heatherfeather Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 My now ex has Combat PTSD...and I can't deal with it anymore. We are done! Not really sad about it just angry that I gave him another chance. Now to get my stuff back (no I won't let him just have it)...however he won't respond to exchanging our stuff.
ToyWithMe812 Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 My now ex has Combat PTSD...and I can't deal with it anymore. We are done! Not really sad about it just angry that I gave him another chance. Now to get my stuff back (no I won't let him just have it)...however he won't respond to exchanging our stuff. Kind of harsh, but I don't know your whole story. Is he still in, separated...if you know any of his friends they should help you get your stuff.
Chi townD Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Well, I can understand why you would be upset. But to be honest, I'm sure he didn't ask for combat PTSD. HOWEVER, he needs to get help with that or else he's never going to get better. Another problem is a lot of service members don't realize that they have it. Even the mild cases of it.
coltsfan1 Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I have a sibling in the service and he has done half a dozen tours, literally 3 in Irag and 3 in Aphgan. I don't know your story but if he is having these kind of issues it is VERY i,mportant that you encourage him to seek help. If he has truly seem action while serving his country then NO one that hasn't experienced that can relate. My brother has changed since being in the service, some good ways and some bad ways. Please don't do anything to intectionally cause your EX further greif, PTSD can drive a person to do things completely out of character. If you need to leave then leave tottally understandable but try not to purposefully hurt him on the way out, trust me he did NOT ask to have the emotionally issue he has now! 1
Author heatherfeather Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 (edited) Yes you all are right, you don't know my story. However, yes I have encouraged him to get help....even stood by his side while for a long time ....stringing me along playing games with me... Yes I have done my research on COMBAT PTSD...I am fully aware of all the effects. I never said I wasn't greatfull for his service to the military...hell most my family is in the military and my brother is currently in the military. Just like an alcoholic or a drug addict, you can't make someone do what they don't want to do...they have to do it on their own. They have to see their problem and why their behaviors are not normal in this world...however very normal when they were over seas on tour. You have mistaken me for blaming him for having this now...quite the opposite, what he needs to acknowledge is that he HAS it ...His dr already told him he has it along with TBI. And that is my my friends, I am just done...toast. Can't live on the roller coaster any longer. I have been very patient with this man, no I haven't gone off on him but let me assure you I am close Edited May 25, 2012 by heatherfeather additonal text
nature Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Heather, I looked back thru your old posts to try to understand further....here's one of your posts... Well after him treating me horrible and me thinking I wasn't doing enough for him with cooking, cleaning, helping him take care of his son...He says to me that "he loves me but not sure if he is in love with me." It seems you've been trying to win him back since March, but to no avail. I'm really sorry to say this, but as much as he may very well have combat PTSD, he also may be speaking the truth above in saying he doesn't know if he's in love with you. That would equate for all of his behaviours and the way he's treated you. I fear you've been holding onto him hoping it'll change and that if he gets help he'll change. but it really may be as simple as he loves you but isn't in love with you. It might be time to accept that. And let this one go. He broke up with you in March. And it wasn't the first time. Perhaps he unfortunately just doesn't have the same feelings you do for him. I'm sorry to say. We can look for every excuse in the book, or listen to the words that are straightforward said to us, as he said to you above. Hugs.
Author heatherfeather Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 (edited) Nature Yes we have been trying to work it out since March. However it wasn't untill mid April that everything about his Combat PTSD came into light. If I would have researched it more and been more aware of it way before I would have had a better understanding. also he is the one that re contacted me after he helped me with my key problem (if you read all my posts) Part of the Combat PTSD is pushing away, no ability to feel etc... This is why I am done I have gone No contact on him ...waiting till his move is over and I am getting my stuff back from him. Edited May 26, 2012 by heatherfeather
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