d33ee3 Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I've been dating my boyfriend for over 10 months. Around a month ago, something happened that made me upset with a friend of his. Basically, this friend asked him to go out with them, so my boyfriend said hed bring me and this friend basically tried to talk him into going without me as a guys-night type thing. I found this rude since we had plans already, and he was specifically asked not to bring me. (This issue has been resolved) The night after this happened, I had class so wasn't with him. He told me that he was home that day. There was an issue involving several of his friends getting stopped by police (for drifting, not a big deal), and they had court dates. He told me about it, and said he wasn't there, but claimed they told him about it. A week or so later, his friend that I mentioned earlier was driving my boyfriend and I somewhere, and basically told him that he should go when they had court since he was there. I asked him about it, and he said that this was for a different incident, when he was riding with another friend. This didn't make sense to me, so I looked at one friend's facebook, where he specifically said the court date was from the night my boyfriend claimed to not have been with them. I did tell him I knew. I took some time, and basically just explained to him that I did find out. I didn't get upset, but clearly told him that it wasn't okay, and that if it happened again it would be seriously damaging to our relationship. Since then, it's something that still bothers me. I do not believe it;s too big of an issue. He and I have a great relationship overall, and in most ways he is a great person. As he said, he lied to me because he thought i might be upset since I was upset with his friend. And honestly, I do take some of the blame because I might have been somewhat put off by it if I knew at the time, which I had no real reason for. I do trust him with most things, and I know he was only lying to prevent conflict. He has promised that it won't happen again. It is still bothering me occasionally, what should I do about that?
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