housebunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Maybe the typical blonde sterotype, but I work hard to keep myself fit and put together. I'm a size 4, and have modeled [all legit!], college educated...I'm not proud, and most people categorize me as a sweet person. Are there any reasons you would ignore a girl like me coming on to you?
Art_Critic Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Yeah.. a poor personality.. looks aren't everything 4
Author housebunny Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 So does that mean that men have automatic opinions that if a woman is decent looking that her personality must be poor? I was actually referring to body language and eye contact, awkwardness, and patterns of behavior that go on before you decide to talk to her.
Professor X Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 So does that mean that men have automatic opinions that if a woman is decent looking that her personality must be poor? I was actually referring to body language and eye contact, awkwardness, and patterns of behavior that go on before you decide to talk to her. How did you go down from a hot blonde to decent looking? Anyway, I am sure men don't ignore you, it's just that those you're interested in do. Even average looking girls get hit on, on a daily basis, so you probably just write them off as creeps or whatnot.
coltsfan1 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Send me a pic and I can decide for myself But to be honest I have to agree with art critic and professor X. It is about how you approach a man and what men you choose to approach. I like a gal to just come talk to me, share a laugh, then let me direct the situation from there. How are you approaching these men? If you truly are VERY attractive some guys even confident ones could be caught off guard. Its not every day a sexy little blonde approaches a guy ya know.
Radu Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 (edited) Maybe the typical blonde sterotype, but I work hard to keep myself fit and put together. I'm a size 4, and have modeled [all legit!], college educated...I'm not proud, and most people categorize me as a sweet person. Are there any reasons you would ignore a girl like me coming on to you? If i was in a relationship, i would notice you ... admire your body ... and move on. If we started talking in this situation, i would seem keep tabs on my feelings, and try to find your weaknesses and blow them out of proportion in my head ... this is to stop me from ever getting into an EA. If i was single, i would ignore you if i thought you were out of my league. The old me would have did this out of shyness. I would also ignore you, regardless of your qualifications and 'qualifications' if i saw a character trait i didn't like at all. While i do enjoy the ocasion to stroke your ego in this thread, why don't you speak more of this situation of yours. PS: A few weeks ago i was looking at this hot redhead, and was looking for a way to break the ice 'approaching her', when i noticed that she keeps checking her make-up while shopping for veggies. I looked closer, and started to see the extra make-up she had on a Saturday morning grocery shopping. I also saw different status symbols, hand gestures and looks she gave that spelled 'i'm awesome'. So i went in, guns blazing ... chatted with the salesgirl, and left. Personality can shine quite easily through body language. Edited May 25, 2012 by Radu
anne1707 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Why would you be coming on to men when you are married?
Tart Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 You would be surprised how many guys are intimidated by hot girls. Guys could see you being out of their league and to afraid to approach you. Personality is big too, I have talked to girls that where georgous for about 5 minutes then I had to walk away due to bad personality. 1
Author housebunny Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 I'm not coming on to men, I've never talked to anyone besides my husband. I noticed someone strongly coming on to me, and have been waiting for them to approach me [so that I can reject them] to get over with the awkward situation so that I can not feel anxious everytime I go to this place. I mind my own business.
Author housebunny Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 Why would you be coming on to men when you are married? Reading your comment made me re-examine myself, as far as, What am I doing, How did I let myself get to this place, etc...I appreciate it. I need to get back to my goals and stop letting things that don't matter, matter to me. I'm glad I experienced this feeling, like a pit in the stomach, now, before I did anything stupid or hurtful. Thanks.
PegNosePete Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I noticed someone strongly coming on to me, and have been waiting for them to approach me [so that I can reject them] That makes you a bitch. 1
wheream_i Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 That makes you a bitch. Thank you. Wonder if her husband knows what he married.
make me believe Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 So because you consider yourself a stereotypical hot blonde, you expect that any guy you glance over at is going to rush right over to hit on you or something? Uh, ok. A lot of guys aren't into the typical "hot blonde" look, so... there's that. And then there's the fact that apparently you are married, and presumably wearing a wedding ring, which most guys get used to looking for once they hit their mid-20s. Perhaps you should take the time & energy you're spending contemplating why random guys aren't throwing themselves at you, and direct it towards your husband and your marriage instead.
