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dasein Established Member

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On your OP, have you considered that he did the payment thing to let you down gently because he didn't feel something for you ?

 

I have a hunch the guy actually intended to pay, but something she said or did during dinner turned him off so much he decided to go dutch. Could have been dropping numerous "Dr. BF" bombs into the convo, too much ex talk, privilege talk, money talk, any number of possibilities. Good for him :laugh:

Vintage79 Established Member

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Cause even that wasn't a date, he should have atleast acted like he was going to pay and just waited for me to offer

 

This statement has some serious issues - why should he go in into a platonic meeting, essentially assuming he's going to pay. I don't go into a date expecting to pay...let alone a platonic encounter.

 

I don't get why he should have acted like he was going to pay...

Pierre Established Member

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When was the last time you paid for an ugly woman?....not counting your wife.

:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

snug.bunny Established Member

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I think it's safe to assume, if you're randomly meeting men during your travels and going to grab a bite to eat last minute, both of you paying for your own meal is quite reasonable.

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johan Established Member

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The thing I like about DK is the cheap shots she takes on threads like this don't even register with her. Whereas some people take things that aren't even directed at them as harsh criticisms and personal affronts.

 

She reminds me of Lyssa and Leia. I'd pay on a date with any of them.

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FitChick Established Member

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You should have only paid for your own meal. It wasn't a date and you have a boyfriend.

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Radu Established Member

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This statement has some serious issues - why should he go in into a platonic meeting, essentially assuming he's going to pay. I don't go into a date expecting to pay...let alone a platonic encounter.

 

I don't get why he should have acted like he was going to pay...

 

 

I don't think it was a platonic meeting to her.

If it was, OP has some issues.

But i don't think it was, i think the guy was initially interested and then decided to reduce his losses or he was interested and took some bad PUA advice.

Either way, they wouldn't have been good together if what he did turned her off so badly.

mtber75 Established Member

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I think that was rude of him to invite you for a meal and then make you pay half for a meal that was mostly eaten by him.

 

It sounds like he conned you and/or has poor social etiquette.

 

Either way, not a guy that sounds compatible with you and unfortunately not as fun an evening as you were probably hoping for.

 

Poor dating etiquette definitely and also a cheap skate to boot. I don't get why women expect these chivalrous behavior, aren't you guys equal to us so who ever is the first to reach a cab is the first to get in...No harm no foul.

 

Yeah, he asked you out so he SHOULD'VE done all these acts (chivalry). But sometimes I don't get women who scream equal treatment yet they want to have their bills paid and doors opened by men?

manup Established Member

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small wonder you guys are still single. you insult me and insult women. go continue your cheap ways but don't whine when she drops you.

 

I got 99 problems, ah nm.

Pierre Established Member

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Poor dating etiquette definitely and also a cheap skate to boot. I don't get why women expect these chivalrous behavior, aren't you guys equal to us so who ever is the first to reach a cab is the first to get in...No harm no foul.

 

Yeah, he asked you out so he SHOULD'VE done all these acts (chivalry). But sometimes I don't get women who scream equal treatment yet they want to have their bills paid and doors opened by men?

 

These guys don't get as much sex as those that pay the bill. If he had opened doors, pull chair back and paid for dinner he may have scored.:laugh:

 

If he does not, he still acted like a gentleman.:cool:

dasein Established Member

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The thing I like about DK is the cheap shots she takes on threads like this don't even register with her.

 

Did you even read the thread? She accuses one poster who makes excellent, non cheap shot reasonable points of "stalking and insulting" her. That's just in the last couple of pages.

Nohbody Established Member

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This thread makes me want to pull an Oedipus.

(Stab out my eyes, not sleep with my mother)

FitChick Established Member

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...half of you guys don't even seem to have dates.

 

God, no wonder you're not sweeping women off their feet... you're just too busy b!tchin about the stupid things rather than actually getting somewhere with a woman...some of these comments and ways of thinking are becoming completely ridiculous...it's not surprise the men that are posting them appear to be unsuccessful with women.

