cra2039 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 me and my girlfriend of 3 years now are reaching what could be the end. throughout the 3 years, we have had long distance stints woven in, and we are currently on our second one. she was still engaged to her x when i started seeing her, and she later told me she had cheated on him multiple time....but it was different with me. naturally i wanted her to cut ties with all the dudes she had cheated with (which was a lot) and she didnt seem to have a problem with it. theres more....during our first time apart, she made friends with another guy around her age, and they started hanging out more and more until it got to the point were my friends, and co-workers i didnt even know were emailing me telling me she was messing around, and even told me at one point she had hikki's on her neck. i asked about her neck and she said it was from perfume....and she refused to stop seeing the guy saying i should trust her more. we got over that....fast forward a year and i'm on a trip to miami. she ignored my calls on multiple occasions, when i got back i found out she had ignored my calls because she was hanging out with yet another guy, this time i read text messages and she had gone to his house at 3am on multiple nights "just to talk". we get over THAT......now, im gone and she wants to break up because i dont support her being friends with guys she's cheated with in the past. after all we have overcome, i feel like ending it on this note especially while im gone is a slap in the face, along with the many other's i've gotten over the past 3 years. should this be something i bend to yet again? or cut my many loses and move on....? thanks for any advice
d'Arthez Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Cut your losses and move on. Even in the best case scenario, she does not maintain reasonable boundaries. You should not have to ask her to do so in the first place. In the worst case scenario, you may even have received a couple of free STDs.
Tiera D Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 your just one among her many toys..my ex did that to me once i had to check the guard house record to know she went out with that dickhead until 1 am,claims that he is helping her search things,giving very lame excuses not to see me,hanging out with that guy like 3 times a week while saying she cant meet me because her mum wont let her,people like this only 2 words to describe Cheap+unpaid prostitute..drop her n go NC dude 3 yrs is enough TD
Reddice Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 she was still engaged to her x when i started seeing her, and she later told me she had cheated on him multiple time....but it was different with me. No offense, but are you really that gullible??? As far as I'm concerned, you got what you deserved for dating this woman.
EmergenC Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Don't listen to the "just friends" tag she's given these guys. She has absolutely no respect for boundaries. It's going to be hard but you need to walk away from this with your head held high. Maintain dignity, go cold NC on her.
Gulf-Delta Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 No offense, but are you really that gullible??? As far as I'm concerned, you got what you deserved for dating this woman. Why? I could see you point if she emptied his bank accounts and ran, or some other equally nasty thing, but grow up dude.
Reddice Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Why? I could see you point if she emptied his bank accounts and ran, or some other equally nasty thing, but grow up dude. Dude... she was engaged when she started dating him! She had cheated on her fiancee several times! And he still believed her??? That's just wrong on so many levels. He shouldn't have started anything with her in the first place while she was engaged. What goes around comes around.
Author cra2039 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 noted, i didnt know she was engaged when we first got together until recently*
Tiera D Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 she has watermelon balls to tell u that she cheated on her ex multiple times,she seemed not even slightly guilty minded.cannot believe how could u have trusted her..Emphasis on the words Cheated,Engaged,Multiple times TD
Author cra2039 Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 i had never really brought any of this up to friends, seems kinda embarrassing, even more so now that i'm gone and she felt the need to rekindle old contacts with the same people. thanks for assuring me i wasnt the crazy one here
Tiera D Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 some people has the ability to to plant lies in ur mind and convince u to believe it..ur ex is among those..ur not crazy u just lack the experience move on bro TD
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