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Fights are getting worse rather than better, but love is there!


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I really need some help with this so all replies and comments are welcome. Me and this girl were friends for about 5 months. I met her through one of my buddies whom she was dating at the time. After about 3 months of them being apart we started to talk and went out a few times, dates, hanging out, just stuff over a span of a month. Well it turns out she had a crush on me since her and my friend got together but never said anything to me. I always had the hotts for her anyway but never really could see her with me.

 

Well we ended up that we got together and things were going great in the beginning. I had known her now for about 7 months so the transaction from freinds to lovers was a smooth one. I mean really great, better than any relationship I'd ever been in or been around. We fell for each other quick and soon was overcome with love for one another. We never fought or argued and we always respected one another.

 

Here's where it gets rough though--we both have a problem with abondonment/trust because of parents that left the family when we were younger. With her it was her Dad and she seems to always think I'm going to up and leave her and the drop of a hat, the same way he did her and his wife. With me it was my mother and I've had really bad trust issues ever since, thinking that the person I was with was always out doing what I witnessed my mom doing as she drug me around with her while she was cheating on my dad.

 

I love this girl very much, more than I can even explain in this post and leaving her has never crossed my mind. We began to discuss marriage and the oppurtunity to start a family of our own one day. As we grew closer these thoughts and dreams seemed more and more realistic. But now because of a fight which was never resolved a month ago we continue to pull further and further apart, both of us doubting one another. We still want to be together more than anything but it seems these last couple of weeks have just made things so rough that we can't seem to fix the problem now. We reminded each other of our "deserting" parents that night so much that we are now afraid to move on to the next step. Fearing the abondonment that we think we'll come after marriage; like with our parents.

 

PLEASE HELP!! What should we do, what should I do or say? I feel as if there really isn't much time left before this turns into a disaster. Thanks for reading my post and please write back.

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Sweetheart......the SAME exact think is going on w/ me and my BF....we fight a lot but we don't want to leave each other. But we still fight over the same issue. I wanted to subscribe to this post so i can hear the advice....dont worry I'm in the same boat.

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