Leigh 87 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 if you are the stero type of good looking in the blonde way - thin, small nose, nice facial feature, great teeth....big boobs.... ( the blonde bombshell way you are describing) then most guys would not bother with you, because they think your out of their league, look wise.. Some girls look so perfect - you know, literally a perfect face, perfect nose, thin, great body.... perfect teeth. Why would a guy off the street go for a girl like that, knowing the girl had LIMITLESS options? All guys would look at her and see she is very attractive; approaching her is another thing. I am big breasted with long blonde hair, and average looks - I get attention from my boobs and long blonde hair and also because I am super friendly - where as better looking people are intimidating, because they are so perfect looking.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 What does the question you asked have to do with your life? Why is posted in the cheating section? Why do you care if random men would ever ignore a hot blonde, anyway?
WhyWontYouBe Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 What does the question you asked have to do with your life? Why is posted in the cheating section? Why do you care if random men would ever ignore a hot blonde, anyway? Me gusta.!
CarboniteCammy Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 My husband goes for dark, brunette haired girls like myself, who are a bit curvy with a very pretty face. I admit, I teeter on that border line curvaceousness that tends to turns heads, regardless of who else is in the room. I may not be your cup of tea if you like uber thin women, but I will at least get your attention for a second or two. His last, serious girlfriend was brownette, but dyed her hair blonde. When they met, she had not started dying it. She was quite thin. Honestly, I thought she was a beautiful woman. She was very fit and ran half marathons. I almost didn't want to date my husband after I saw her picture! ;-) He told me that the reason he swore off blondes is that they all look alike to him (that they bore him), and that nearly all blondes seem to have a sense of entitlement that he hasn't seen in girls with darker hair. I feel that's probably a very silly sentiment, but he's not 100% rational all the time. Anyway, he would probably not approach you, just because of the hair color, but maybe also your attitude.
Chi townD Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Or....perphaps that men aren't throwing themselves at you is making you question your sex appeal? Like you're losing it or something?
nofool4u Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Maybe the typical blonde sterotype, but I work hard to keep myself fit and put together. I'm a size 4, and have modeled [all legit!], college educated...I'm not proud, and most people categorize me as a sweet person. Are there any reasons you would ignore a girl like me coming on to you? Depends on how you handle yourself. If you come off as a conceited person who thinks she is all that, yes, I'd ignore you. But if you are genuinely sweet and its obvious you aren't into yourself, all would be great.
nofool4u Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I'm not coming on to men, I've never talked to anyone besides my husband. I noticed someone strongly coming on to me, and have been waiting for them to approach me [so that I can reject them] to get over with the awkward situation so that I can not feel anxious everytime I go to this place. I mind my own business. Uh, sorry, that doesn't jive with what you wrote in your other thread here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/friends-lovers/326710-i-dont-even-know-his-name You have an attractive guy noticing you and you like it. And that in itself is not a problem. We all like to feel good about ourselves. But you aren't waiting for someone to come up to you so you can reject him. You are hoping he comes and talks to you and even said in that thread that you don't want to seem like a stalker. So now that I know what you are like, the answer to the question if there is a reason a guy would reject someone like you coming on to us it would be the fact that you are married and if you entertain disrespecting your husband, I'm not interested in a woman that likes to get her ego fed when she has a significant other already. Maybe you should show your husband your post in the other thread you started. See if he thinks he should be proud to be married to someone that is getting all giddy over another guy eyeballing you and you wanting this guy to come up and make his move. Then get back with us on how that went.
mario_C Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I have ignored hot blondes, including a truly incredibly hot blonde because I learned what she was like inside. And yes, she had an attractive personality as well - serious demeanor, sharp and direct. But she liked to play games and judge people on their status, and I don't like my heart being played with like that. I'm more of a brunette man anyway.
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