AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 OK so I want to know what you people think about this idea.. I attend to a church , a really nice, open minded church its not those kind of churches where you can't even blink its really a nice one, anyway there's this girl that goes to that church sometimes and she's really nice I never talked to her and I don't know nothing about her but I sat next to her once and I noticed that she is a nice girl anyway I want to know her better so I decided to ask her out using a note but its not any note I'm trying to make it funny and original not just "yes" or "no" you know? My friend is going to deliver the note and I will get the answer. So is it a good idea or should I ask her face to face? I really don't want to do that because sometimes she is with her mom or her friends and I think it would be awkward that way. Thanks all
pteromom Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Can't you find ONE MOMENT where she isn't with her mom or friends? Before you ask her out, how about just sitting next to her a few times and talking to her? Then if you are getting along well, ask her FACE TO FACE. No note. A note is weird, and makes it so SHE has to do something awkward (either answer you face-to-face or write you a note back.) BTW - love your screen name. It made me LOL.
Author AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 Thanks for the answer! I dont know if i can find ONE MOMENT where she is alone but about sitting next to her i did it once but i just couldnt say anything i dont think that using a note is that bad i think its kind of funny but i dont know what i'll do yet.
KathyM Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Passing notes is kind of middle schoolish. I would suggest starting up a conversation, even if she is with her mother or friends, and ask her if she ever goes to (Fill in the blank, such as a school function or church function, or community or sporting event), and tell her you sometimes go and tell her maybe you'll see her out there sometime. Then tell her you're going to the next meeting (or event), and when it is. From this, she should get the message that you are interested and where to find you. If she's interested, she'll probably show up, maybe with a friend, but it's a start. Passing notes is just too indirect and juvenile, but I can understand you not wanting to ask for a date in front of the mother or girlfriends, so I would suggest letting her know about an event or meeting where you are going to be and then if she's interested, she'll show up. Or you could try contacting her on fb if you know her name.
udolipixie Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 If you've never talked to her and know nothing about her then how did you notice she was a nice girl from from the one time you sat next to her or or have you been watching her to notice she's nice? Seems more like she's pretty and I'm attracted to her so she's nice. I don't think asking a friend to deliver a note asking her out is a good idea it's probably best suited to ask her out face to face. It'll likely be more awkward if you have a friend deliver a note than if you ask her during one of the times she's with her family. Since you sat next to her then attempt to do so again.
Author AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 If you've never talked to her and know nothing about her then how did you notice she was a nice girl from from the one time you sat next to her or or have you been watching her to notice she's nice? Seems more like she's pretty and I'm attracted to her so she's nice. I don't think asking a friend to deliver a note asking her out is a good idea it's probably best suited to ask her out face to face. It'll likely be more awkward if you have a friend deliver a note than if you ask her during one of the times she's with her family. Since you sat next to her then attempt to do so again. First of all i'm not sure if she's nice or not she seems nice so i want to know her better thats all.Secondly she is not that pretty and thats not why i want to know her.
udolipixie Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I didn't state to what extent she is pretty I stated it seems like she's pretty and I'm attracted to her so she's nice. You stated 'I noticed that she is a nice girl anyway I want to know her better' nothing about she seems nice or may be nice you stated that you noticed she's nice. You know nothing about her, never talked to her, and don't know if she's nice yet it's not possible that you want to know her because she's pretty?
Author AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 Passing notes is kind of middle schoolish. I would suggest starting up a conversation, even if she is with her mother or friends, and ask her if she ever goes to (Fill in the blank, such as a school function or church function, or community or sporting event), and tell her you sometimes go and tell her maybe you'll see her out there sometime. Then tell her you're going to the next meeting (or event), and when it is. From this, she should get the message that you are interested and where to find you. If she's interested, she'll probably show up, maybe with a friend, but it's a start. Passing notes is just too indirect and juvenile, but I can understand you not wanting to ask for a date in front of the mother or girlfriends, so I would suggest letting her know about an event or meeting where you are going to be and then if she's interested, she'll show up. Or you could try contacting her on fb if you know her name. Thats actually a good idea!! there is an event where i use to go and thanks to some usefull informations i discovered she goes too. Now the problem is starting a convo/breaking the ice.
Author AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 I didn't state to what extent she is pretty I stated it seems like she's pretty and I'm attracted to her so she's nice. You stated 'I noticed that she is a nice girl anyway I want to know her better' nothing about she seems nice or may be nice you stated that you noticed she's nice. You know nothing about her, never talked to her, and don't know if she's nice yet it's not possible that you want to know her because she's pretty? I heard some talking between her and her friends and thats what called my attention i also found out her facebook page and she seems to be interesting its not because she's pretty.
udolipixie Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I heard some talking between her and her friends and thats what called my attention i also found out her facebook page and she seems to be interesting its not because she's pretty. So that answers my question of how did you notice she was nice from the one time you sat next to her or have you been watching her.
oaks Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Now the problem is starting a convo/breaking the ice. How about start with "Hello". She'll say "hi". You say "I'm AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR" and if she doesn't tell you her name you say "What's your name?" Then she tells you her name. You say "Nice to meet you." That's probably all you can cope with for one meeting, if you were really thinking of passing notes, so leave it there or maybe say "See you next week". Also, start saving for a ladder so that you can get her down from that pedestal without breaking her.
