked about her in his morning show.... he might have not said anything bad, only that he's sorry she left him!
sportsloving Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 I agree with Moimeme~ Not only have you cut off any chance of getting her back, you have now shown every listener/potiential date that you are a bad relationship risk ... because god forbid something happen, it doesn't work out and the listener/potiental date knows she will hear all about her faults and short comings on the radio. Smooth move
Author Caveman Posted June 26, 2004 Author Posted June 26, 2004 Umm, nothing bad has been said... YET! the opposite actually actually has occured...like how attractive she is, yada yada yada...
sportsloving Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Originally posted by Caveman Umm, nothing bad has been said... YET! the opposite actually actually has occured...like how attractive she is, yada yada yada... LOL Then I apologize.
moimeme Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Well, hallellujah. Then do NOT say anything nasty about her or you will show her you're a schmuck! Yes, it's painful when someone we think is great ceases to think we're great but, unfortunately, that is one of life's really difficult realities. If she comes back, great. If not, then you two would have made a bad pair anyway and someone else better suited to you is out there. You'll realize that when you find that someone. Meantime, stick to the high road, even if you have to force yourself with gritted teeth. You'll be much better off in the long run if you do.
CurlyIam Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 I totally understand how you feel. Best revenge ever: have great, sunny morning shows, be happy and go on with your life. Wanna get a reaction from her? Talk about the probability of one special lady coming into your life... don't give details, just act as if you were really impressed by a certain girl. She'll find out, as long as you don't over do it! I think nothing works better than a little bit of feminine jealousy! Btw, pyra was right, you gotta accept her decision with nonshalance and in a gentleman like way. Hope things turn out allright for you!
KimInTx Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Badmouthing ex's only makes you sound like a loser. I recently dated someone who badmouthed his exwife and ALL of his exgirlfriends (they were ALL psycho's!). I didn't stick with him very long because of his bitterness and the fact he couldn't ever find anything nice to stay about anybody. His exwife cheated on him - he said he had to get revenge on the guy who she cheated with. When she left him and married the other guy - he bragged about how he talked her into sleeping with him again - he wanted to show the other guy who was boss and prove that she'd cheat on him as well. Didn't work - they've been married three years and went on to have a baby. Revenge and badmouthing does you no good. Have some class and move on to a new girl. Forget the past and stop letting her have all the power over you that she does.
Paradise Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Originally posted by Caveman I'm still friends with my previous ex that I dated for 9 years... Well, if she wants to act as if we never existed, I believe she should return ALL the jewelry, presents, etc...Can't have it both ways, unless you are Elton John... At least I'm a jock on a 50,000 watt station...nothing like revenge thru a microphone... Why are you still friends with your ex-g/f? That just doesn’t make any sense to me. That’s very low to ask for your gifts back, that's hers and hers to keep. You gave it to her and she can keep it. It wasn't conditional was it? You'll be better off forgetting about her and find another g/f and move on. As far as revenge on air is stupid idea if you asked me.
dreamguy Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Caveman, read CurlyIam's post. Wanna get a reaction from her? Talk about the probability of one special lady coming into your life... don't give details, just act as if you were really impressed by a certain girl. She'll find out, as long as you don't over do it! (that's the key) I think nothing works better than a little bit of feminine jealousy!. In fact jealousy works on all people. Remember NEVER to make it obvious though and ALWAYS use a tone of voice that shows you're real happy when you talk about that other girl !
Author Caveman Posted June 27, 2004 Author Posted June 27, 2004 Originally posted by Paradise Why are you still friends with your ex-g/f? That just doesn’t make any sense to me. I'm friends with my previous ex because we were together for 9 years and had a lot of fun together...we grew apart, it happens. No reason to pretend we don' t know each other or didn't exist...that doesn't make sense to me... Just like with my "new" ex...I don't get the refusal to talk...she dumped me...I still care about her and her family...seems pretty twisted to me to turn it into nothing...and if that's what she wants to do, then how the eff did she get all those awesome things from someone that didn't exist...that doesn't make sense to me!
