Nextlane Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 (edited) To cut a long story short, I used to work with a girl in the corporate world. She was educated (university) as opposed to myself (high school dropout), we pretty much did the same role/pay - I got promoted faster than her even though I was 2 years younger/less educated. She told me that I was very attractive, but immature back then as I was somewhat a 'bad boy' and my perception on life. She used to always put me down on my 'entrepreneurial' concepts that I have explained to her (shes a realist) and argued that that education wasn't everything. 5 years have passed, I have changed myself completely in terms of maturity, education by graduating from university (personal reasons), obtaining a better (paywise/skill) job elsewhere and started up my own business which is picking up. I recently told her I liked her and she was head over heals throwing herself at me. My question is, does this girl really deserve me as she didn't consider me at my lowest and now accepts me as tables have turned? Edited May 24, 2012 by Nextlane
Alexanda Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 If she didn't like you before what you accomplished recently then forget her. Dont waste your time.
goldengirl11 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I found your comment interesting Nextlane... No technically I guess she doesn't deserve you. It's like her dumping you for another guy and then later coming back to you for another chance! So you could give things a go with her and see how it turns out, but I doubt it would feel the same for YOU.
Author Nextlane Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 Thanks for all your comments. I've made a decision to not bother, even though she wasn't really a gold digger or reckless with money - but has strong family values. I need someone who would love me for who I am, not what I am.
stillwater Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I need someone who would love me for who I am, not what I am. Maybe she does like you for who you are now, and didn't before. You yourself said you changed a lot about yourself.
serial muse Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 (edited) Yeah, I don't know...I don't like that she "put you down" at all, that's usually a sign of someone you don't want to get involved with. That said...you did say that she found you attractive back then, but told you you weren't mature enough for her - and you yourself said that you've now changed a great deal in terms of maturity. And also in terms of education, which she also told you back then was something she was looking for. So I guess what I'm saying is, she told you what she was looking for in a guy - you weren't it then, but you are now. So that part really shouldn't be much of a surprise, right? At least she's consistent. I don't think it necessarily means she can't love you for who you are; it could just mean that you were at different stages in life, and now you're at similar stages. Sometimes that's what it takes for people to get together and have a healthy relationship. Timing does matter. Still, I don't like that she put you down, that's not cool no matter what. So, nextlane her. Edited May 25, 2012 by serial muse
Jennils24 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 No you should give her a chance if you both like each other! Basically with what you said of how you were back then as now your not childish and u grew up! Your thinking she only likes u now because you made something of your self when in my opinion is she prolly liked u b4 but you were too immature 4 her
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