pharrigan210 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Are There Degrees Of Erectile Dysfunction? I'm been in a relationship for about a year. Intercourse is a real challenge. However, I am able to "finish" from oral. This confuses me because I always believed that Erectile Dysfuction meant you can't get an erection. But if i can "finish" from oral, I can clearly get an erection. Right? I had a girl friend right before this and this was NOT an issue Here's one oother thing to consider. She was in a serious accident four years ago. Broken pelvis! Almost died! outta work for a year. first time we had intercourse she was almost in tears, saying "i never thought i would be able to do that again." on the other hand, there were times she complained that i was hurting her just with my hand. so here are my questions: 1. could a really bad injury to the pelvis affect her abiltiy to have intercouse for years to come? 2. she shied away from intercourse alot in the beginning. content with oral - both ways. i think that was because of her injury and because of her fear. could that have gotten into my head? somehow since we initially never got too far in attepting intercouse, lead to believe that "i can't" and now my inabilities are in my mind. 3. is it possible to achieve an erection and finish from oral, but not be able to maintain an erection to have intercourse? 4. worth asking a doctor about? I don't want to take a medication, if i don't really need it and then i woulc become dependent on it. 5. additional interpretatations???
pteromom Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 1. could a really bad injury to the pelvis affect her abiltiy to have intercouse for years to come? DEFINITELY. 2. she shied away from intercourse alot in the beginning. content with oral - both ways. i think that was because of her injury and because of her fear. could that have gotten into my head? somehow since we initially never got too far in attepting intercouse, lead to believe that "i can't" and now my inabilities are in my mind. Definitely possible. 3. is it possible to achieve an erection and finish from oral, but not be able to maintain an erection to have intercourse? Sure. If you are worried that you are hurting her, or if you have strong memories of hurting her through intercourse, it makes sense that you would not remain turned on doing it. 4. worth asking a doctor about? I don't want to take a medication, if i don't really need it and then i woulc become dependent on it. Rather than starting with a doctor, I would start with trying to adjust your sexual routines. Do oral on her and get her REALLY REALLY turned on. Then try intercourse while she is really turned on. If you can talk to her ahead of time and explain why you think it may be happening, maybe she can even help out with moaning more. See if it makes a difference when you KNOW she is enjoying it. If you start going soft, stop moving but stay inside her, and just kiss her. See if making out makes you hard again. If not, just stop intercourse, and go back to something else. When she is doing oral on you, wait until you are REALLY REALLY close to coming, then jump on her and try to finish (she should know about this upfront). See if you can do it. I'd get her on board with trying to solve the issue before going to a doctor. Since you can stay hard and come through oral, it is obviously NOT a physical issue, but a psychological one.
SoMovinOn Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Well, the good news is, if it works, it works. For the record, a guy can "finish" without ever getting an erection, so the question is only one of getting an erection or not. It seems like fear of hurting her is the most likely cause. Go ahead and talk to a doctor, get some pills. You can probably use a very low dose, and maybe even cut those in half. They are not addictive or habit forming. They *will* likely help your performance, and therefore, help you get over your psychological blocks. Maybe you only need to do that a few times.
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