kirkyswife Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 Okay you're pissed off - you are entitled to be pissed You are hurt - you're entitled to that You want revenge - FOR WHAT because she wanted to take a break and then decided for herself that you weren't the one for her? Good Lawd man, you would have rather been with someone who was emotionally disconnected and suffer through that or respect that she made a decision that ultimately benefits not only her but your life as well? And then to broadcast it on the radio will do what for you? Make you look better? And the crack about returning the jewelry is TIRED - don't buy someone a gift and then SHOUT she should return it once things don't work out - that's very childish. Don't buy the damn jewelry UNTIL you marry her, then you can go to court and demand all that isht back if it's that serious Listen, do not assume for one moment that a woman who has been with a man for 3+ years isn't experiencing hurt and she probably knows that she hurt you as well and that's eating at her. But her not accepting your calls is her way of staying strong and trying to move on with her life as drama free as possible. And what the hell are you calling her for? Leave her alone and let her live her life. If she hurt you, you have the power to make sure it doesn't happen again but not allowing her to come in and out of your life when "I lie awake at night wondering if I'm making the biggest mistake of my life...i fear i will wake up in 6 months and want to be with you, but you will be in love with another and be out of my life forever" If a woman tells you she doesn't want to be with you - you thank her for stepping out of the way so a real woman can appreciate, respect and earn all of the love that you have to give and DON'T LET THE DOOR HIT YA WHERE THE GOOD LORD SPLIT YA Keep cool man!
Author Caveman Posted June 27, 2004 Author Posted June 27, 2004 I guess you think she should keep the $550 and my laptop that I lent her too? I guesss I'm entitled to be "childish" when she is acts like a a**h***, but then again, I should "thank" her for that
kirkyswife Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 I guess you think she should keep the $550 and my laptop that I lent her too? I guesss I'm entitled to be "childish" when she is acts like a a**h***, but then again, I should "thank" her for that No, she shouldn't keep the $550 or the laptop and to keep things as civil as possible because it's obvious from the tone of your response that you are really vexed, I would send a 15-Day Demand Notice, clearly reiterating that those items were loaned and were expected to be returned on (whatever date you agreed), however due to the turn of events surrounding your relationship and/or friendship request that you receive the laptop and loan within 15 days from the date of the letter or you seek all option available to resolve this in an expeditious manner. Send the letter certified mail to either her home or to her office via Human Resources department to ensure that it's signed for and then wait - she'll either return the items, call you or do nothing. If she does nothing take her to small claims court and get what you are owed. And she can act like an a**h*** all she wants - but men of distinction and class never let them see you sweat. It pisses them off more - didn't you know??? Be easy sweetie!
Author Caveman Posted June 27, 2004 Author Posted June 27, 2004 Originally posted by kirkyswife And she can act like an a**h*** all she wants - but men of distinction and class never let them see you sweat. It pisses them off more - didn't you know??? Be easy sweetie! "distinction and class"? I'm a caveman...and I'm not easy, at least not until you take me to dinner and a movie.
kirkyswife Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 :rolleyes:Yeah Okay you big bad caveman - And I'm not hitting on you Be Easy means Later, Take care!!! Oh yeah and I didn't know cavemen knew how to use tableware - LOL - see you aren't as pissed as you thought and I did give you good advice - ADMIT IT!!!
CurlyIam Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 If you are indeed a caveman,rememberthat they used to be "hot" more than 2000 years ago. Ever since the 80's, it's Mr. Sensitive for the rest of us females! I think you could maybe, be ... charming, but not by continuing this childish act. I'm telling you, good manners,civil tone and a sunny disposition will make her wonder. Plus you have the ideal occasion to put this into practice: by kindly asking her to give you back the laptop and the money. Donot underestimate the ego of a woman when she thinks she's about to loose a good man (as opposed to a caveman, if you get my drift )!
Author Caveman Posted June 27, 2004 Author Posted June 27, 2004 Originally posted by CurlyIam If you are indeed a caveman,rememberthat they used to be "hot" more than 2000 years ago. Ever since the 80's, it's Mr. Sensitive for the rest of us females! I think you could maybe, be ... charming, but not by continuing this childish act. I'm telling you, good manners,civil tone and a sunny disposition will make her wonder. Plus you have the ideal occasion to put this into practice: by kindly asking her to give you back the laptop and the money. Donot underestimate the ego of a woman when she thinks she's about to loose a good man (as opposed to a caveman, if you get my drift )! Curly, I am a Caveman thru and thru...as soon as I showed my sensitive side, she lost interest...so I learned my leason...stay the caveman course....Unga munga...
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