Author AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 How about start with "Hello". She'll say "hi". You say "I'm AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR" and if she doesn't tell you her name you say "What's your name?" Then she tells you her name. You say "Nice to meet you." That's probably all you can cope with for one meeting, if you were really thinking of passing notes, so leave it there or maybe say "See you next week". Also, start saving for a ladder so that you can get her down from that pedestal without breaking her. "Also, start saving for a ladder so that you can get her down from that pedestal without breaking her." You lost my respect with that one i mean really? was it necessary?
oaks Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 "Also, start saving for a ladder so that you can get her down from that pedestal without breaking her." You lost my respect with that one i mean really? was it necessary? Well, you've convinced yourself that she's a really nice girl but you've never even spoken to her. You don't know her (although it does seem that you've stalked her on facebook). You'll be less nervous about talking to her for the very first time when you take her down off that pedestal and realise that she's just a person like everybody else.
Author AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 Well, you've convinced yourself that she's a really nice girl but you've never even spoken to her. You don't know her (although it does seem that you've stalked her on facebook). You'll be less nervous about talking to her for the very first time when you take her down off that pedestal and realise that she's just a person like everybody else. Lol are you calling me a stalker? The reason i'm nervous its because i was born with something called introversion/shyness can your brain understand that?
oaks Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 The reason i'm nervous its because i was born with something called introversion/shyness can your brain understand that? Sorry to hear that. Just start simple with "hello", and a smile, and see how she responds.
sid3 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 "Also, start saving for a ladder so that you can get her down from that pedestal without breaking her." You lost my respect with that one i mean really? was it necessary? Haha that's the funniest thing I've read on here in weeks. I think he gave you some good advice. But yeah, definitely don't do the note, unless you want to chase her around the playground after church.
veggirl Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Hey, the reason the note is not a good idea is because...then what? You give her the note, and what is she supposed to do? Write back? Approach you? I can see why you'd think it's a cute idea (I assume you are both very young), but it just doesn't work out logistically. It's putting the ball WAY too much in her court, when you should be taking the lead. It's putting the pressure on her to "make a move" if she is interested. I think you should say hi, introduce yourself to her and whoever she happens to be hanging around with, and then continue interacting with her when you see her, continue saying hi, ask how her week was, ask what she does for fun on weekends, etc.
Author AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 Hey, the reason the note is not a good idea is because...then what? You give her the note, and what is she supposed to do? Write back? Approach you? I can see why you'd think it's a cute idea (I assume you are both very young), but it just doesn't work out logistically. It's putting the ball WAY too much in her court, when you should be taking the lead. It's putting the pressure on her to "make a move" if she is interested. I think you should say hi, introduce yourself to her and whoever she happens to be hanging around with, and then continue interacting with her when you see her, continue saying hi, ask how her week was, ask what she does for fun on weekends, etc. After that she should write back on the same note but you know what i have no idea about what i'm going to do. Thats all.
nessaaa Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 rolls my fkin eyes! control ur dick. why are u focusing on some girl while attening chruch. damn, a girl can't even attend church in peace.
Author AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 rolls my fkin eyes! control ur dick. why are u focusing on some girl while attening chruch. damn, a girl can't even attend church in peace. You dont even know me so you shouldnt judge me i want to know her because i want to be her friend i dont want to get in her pants, you fail.
Author AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 OP, are you my ex's 13 year old brother? I'm not 13
Author AwKwarD_VelociRaptoR Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 Oh goodie - yet another trumped up 'disorder' label created by shrinks to slap on people. It never ends. OP, you have a total of 10 posts to your name. Take it down a few notches and show a little more respect to the longtime posters here. Amazing that you have such a debilitating "disorder" that you have to pass a freakin NOTE to someone in church like a third grader, yet you think nothing of typing an obnoxious reply like the one I quoted above. Another person that lost their precious time coming here without helping at all. Whatever. Next time try to help instead of judging someone you dont even know
udolipixie Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 You dont even know me so you shouldnt judge me i want to know her because i want to be her friend i dont want to get in her pants, you fail. So you want to ask her out as your friend not a potential romantic/sexual partner?
oaks Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 i want to know her because i want to be her friend i dont want to get in her pants, By posting in the Dating forum, perhaps you can imagine why people who responded did so with the assumption that you were interested in being more than just friends with this woman. If you want to be friends with her, start by having a friendly conversation. Begin with a greeting and a smile, not a missive. Good luck!
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