mossman Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Hi there. I'm 26 and I have just come out of a 6 year relationship. I'm trying to meet new girls but not having much luck. Over the past 4 months I have been chatting with the waitress at a cafe where I get my coffee. I usually go there 3-4 times a week. Anyway, we seem to get on really well. We laugh a lot and share a number of interests in common. Last week I sat down to have a coffee and some food, and after an hour or so (I was reading the paper) she brought me a second coffee "on the house". So I took this as a sign and, upon leaving, I gave her my number and asked for hers, which she gave happily. The next day I texted her and we exchanged a few messages with light chit-chat. I asked her if she wanted to grab a drink sometime, and she didn't respond. That was a week ago. I thought maybe she was freaked out. So I left her a voicemail the next day saying, look dont get the wrong impression, I'm cool with whatever. Anyway, she texted back the day after saying that she was really keen to catch up for a drink or dinner and that she's really busy at the moment finishing her job and moving apartments. She suggested next weekend and then said "looking forward to seeing you xx" So since then I saw her at work a couple of times, to which we had another light chat. I left a text message and tried calling this week and no response. I'm not sure if she is blowing me off, or if she is genuinely busy, or if there is something that I did... why would she ignore me instead of just saying outright that she has changed her mind?
sid3 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 She doesn't sound interested, my guess is she's an attention whore.
gaius Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 I'm not sure if she is blowing me off, or if she is genuinely busy, or if there is something that I did... why would she ignore me instead of just saying outright that she has changed her mind? She didn't change her mind, you misinterpreted her friendly gesture. Then stuck her in the uncomfortable position of rejecting a regular paying customer. So now she's pretending to be busy instead of insulting you to your face by saying it out loud. 1
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 She didn't change her mind, you misinterpreted her friendly gesture. Then stuck her in the uncomfortable position of rejecting a regular paying customer. So now she's pretending to be busy instead of insulting you to your face by saying it out loud. How is asking a woman out on a date putting her in an uncomfortable position? If she didn't want a date she shouldn't have exchanged phone numbers.
filani Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 @ Mossman Listen dude , this might be hard for you to hear but the fact is you read too much into a simple gesture. When a waitress gives you an extra cup of cofee and tells you " it's on the house" then that's exactly what it means , NOTHING MORE ! It's like that saying " you know what happens when you assume ? You make an @ss out of 'u' and me " This is exactly what happened to you. Here's a rule for you to follow , don't chase/make moves on women who "drop hints/signs" . A woman who is really into you will have no problems being upfront about wanting a date with you, she doesn't waste your time making you guess or assume Now you tell me , doesn't this sound better than the scenario in your original post? . .
truth_seeker Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 I think she had interest but changed her mind. Now she is trying to be nice as you're a regular customer. I would back off and even stop going into the cafe for a bit. She will wonder what happened to you and will probably contact you.
filani Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 I think she had interest but changed her mind. Now she is trying to be nice as you're a regular customer. I would back off and even stop going into the cafe for a bit. She will wonder what happened to you and will probably contact you. @ truthseeker I disagree , why the hell should HE stop going to the cofee place because of HER 'wonky' behavior ? And as for the part about her contacting him if he doesn't show up for a spell at the cofee place , given what the OP has described about her antics ,that will probably happen when pigs learn to fly I'm not holding my breath ..... Are you ?
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