metalambience Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 I noticed lots of people on here hate on OLD but I'd like to share quite the opposite experience. I managed to date three girls from online dating by messaging 600 girls on four websites. Thats a 0.5% success rate. In real life I've hit on about 1,900 ( i do keep track) and managed to get a date out of one (and she wasn't even attractive/was crazy)...that's a success rate of only about 0.06% aka 99.94% chance of failure for each girl I approach. Or 10X more success online. Deleted my online profile because I ran out of girls to message, but OLD is definately legit. I really don't know why. Maybe online has lower quality men so women lower their standards. Maybe people look better in photos so girls are so quick to reject online guys / give them a chance to talk and show off their personalities. Any ideas? And it's not that I hit on girls in relationships, I don't count them in my numbers when they use the "have a boyfriend" or "am lesbian" line.
d'Arthez Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 I would not say people who use OLD have lower standards per se. You give potential dates different information to work with, compared to meeting people in real life. Your success, no matter what setting, will largely be dependent on the quality of info you provide. Whether that is a showing off a sixpack, sheer confidence, or making it clear that you both share a passion for platypuses or are shy intellectuals. Different methods work better for different people. 1
SJC2008 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 3 dates out of 600 messages? That's not lowering their standards. Kudos on your perseverance! Women typically try to date out of their league online, then get burned because that "hot guy" knows what he's doing!
HallowedBeThyName Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 U hit on 2000 girls and got one date? LOL that's absolutely horrendous 1
Author metalambience Posted May 23, 2012 Author Posted May 23, 2012 It's not as many as you think...I go for about 30 girls a night and go out three nights a week....2,000 girls is only half a year. I didn't realize how easy it is to run out of girls to hit on, I feel so sorry for all those small town folk.
Vintage79 Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I respect your perseverance, but you really need to change up your game, unless the game you like is simply hitting on girls and never seeing them...which is fine and can certainly be fun. I'm currently doing online dating - I have reached out to 6 girls cold and have had 17 write me letters first (plus 41 winks)...this is over the past 3 weeks. Of those, I've gone out with 7, and on second dates with 3. As for hitting on people in real life - well, I don't really count it as "hitting" on them, more just being nice and friendly to people. If you count the number of women I've chatted with, it's way more than 17 - and I haven't gone out with any - although, I wasn't really trying to get dates out of them...too much is going on online right. I figure once the online rush dies down, I'll be back to real life meetings. That said, I would generally say that online women have much higher (unjustified) standards than people in real life. They do, because it's so easy to get attention from so many people so quickly (same thing goes for me...it's too easy to nix them because they don't have a very specific box checked). Online women routinely nix guys that they'd be very excited to meet elsewhere. I have reasonable luck online and am pursued by plenty of women - but I'm generally considered very successful, well educated, tall, and good looking, so I come across pretty good in an online write-up.
phineas Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 It's not as many as you think...I go for about 30 girls a night and go out three nights a week....2,000 girls is only half a year. I didn't realize how easy it is to run out of girls to hit on, I feel so sorry for all those small town folk. You must live in one hell of a populated area. After 70 messages in 3 months on match I pretty much exhausted every potential on the site.
manup Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Um... wow. your success rate is incredibly low, but props for getting somewhere
ohmygoshistalk Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 (edited) 30 girls per night, i dont even see that many girls on a night out. if a girl sees u hit on someone else its kind of a turn off. gossip travels pretty fast, even among strangers..we sometimes talk about stuff or overhear about it in the restroom that could be a factor that u got turned down. Edited May 24, 2012 by ohmygoshistalk
Author metalambience Posted May 24, 2012 Author Posted May 24, 2012 30 girls per night, i dont even see that many girls on a night out. if a girl sees u hit on someone else its kind of a turn off. gossip travels pretty fast, even among strangers..we sometimes talk about stuff or overhear about it in the restroom that could be a factor that u got turned down. It's a good point...I try to be smart about it - like hit on no more than ten girls at a bar before moving and switching out my shirt half way through the night and blending in. I always thought girls get hit on so many times they don't remember you. That's definitely not the case
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