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Really like this guy, I think he might like me back.. but our friend is between us.

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Okay I'll try to keep this as short as I can.

 

I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks, just as friends. We talk about.. well everything and we don't get tired of it or run out of things to talk about. Then there's my.. friend. That's kinda shaky for a couple reasons. 1) when she was going to spend the weekend with me, she faked sick and went "home".. I.e. to see her boyfriend. (All these people live out of town.) And 2) I've recently heard that she would say stuff about me when I'd leave the room. Not sure if it's true. But I know she's always in drama with somebody. :/ before this we were really close now we're ehh.

 

Okay so when I first starting talking more frequently to this guy (we knew each other before but didn't talk much), I added him on facebook. I commented on one of his pictures and said "soo cute with long hair". My friend messaged me and said "So you think he's cute?"

Then proceeded to talk about how long she's known him, how alike they are, how much she's the best person for him to talk to, etc. One thing though... she has a BOYFRIEND.

she recently moved out of her parents house and in with our mutual friend, and she posts on his wall on FB, "your adopted sister"... but I keep sensing a vibe of possessiveness.

The other day I was over at his house when she wasn't there. He asked if he had a bruise on his neck.. then said she bit him. Apparently she does stuff like that often. I told him to be careful because she lives there now and her bf is always there.. so getting involved with her is a bad idea. I also confided in him my suspicions of not being able to trust her. And that she cheats on every guy she dates... :/ she really does. And she always has a boyfriend. ALWAYS.

 

I think it helped a little with his confusion.

I've seen him every day this week :) I really like him. But I don't know what to do. I'm afraid she'll sabotage any chance I have with him or possibly.. steal him. If I do get to be with him. I don't think he's that way but he's a guy. And she likes to wear tank tops.. I do not. So her boobs are all over the place.

Today when I saw him I said You're the only person over here I REALLY feel comfortable around 100% of the time. He said "Yeah me too". Holy crap :)

And um idk if this would mean anything but yesterday when my friend and that guy were all in the same room, well I just walked in and he said to me, You have a big ass. O.o in front of her. Hmmm.

 

Soooo any advice would be great..

Sorry it was long lol.

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This "friend" of yours is a drama queen. Not sure if she would actively sabotage a relationship between you and this guy, but if you get the impression she is starting to do that, talk to your guy - as long as you are aware of what is going on, it will be easier to deal with.

 

Not sure how to read that comment when you walked into the room, other than it not being too classy (the comment itself can both be a good and a bad thing about though). In all likelihood your friend provoked the comment.

 

I'd say try to cut out the time you spend with your "friend", and enjoy your time with the new guy.

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I had a friend who was the exact same way. Always the center of attention, had to make sure she came first to every guy in the world, etc. She's ridiculous and absolute bat **** crazy.

 

Me and her had a friend named J and me and him started getting really close one summer. Rewind to winter of the previous year, he started working with her at a local restaurant and every day she would tell me how annoying she thought he was, how he sucked at his job, she hated him, etc. (extreme anger issues, obviously) Well, I just shrugged it off because that's just how she was, but that summer when she found out I had kissed him, she flipped OUT. She told me "YOU KNEW I LIKED HIM!" and "He and I had a past!" I was blindsided. Why would I ever think that crazy bitch liked him when all she did was talk about the hate she had for him? And no, they NEVER had a past. She called him EVERY DAY after finding out about us, trying to get him to like her instead of me. This was when I told her to shove it and I quit talking to her.

 

So yeah, she may try to ruin this relationship for you. She also may tell you that she likes him, just so you'll back off. Does she live closer to him than you and does she spend more time with him? Because if she does, I would almost advise you to count your losses and move on, but if you see him just as much as her or more then I'd tell her to kindly screw off if she starts invading your personal time with him.

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I had a friend who was the exact same way. Always the center of attention, had to make sure she came first to every guy in the world, etc. She's ridiculous and absolute bat **** crazy.

 

Me and her had a friend named J and me and him started getting really close one summer. Rewind to winter of the previous year, he started working with her at a local restaurant and every day she would tell me how annoying she thought he was, how he sucked at his job, she hated him, etc. (extreme anger issues, obviously) Well, I just shrugged it off because that's just how she was, but that summer when she found out I had kissed him, she flipped OUT. She told me "YOU KNEW I LIKED HIM!" and "He and I had a past!" I was blindsided. Why would I ever think that crazy bitch liked him when all she did was talk about the hate she had for him? And no, they NEVER had a past. She called him EVERY DAY after finding out about us, trying to get him to like her instead of me. This was when I told her to shove it and I quit talking to her.