 

...you guys put the dark cloud over yourselves and then you act all butthurt over stupid things. It's just totally self-defeating

 

...you ever step outside and look at the actual men dating women? They're not all tall, handsome, loaded with cash and stuck with gold-diggers, they're regular guys just like you except instead of having a stick up their butt they're out there enjoying the company of women and having seeeex!

Excellent points.

Eddie Edirol Established Member

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I disagree.

 

A gentleman is a gentleman with everybody------------even when dealing with ugly women, family, and male friends. Being a gentleman only with desirable women is bogus and classless.

 

It classless to you maybe. But I prefer to appear classless to faceless strangers and women that I'll never see again rather than waste time and money and energy on something that isnt going to work. I see nothing wrong with being selectively gentlemanly. I cant take pride in pulling the chair out for a date that isnt interested in me, because if she isnt interested in me, shes going to forget about me anyway, shes not going to care what I do in the long run. I'd never be as bad as the OP's date, but ..whatever.

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musemaj11 Established Member

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So, I was bored last night, I went to the pool at the side of the hotel where I am staying right now and went swimming for about half an hour. I was sitting at the bench when a guy approached me, he told me he saw me 2 days ago at the hotel lobby and he was actually about to talk to me but told me he was shy. We talked for like 20 minutes about random things and then I excused myself and went to my room. I took shower and quick nap then I went to the concierge to ask something when the guy from the pool appeared and said "Hey! Good to see you again!" We talked a bit and then he asked me if I've already eaten dinner. I don't usually eat dinner but the guy was cute and seemed really friendly and nice! And I was really bored, I've been travelling and had no company for about 3 weeks so to be honest I was really excited to have someone to talk my leisure time away, I'm not suppose to just eat, walk and sit alone in my unit every night and every day. I'm not looking for dates though, I just need someone to have some fun with. I answered him, "No, I haven't eaten dinner yet." He then asked me, "Let's have some dinner, what would you like? Italian? Indian? Mexican? Chinese? Japanese?" I laughed and said, "I'm craving for pasta. And some fresh juice. So maybe, Italian?" He then answered with a smile, "Okay, I know an Italian restaurant outside the hotel. You wanna walk? Or do I need to get a cab?" I was feeling lazy to walk so I told him to get a taxi. The taxi came and guess what? He opened the door of the taxi and then he went inside! Really? Wasn't I suppose to go first? But anyway, I just ignored, maybe he was just nervous and forgot to let me in first.

 

When we came to the restaurant, he asked for table for 2. I have been dined and wined by guys before, I was expecting him to pull my chair but he didn't. Ugh! TBH, I have never opened a door and have never pulled a chair for myself in all my previous dates' and ex's presence, so I was really really disappointed. Anyway, again, I just ignored and acted normally. We asked for the menu and then I asked for lasagna and lemonade. While he ordered chicken salad and beef with veggies for his starter and appetizer and then he also ordered pizza for his meal and bottomless iced tea. And after that he also asked for limoncello. Then the bill came. So, obviously, he ate more than half of the total bill. Mine was only 13 dollars while his was 48 dollars. I'm more than willing to pay for the whole bill, but gosh!!! I was about to offer when he asked me, "Can you pay for the half?" I was shocked! I mean, can't he just wait and not ask for it? Anyway, yeah, I contributed 30 dollars.

 

I always offer seriously, but never been asked and demanded to pay. If they accept my offer, fair, and if they don't, fine. He was cute on it's real sense, nice built of body, nice hair, nice set of teeth, nice clothing style, but ugh, he came across as the most annoying loser I have had dinner with! But anyway, when we moved back to the hotel, I thanked him and I politely said goodbye and goodnight...

This sounds like a joke.

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Lostinlife4now Established Member

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I don't think it was a platonic meeting to her.

If it was, OP has some issues.

But i don't think it was, i think the guy was initially interested and then decided to reduce his losses or he was interested and took some bad PUA advice.

Either way, they wouldn't have been good together if what he did turned her off so badly.

 

 

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