tallydoo Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 (edited) So here's the deal: my ex-boyfriend and I broke up almost 3 months ago after dating for a year and being really good friends for 3 years; he was worried that he didn't have the level of feelings for me that he thought he should by a year into the relationship. We both had emotional walls up because of a personal issue of mine that took until two months before we broke up to resolve. First he brought up the idea of taking a break; I counterproposed that we throw everything but the kitchen sink at our relationship to try and save it, and he accepted. So we did that for about a month, and then he decided that he couldn't take it anymore and broke it off. We tried being friends for a while (I tried to limit contact as much as I could); we went out to lunch a few times and just hung out, and it felt exactly like it used to, for both of us. We talked about getting back together, but "he'd moved on too far to try it right now", and he started dating another girl a few weeks after we broke up. I'm not sure how they stand now; I haven't made any effort to find out, and he didn't bring it up the few times we talked. He gave me the line "We can still be friends" when we broke up, and surprisingly he's actually been trying to make a friendship work. He still pulls me away from groups to talk to me and check in on my life, and he'll do me random favors without my asking. I started resenting him after a few instances of this because I wanted to heal, so I politely asked him for space and he's been respecting that. I've been trying to heal by picking up running and rock-climbing, and working on new and old friendships, and so far it's been great. I've also been open to going on dates with other guys. And here's where the sticky situation comes in: we're both standing up in a wedding soon, and the new girl will be there. If I want to try and reconcile with him at some point in the future, once I'm healed, how should I act around him if he approaches me again or asks about the "friendship break" I initiated? And do we have a shot at getting back together? Edited May 26, 2012 by tallydoo
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