 

So yeah, she may try to ruin this relationship for you. She also may tell you that she likes him, just so you'll back off. Does she live closer to him than you and does she spend more time with him? Because if she does, I would almost advise you to count your losses and move on, but if you see him just as much as her or more then I'd tell her to kindly screw off if she starts invading your personal time with him.

 

 

She lives with him. So yeah she sees him more. And I'm pretty sure she sleeps in the same room as him, if not the same bed. But I think he was going to tell her that it's not just friendly anymore and she needs to stop.

Idk :/ I rarely like somebody this much. It'd be easier if she was psycho like your old friend but idk.

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This "friend" of yours is a drama queen. Not sure if she would actively sabotage a relationship between you and this guy, but if you get the impression she is starting to do that, talk to your guy - as long as you are aware of what is going on, it will be easier to deal with.

 

Not sure how to read that comment when you walked into the room, other than it not being too classy (the comment itself can both be a good and a bad thing about though). In all likelihood your friend provoked the comment.

 

I'd say try to cut out the time you spend with your "friend", and enjoy your time with the new guy.

 

I'm not sure either about the comment. A guy friend of mine told me he was checking me out but idk how to take it. Could've been to get her away from him? O.o

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She lives with him. So yeah she sees him more. And I'm pretty sure she sleeps in the same room as him, if not the same bed. But I think he was going to tell her that it's not just friendly anymore and she needs to stop.

Idk :/ I rarely like somebody this much. It'd be easier if she was psycho like your old friend but idk.

 

Whoa whoa whoa..

 

She LIVES with him and possibly SLEEPS with him? Why the hell are you interested? That's weird and it is very stupid of you for getting your feelings involved.

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She lives with him. So yeah she sees him more. And I'm pretty sure she sleeps in the same room as him, if not the same bed.

If that is the case, you should expect a lot of drama if you pursue this. Better to cut your losses and move on then.

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I meant the mutual friend was the guy I like :/ not someone else. She actually lives with him. It's been a week now and she's already being like this.

she also takes his phone and posts on his facebook, saying how awesome she is and how much he loves her.. she even texts me from his phone, weird things. So I'm afraid of talking to him through technology!!

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Whoa whoa whoa..

 

She LIVES with him and possibly SLEEPS with him? Why the hell are you interested? That's weird and it is very stupid of you for getting your feelings involved.

 

I didn't know..

and not SEX. I don't even think they kiss. Someone made a comment about him "going to sleep next to her". If it was the case then everyone would know Bc there's always lots of people there.

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I didn't know..

and not SEX. I don't even think they kiss. Someone made a comment about him "going to sleep next to her". If it was the case then everyone would know Bc there's always lots of people there.

 

So what? I don't care what you think you know..you do NOT have the full story. Her talking to your through his phone is immature and a sure sign that she will always be around if you guys are together. She is trying to push you away and I'd move on. It's not worth it and you will lose.

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I meant the mutual friend was the guy I like :/ not someone else. She actually lives with him. It's been a week now and she's already being like this.

she also takes his phone and posts on his facebook, saying how awesome she is and how much he loves her.. she even texts me from his phone, weird things. So I'm afraid of talking to him through technology!!

Definitely don't do anything through technology then. It seems he really does not maintain healthy boundaries in this friendship with this girl, and that is a huge red flag.

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I think he was in her "friendzone", but now that it looks like something may blossom between you two, she's suddenly had a pang of jealousy. Happens......

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I think this entire situation is super weird and you should run far away from it. Do you seriously want to get involved with a guy who a) lives with another girl, and b) SHARES A BED WITH HER?! Even if they are doing it as "friends" (which btw I have never in my life met a guy and girl who regularly sleep in the same bed "as friends" and aren't having sex. Come on..)

 

He is obviously getting something out of sleeping in the same bed with her. I'm sure he enjoys her flirtations and attention during the day, and probably much more than that at night. He also has NO boundaries with the opposite sex if he is willing to share a bed with a girl who has a boyfriend!

 

And also, he sounds like kind of a douche. You walk into a room and he randomly says "you have a big ass"? Really? You should have told him he IS a big ass. He and she both sound super immature and I don't know why you are even thinking about getting involved with him.

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Lol they're not sleeping in the same bed or room... totally got that wrong o.o

and lot has happened the past few days but the gist of it is... she definitely was trying to keep him from me, tried to run me off, tried to turn his mom against me... but he told me he liked me :) we went swimming in a lake and spent hours talking... I got the sleeping in the same bed thing totally wrong. Whew. And the most they've done is kiss. If they slept together I wouldn't even bother. But no :3

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