TaraTot Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I've been dating this guy for about a month now, everything was going well until I went over to his house and met his younger brother. It seemed like we instantly hit it off. I just don't know if he feels the same. I cannot stop thinking about him and smiling my face off. Yesterday, I went over and when the guy I'm seeing left the room, he was flipping rubber bands at me and we played catch. I know this sounds SO high school, but I'm seriously infatuated. We have the same sense of humor, whereas the guy I'm seeing just seems annoyed. Is this flirting or just friendliness, from a guy's POV? However, he doesn't seem to act much different when his brother is around. He still calls me nicknames around him but no flirting behavior. As soon as I started interacting with this guys brother, I knew I wasn't attracted to him like I was his younger brother. A problem about this is I've already met their mom and dad and grandparents. What do I do about this? Keep in mind, this guy is not my boyfriend officially. We just hang out about 4 times a week, and no sex. I appreciate any feedback, just please help! Does he feel the same? Or just being friendly? Should I say something to him or just let it go?
Alexanda Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I dont know if he feels the same or not, but you should say something him. Who knows what could happen? If you don't say anything you are going to wonder what had happened if you had said something.
Author TaraTot Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 Good advice. I just don't really want him freaking out and telling his brother I tried talking to him.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Don't do it. At least not until you draw a clear line with the older brother about the " relationship" the two of you have. At least friendzone the guy first. But still don't do it, blood is always thicker than water. 1
SJC2008 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 This would be a good reason for the rule of thumb where you do NOT meet someones parents until 3 months!
kaylan Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 (edited) I have to wonder your age, because I cant imagine a mature person even considering what you are. I find it extremely disrespectful to be wanting to have a go at a dates friends, let alone sibling. Bro/Girl code is strong, but brother/sister code is ten times stronger. You have no chance in all honesty. No guy would give the A-ok for somee girl hes seeing to go after his kid brother...and its extremely selfish of you in my opinion to even think about going after this. It spells drama. You obviously arent that into the older brother, so just chalk them both off, and go find a new guy and let those two go live their life. I wouldnt even advise staying friends cus I suspect youd end up trying to get somewhere with the younger brother and thats bad news. If I was dating a girl, even if her sister was super damn cool, id know better than to ever consider dating her. People should automatically know these things. Friends and family members are generally always off limits. And if I was the older brother, id be annoyed at the girl im dating flirting with my brother in front of me. So I dont blame the guy. And Im sure the younger bro is just a goofball who likes being friendly with his bros friends...dont read too much into his actions. I doubt hes trying to flirt with you, because thatd make him a dirtbag bro is he was trying to swoop in. Edited May 25, 2012 by kaylan 1
gaius Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Save him for your spank bank. Unless you want a very angry ex and a reputation. There are a billion guys out there that aren't related to your current boyfriend.
Author TaraTot Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 I'm 21. Thanks everyone. I think I'll drop them both since obviously I don't care enough about the older one.
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