Woggle Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Women do you make the seperation in your head or is it possible to look at a man as both a loving and faithful partner and a sexual lover? 2
udolipixie Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Whether a guy can be good BF material and still turn a gal on sexually depends on the gal. Though I know few guys who are both much less want to be the former. Some gals do make the separation of loving/faithful partner and sexual lover in their head. Some gals don't.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Of course. What does your wife think about this?
ThaWholigan Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 This is not some unreachable star, it's quite simple, even for a retard.
Author Woggle Posted May 23, 2012 Author Posted May 23, 2012 I am just posing this question since in another thread a poster clearly says her and a woman she knows can't see a man as both.
Pyro Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Women do you make the seperation in your head or is it possible to look at a man as both a loving and faithful partner and a sexual lover? instead of asking women via the internet,ask women in real life. Ask your wife for starters. 1
quankanne Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 I say yes, but it takes a special man to hit on all levels. And when you find him, you cherish him. I think many women with a healthy outlook on love and relationships feel this way, too ... when you think about it, there's something very satisfying about being with someone you're interested in, who physically and sexually "turns you on" who you like as a person, too. 2
ThaWholigan Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Does she really say that? The only thing I can think of is really that being a good boyfriend shouldn't exclude being a sexually attractive, seductive lover who knows how to make her think racy thoughts, make her hot just by saying a few words or looking at her a certain way. Any guy can do this stuff. Find a woman who you're compatible with (you've done this already). Find all the different ways you can turn her on, physically, mentally and emotionally. Standard procedure I would think? I'm a ****ing virgin and even I know this stuff..... 2
Author Woggle Posted May 23, 2012 Author Posted May 23, 2012 That other thread is closed so let me say my piece in this. You guys know I will probably never do anything to put my marriage in danger but some of the things I read really really ticked me off and I am glad I have this board to vent. 1
quankanne Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 a poster clearly says her and a woman she knows can't see a man as both ahhh! I'm guessing that they're used to compartmentalizing their life ... did that in college with the guys I knew and who I dated, and it wasn't until I met my husband that I could see him as both. LOL, and that's how I knew 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 If I did not fine a man sexually attractive, NO WAY would he be boyfriend material for me. Friend material is what he'd be, if I liked him. 2
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 What does your wife think about this? Well???? I mean, wouldn't what your wife thinks be more pertinent than what 2 (supposed) women on the Internet are posting? If they really even posted that?
Pyro Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 That other thread is closed so let me say my piece in this. You guys know I will probably never do anything to put my marriage in danger but some of the things I read really really ticked me off and I am glad I have this board to vent. Stop reading it?
january2011 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 is it possible to look at a man as both a loving and faithful partner and a sexual lover? Yes [ten characters]
fitgirl Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Women do you make the seperation in your head or is it possible to look at a man as both a loving and faithful partner and a sexual lover? my husband is. i'm a workout fanatic. he's not. he actually weighs 260 pounds. he has the best sense of humor and personality, has a good job. as for the sex, far above any other guy i've even been with. so there. 2
Mrlonelyone Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 That depends on the woman. A mature woman will not see those things as being separable. Being able to satisfy in bed is part of being a good SO. (It's one of the major points of having a SO). 4
Lonely Ronin Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 That depends on the woman. A mature woman will not see those things as being separable. Being able to satisfy in bed is part of being a good SO. (It's one of the major points of having a SO). I think it's the same way for a mature man as well. I know I could never be with a woman who wasn't both. 1
fitgirl Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Whether a guy can be good BF material and still turn a gal on sexually depends on the gal. Though I know few guys who are both much less want to be the former. Some gals do make the separation of loving/faithful partner and sexual lover in their head. Some gals don't. gals can when they get past the teenage years except for the super immature.
Mrlonelyone Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 There is some truth to the idea that women do look at men differently. There are numerous studies which have shown that women prefer one kind of man when they are ovulating and another kind when they are not. When ovlulating, and most likely to get pregnant, they prefer a man with more robust masculine features. When not ovulating, and not likely to get pregnant, they prefer a less masculine male. One kind of man to make the babies with, and another to raise them. I did not just make that up. Also notice the other ways that a womans hormonal state can change how she acts. The difference is mature women control these things with the thinking part of their brains and don't just go on hormones and instincts like a teenager. 1
threebyfate Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 My husband is a faithful, loving and caring man who's my best friend. He's also scorching HAWT! Neither my first, second or third pregnancies were created by immaculate conception. 1
ohmygoshistalk Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 of course if hes great in bed i dont see the problem!
udolipixie Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 gals can when they get past the teenage years except for the super immature. What is 'gals can when they get past the teenage years except for the super immature' in reference to from my quote?
Els Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Short response: Sure it's possible. Long response: Sure it's possible.
kaylan Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Women do you make the seperation in your head or is it possible to look at a man as both a loving and faithful partner and a sexual lover? Id say its different for every man and woman depending on the variety of people they meet. Everyone is different, and for some folks, a person may only be suitable to them as a sexual fling, and another person may be more suited as relationship material but lacking some of the raw energy of the sexual fling. It depends on the people involved. Then there are people we meet who tick both boxes...and the thing is, you must realize how rare it is to find great sex. Its as rare as finding great love. But its possible and does happen that each of these can create the other, no? We see people develop emotional attachments to a FWB, and we also see people create great sex due to their emotional bond to their partner. I do think many men and women believe that you can have both in a mate. But the problem is that people often times get complacent and lazy and stop trying to get both. Many folks will give up and settle on one or the other. I refuse to do so. You need both for a happy relationship. Crappy sex leads to longing for others sexually, and then that sexual attraction can lead into an emotional bond and cause someone to stray if they already havent. A lack of emotional intimacy can lead someone to seek it elsewhere, and we all know emotional intimacy can grow into a sexual trist. So yeah, long story short...there are plenty of women and men out there who believe both can be had in one person, and they want to find it very much. Never settle...settling is the reason people end up in unfulfilling relationships with someone who doesnt meet all their needs. Poor communication is a reason for this as well. 1
d'Arthez Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Women can be turned on by men who do not make good BF material. Women can be turned on my men who do make good BF material. Men can be turned on by women who do not make good GF material. Men can be turned on by women who do make good GF material. If you want to establish and maintain a healthy long term relationship, don't act on the impulse if you have the expectation that you somehow can reform him or her to be good relationship material. 2
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