jrw93 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 (edited) I need some advice. I'm 18, never kissed/dated a girl nor obviously had a girlfriend. I just finished my first year at a top 30 university (full ride scholarship) with a 4.0 GPA. Starting my internship with Merrill Lynch in a few days (impossible to get after freshman year, interview was hardcore) and will hopefully go into a bulge bracket firm for I-Banking upon graduation. To be honest, I'm slightly sad that I never had these experiences. I've honestly had the mentality that getting a girlfriend will make me lose focus on my career path.. but it's annoying seeing all my friends go out with their partners and myself being alone. Do you think I should take the plunge and try to find one? Or just wait until I graduate and am working. The other problem is I-Banking is normally 60-70+ hours a week.. which honestly means I won't have a social life either. Sometimes I think I'll never get a girl. P.S. - I'm not fat either.. in a bulking stage right now to make some gains but should begin a cutting cycle in about 5-6 months. I'm about 5'11 165 lbs.. trying to get to 200+ one day haha. Edited May 26, 2012 by jrw93
DontWorryBHappy Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 (edited) That's awesome that you have so many plans, and are on a path toward success. I definitely don't think you should drift away from that.. keep your eye on your goals. However, you have to decide what kind of life you want. Do you want a relationship? Or maybe to just see some girls casually? Do you want to be married one day? I'm not sure how much time you have, but you just have to know how much time you could devote to a girl. If I were you I would try meeting people and if there's someone who you actually see potential with, maybe you can try something. But be realistic. If you don't have much time don't try to jump into a relationship with someone and leave them disappointed. Get to know some girls and see if you click. Don't force anything and go out searching high and low for a girlfriend, letting things come together more naturally works best. But if you DO want any sort of companionship I would really try to add it to your life in some way... Don't let go of those goals, but don't work so hard that one day you wake up and realize you're completely burned out and lonely, even if you are making a bunch of money. I know some of this sounds vague but I'm just saying, don't over-think it. Focus on school but meet girls and learn the art of balance. Edited May 26, 2012 by DontWorryBHappy
irc333 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Yes, you should, in fact that's where most of a young adults dating life occurs MOST often. After graduation, your opportunities to date take a serious nose dive. So take advantage of your dating opportunities in college while you can. AND treasure those moments, as if they were your last. I need some advice. I'm 18, never kissed/dated a girl nor obviously had a girlfriend. I just finished my first year at a top 30 university (full ride scholarship) with a 4.0 GPA. Starting my internship with Merrill Lynch in a few days (impossible to get after freshman year, interview was hardcore) and will hopefully go into a bulge bracket firm for I-Banking upon graduation. To be honest, I'm slightly sad that I never had these experiences. I've honestly had the mentality that getting a girlfriend will make me lose focus on my career path.. but it's annoying seeing all my friends go out with their partners and myself being alone. Do you think I should take the plunge and try to find one? Or just wait until I graduate and am working. The other problem is I-Banking is normally 60-70+ hours a week.. which honestly means I won't have a social life either. Sometimes I think I'll never get a girl. P.S. - I'm not fat either.. in a bulking stage right now to make some gains but should begin a cutting cycle in about 5-6 months. I'm about 5'11 165 lbs.. trying to get to 200+ one day haha.
udolipixie Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 The answer to me depends on whether you never kissed/date or had a girlfriend because of choice or circumstance (no to low opportunities/rejection) as well as how attractive you perceive yourself to the gals you want. If you never kissed/date or had a girlfriend because of circumstance and you think you're bleh or meh to the gals you want probably best suited to date while in college as your opportunities will likely decrease drastically. Unless you wish to rely on your wealth to attract the gals you want. If you chose not to kiss, date, or have a girlfriend and think you're attractive to the gals you want probably best suited to focus on your career path as you'll likely increase in attractiveness.
persevere Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I didn't date much in college, simply because I was very busy and very broke. If you have the time, then why not? Just make sure to balance your school work. I look back on those days, with all the single women around me, with some regret that I held myself back. While I have a great career, I still think I missed out a bit. So yes, go on some dates. You never know who you may meet!
Author jrw93 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 Thanks guys.. I really enjoyed reading your responses. I will definitely get a MBA (Preferably top 5) later on, so GPA is extremely important to me. A problem is that my University grades on the A+, A-.. etc scale. An A+ is a 4.0, and A- is a 3.7 and so on. A+ is numerically a 96+ while a A- is a 93+. A B+ is a 87-92.. and I will NEVER let that happen. So, as you can tell, I've had to get a 96+ on all 10 classes that I have taken so far, which is damn difficult. Also, some courses curve so that no matter what you get, only the top 10% of the class gets A's. Theoretically, you could make a 96 which would normally net you a A+, but since the top 10% cutoff was a 98, you would make a B or even a C. Sucks, I know? Course difficulty will only get harder as I get older.. and I NEED to maintain this GPA. What kind of advice is there to maintain this AND juggling a girlfriend? I also have officer positions in 2 student organizations and a job during the school year.
Author jrw93 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 Could I get a input from some girls? What do you think about dating someone who has not had any experience before? Is it a turn-off?
Julesy Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 It only gets harder after college to start dating, especially if you work a job that requires long hours. I don't see why not, so you can learn to have more balance in your life.
dizy Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 man you cant understand how much i envy you. I am in engineering and well not much social life either but getting crapy grades =p well I think its not about if you SHOULD date someone. just let things happen. I mean obviously if you spend most of your time on studies you wont have much time to meet people, but everything comes with a sacrifice. personally, I wouldn't mind being single during the entire 4 year undergra if i can get GPD of 4 =p Don't waste your time on things that you dont consider as your priority because once you fall for someone, you wouldn't even be able to control your feelings, so just let things happen and live your life
Author jrw93 Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 Haha I'm Finance and Math double major.. Finance is honestly a joke while Math can be hard. I'm taking DiffeyQ next semester.. and boy will it suck hard. Thanks for your help guys, really appreciate the advice.
Author jrw93 Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 (edited) Someone PM'd me about virginity so I'll address it here. I honestly don't really care about being a virgin... probably won't ever have sex. I don't see why it's such a big deal. I've outgrown the time when my hormones raged uncontrollably. Edited May 27, 2012 by jrw93
Professor X Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Someone PM'd me about virginity so I'll address it here. I honestly don't really care about being a virgin... probably won't ever have sex. I don't see why it's such a big deal. I've outgrown the time when my hormones raged uncontrollably. No way you got a PM since you're a new member.
Author jrw93 Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 No way you got a PM since you're a new member. It was on another forum...just thought I might share it with this thread.
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