Magpie_x Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 ok so today is the first day of doing NC and i know i'm going to struggle, as i always ask him how he's doing (baring in mind he always replies and asks me how i am but then doesn't reply) i want to try and move on now but it's going to be hard because i love him so much,an i've never gone more than 4 days NC and please don't say hang out with friends, i'm currently home off work sick due to me burning myself out an having to be taken to hospital (the break up plays a huge part) so any advice on how to keep him off my mind, as virtually nothing i do or focus on stops me from thinking of him, an doesn't help i've just woken up from a lovely dream about him please help guys!!
ToyWithMe812 Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Can you try watching a movie, something with some substance, i.e., not "he's not that into you"...I've had a nightmare, if you want harsh advice try and think of the other girls he's with, And watch a movie with some substance, something you can focus on, TV show, whatever...think of something you can actually want to watch start to finish, may help you fall asleep.
Author Magpie_x Posted May 24, 2012 Author Posted May 24, 2012 he isn't with anyone else, i know this for a fact
Author Magpie_x Posted May 24, 2012 Author Posted May 24, 2012 and another thing i don't understand, how come if i text him asking how he is, how come he always replies and asks me how i am? he does this without fail if i get intouch,even if we've argued....obviously i'm still going to do NC
skywriter Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 (edited) Magpie X, If there is one thing I've learned the hard way in life. Is loving someone doesn't mean there going to necessarily be who or what you need them to be. If you have to ask these questions and you find yourself obsessing over this person then it probably isn't right for you. Fighting it, trying to make it so, is only putting yourself in an even worse state, as you have posted so. If your closest friend in life were doing this, what would you want to say or do to help them? Edited May 24, 2012 by skywriter Oh, and my advice, is to continue NC. 1
Author Magpie_x Posted May 24, 2012 Author Posted May 24, 2012 Magpie X, If there is one thing I've learned the hard way in life. Is loving someone doesn't mean there going to necessarily be who or what you need them to be. If you have to ask these questions and you find yourself obsessing over this person then it probably isn't right for you. Fighting it, trying to make it so, is only putting yourself in an even worse state, as you have posted so. If your closest friend in life were doing this, what would you want to say or do to help them? thank you you are so right, and somehow the penny has dropped, i don't need a low life like him 2
Nitachi Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I watched the movie "Forgetting Sarah Marshal" and it really helped me to realize that this pain that I was going through is only temporarily and that it will be filled with new love someday. Stay strong
raspberry.12 Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 I am in the same situation. I can't concentrate on anything besides missing and thinking of my ex everyday, I tried hanging out with friends, watching movies but my mind is still about him. I have no choice but is forced to do NC because he cut off all communications, even changed his number without notifying me. I am still hoping for reconciliation but from all the actions, it tells me a strong message that he will never want to contact me again. What can I do?
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