BlackGoaty Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Not even sure how to start off but simply just want to let off the injustice/anger I felt. I am technically not in a relationship therefore there is not a breakup or whatsoever. In a FWB kind of situation for the past one year right until last week with this woman whom I really like and would like to spend my life. I was falsely accused of talking behind her back (we do not even have common friends!) Few days ago, she sent me a text message to remind me not to talk about anything related to her to anyone and if I am already doing it, to stop doing it. You cannot imagine the anger I had when I saw the text message and how surprised too. It is extremely incredulous to be accused and without even a proper communication or explaining what she heard. I tried to find out her basis of her findings but she refused to talk about it and that it does not matter anymore because she only trust herself. This whole saga made me come to a realisation that despite all the efforts I take, her insecurities and fears is simply breaking me down. She simply have no trust in me even as a friend. A girl with commitment phobia is really difficult to handle. If someone do not trust you as a friend, it is very trying to build that trust. We have had good communication and I really thought we are steadily building a path to an official relationship but I guess I was wrong after all. When I had asked for us to be official, she gave me a list of reasons and that I do not meet her checklists and after a couple of to and fro of such communication, few months back I had wanted to stop the FWB situation (ie, strictly friends only, no stayovers, nothing etc) however I got soft hearted when she was crying badly for us not to stop the FWB thing. I should have known better. We havent been in contact since the day she dropped the text message and I dont think I should be the one initiating contact because to be accused of something without finding things out ie to confront me on the facts of what she heard from me and concluding the fact, it really says a lot. My head and emotions is all a blur now.
Starman8 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Run. Hide. Get away from this girl. Major red flags.
Author BlackGoaty Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 Must people run away when they are faced with a commitment phobe? Isnt there any success stories? I guess it takes two hands to clap and make it work.
Starman8 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I was in the exact same situation as you. I even got her to be my girlfriend after awhile. I wouldn't make that mistake again. You're fighting a battle you cannot win with this girl. You probably know it already in your heart. Save yourself the grief and choose a girl that chooses you.
Author BlackGoaty Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 You are right. A girl sleeping with you does not necessarily mean they would want to spend the rest of the life with you.
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