water4150 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Ladies, Have you ever led a guy on (intentionally/unitentionally) but then realize you do want to be with them after you stoped playing the "game"???? Question does relate to me b/c there was this girl that led me on unitentionally but she knows that I treat her good and that I am a good guy compared to her horrible exes.
udolipixie Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 No I've never lead a guy on then wanted to be with him after I stopped playing the game. As for treating her good and being a good guy that's likely irrelevant as many gals tend to want a guy they're attracted to who is nice not become attracted to a guy because he's nice. Similiar to how many guys want a gal who is nice but become attracted to a gal because she is nice. They're likely to be more attracted to her because she's nice as many probably wouldn't have even approached a gal they don't find attractive to be aware of her niceness.
mortensorchid Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I have never done this to anyone, at least not intentionally. THere were a few times that some said otherwise, but I immediately rebuffed them and said it was not my intention. Women who regularly do this are out to get their egos stroked. Men do it as well, you have to learn to recognize it before it's too late and then move on.
bac Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Ladies, Have you ever led a guy on (intentionally/unitentionally) but then realize you do want to be with them after you stoped playing the "game"???? Question does relate to me b/c there was this girl that led me on unitentionally but she knows that I treat her good and that I am a good guy compared to her horrible exes. Yes, I have. But, there should be some rational/practical reasons to do so. She should get some benefits from the game. I mean real, practical benefits (not sex with a guy).
Author water4150 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 Yes, I have. But, there should be some rational/practical reasons to do so. She should get some benefits from the game. I mean real, practical benefits (not sex with a guy). Can you explain what you went through please?
spiderowl Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 (edited) Being a shy person, I sometimes find I feel more comfortable and able to express myself, chat and make jokes with guys I feel are friends and not potential lovers. This has often led to them thinking I'm attracted to them or if they haven't thought that, they have tried to turn things romantic. I realise then that my natural, friendly and fun behaviour is being misinterpreted as something more. I suppose you could say in those cases that the guy might think I'd 'led him on', whereas my sister, for instance, would say I'm just being the person she knows. It does get difficult if a friend is attracted and I can well understand he might feel I had led him on. I hadn't. Ironically, feeling comfortable with a guy means that one can end up attracting friends and seeming cool and remote to guys one feels attracted to - exactly opposite to the desired effect. Do I want to be with guys who I wasn't previously attracted to? It has happened, yes, but in general there was a good reason for deciding not to take it further, some issue I know is not going to go away. If I don't fancy him, that could be one, or if I think he drinks or something or is bisexual and I'm not, these could all be reasons why I would never take it further. Edited May 26, 2012 by spiderowl
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