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january2011 Established Member

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He's the man. Of course he was going to be the one who invited. That's irrelevant. If she didn't want to go no one was forcing her. She went anyway so they equally wanted a meal together. Who invited whom doesn't matter.

 

And over the course of a man's life he'll pay for more food than he ever ate. Big whoop dee dooo.

 

This is not a thread about gender. It's about someone inviting a complete stranger to dinner, then feeding their face and making that stranger pay half the bill.

 

It's vulgar and shows poor social etiquette.

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DuchessKaye Established Member

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Yes, it's his poor etiquette that I'm pointing out on here.

I just wanted to do some ranting and it won't hurt to hear some insight as well, about how some guys are so lame. This was my first experience with a guy to demand me to pay. He should have saved his 31 dollars and didn't come off as a loser if he waited for me to offer to pay. Deep in my heart and in my mind, I was really more than willing to pay for the 61 dollars and leave another 4 dollars for the tip. He was so cute but so weak and lame. Ugh, oh well. I'm not going to see him again.

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The OP is saying if he wasn't cute, with a nice built, and a nice set of teeth she wouldn't have been paying for anything

 

LOL

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DuchessKaye Established Member

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The OP is saying if he wasn't cute, with a nice built, and a nice set of teeth she wouldn't have been paying for anything

 

LOL

 

Lol, if he wasn't cute, I would have declined his invitation to go grab some food. :p

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Yes, it's his poor etiquette that I'm pointing out on here.

I just wanted to do some ranting and it won't hurt to hear some insight as well, about how some guys are so lame. This was my first experience with a guy to demand me to pay. He should have saved his 31 dollars and didn't come off as a loser if he waited for me to offer to pay. Deep in my heart and in my mind, I was really more than willing to pay for the 61 dollars and leave another 4 dollars for the tip. He was so cute but so weak and lame. Ugh, oh well. I'm not going to see him again.

 

Did he pay for the cab?

FryFish Established Member

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Who paid the cab fair? Anyways DK, you come off as an entitled little beezee and I dont feel the least bit sorry for you.

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Yes, it's his poor etiquette that I'm pointing out on here.

I just wanted to do some ranting and it won't hurt to hear some insight as well, about how some guys are so lame. This was my first experience with a guy to demand me to pay. He should have saved his 31 dollars and didn't come off as a loser if he waited for me to offer to pay. Deep in my heart and in my mind, I was really more than willing to pay for the 61 dollars and leave another 4 dollars for the tip. He was so cute but so weak and lame. Ugh, oh well. I'm not going to see him again.

 

it is poor. ewwwwwww yuck to cheap guys. my husband paid for the first dates when we began dating but i spent lots of money getting ready. clothes, makeup, jewelry, prefume all cost money. us gals spend lots getting ready so we spend as much. if a guy whines about paying he isn't a real man.

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it is poor. ewwwwwww yuck to cheap guys. my husband paid for the first dates when we began dating but i spent lots of money getting ready. clothes, makeup, jewelry, prefume all cost money. us gals spend lots getting ready so we spend as much. if a guy whines about paying he isn't a real man.

 

 

 

So men don't spend money on clothes, cologne, etc...? What about money on gym memberships, healthy food to look good and gas to drive you from your house to restaurant and back home?

 

 

Female logic really can be ridiculous

 

 

"I look pretty and I'm a woman so I'm entitled to free dinners"

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DuchessKaye Established Member

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Did he pay for the cab?

 

He did, but that was only 2 friggin dollars!

 

It really cropped me up how such a guy with excellent appearance can have a very poor etiquette like that. Not to mention the fact that he was staying on a executive suite on the hotel. I initially thought that he has a sensitive mind. I was wrong.

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i have had women con me, also a woman, in the same way, not often, but it happens, freeloading

january2011 Established Member

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he was staying on a executive suite on the hotel

 

Did he take the receipt? Was he there for work?

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He did, but that was only 2 friggin dollars!

 

It really cropped me up how such a guy with excellent appearance can have a very poor etiquette like that. Not to mention the fact that he was staying on a executive suite on the hotel. I initially thought that he has a sensitive mind. I was wrong.

 

 

 

honestly, I don't mind paying more than a woman on dates as long as I'm not paying for everything. I don't mind paying for the first couple dates either as long as the girl offers and says thank you. Ideally, I would like it to be close to 50/50 after the first couple dates

 

 

 

What drives me insane is this entitlement attitude "I'm entitled to free dinners because I'm a woman" << it's the 21st century. Nobody's entitled to anything. What happened to all the equality you fought so hard for? Or is it equality when it suits you and chivalry when it doesn't?

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Did he take the receipt? Was he there for work?

 

Nope, he left the receipt at the table. He's also travelling, I'm just not sure if he was here for work or something.

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So you expected a "better" person because he looked better than average?... lol...

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Nope, he left the receipt at the table. He's also travelling, I'm just not sure if he was here for work or something.

 

Just wondered if he was trying to pull a fast one at his employer's expense as well.

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honestly, I don't mind paying more than a woman on dates as long as I'm not paying for everything. I don't mind paying for the first couple dates either as long as the girl offers and says thank you. Ideally, I would like it to be close to 50/50 after the first couple dates

 

 

 

What drives me insane is this entitlement attitude "I'm entitled to free dinners because I'm a woman" << it's the 21st century. Nobody's entitled to anything. What happened to all the equality you fought so hard for? Or is it equality when it suits you and chivalry when it doesn't?

 

I don't mind paying. I'm a woman but I don't expect men to pay for dates. I don't have that thinking 'I'm a gorgeous woman, I deserve to get free dinners.'

No, spare me. I'm a very generous lady and I can make myself equal to the task. It's just nuts that he asked for it! Guys please, wait for us to offer so you don't come come across as a loser cheap ass!

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So you expected a "better" person because he looked better than average?... lol...

 

A lil bit... Lol!

 

Am I mad?

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I don't mind paying. I'm a woman but I don't expect men to pay for dates. I don't have that thinking 'I'm a gorgeous woman, I deserve to get free dinners.'

No, spare me. I'm a very generous lady and I can make myself equal to the task. It's just nuts that he asked for it! Guys please, wait for us to offer so you don't come come across as a loser cheap ass!

 

Sounds like you were tooting a different horn in your other posts.

FryFish Established Member

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Maybe you arent as pretty and "worthy" of free meals as you perceive yourself to be?

FryFish Established Member

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A lil bit... Lol!

 

Am I mad?

Not mad... just ridiculous...

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DuchessKaye Established Member

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Sounds like you were tooting a different horn in your other posts.

 

Huh? Say what? :confused:

fitgirl Established Member

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So men don't spend money on clothes, cologne, etc...? What about money on gym memberships, healthy food to look good and gas to drive you from your house to restaurant and back home?

 

 

Female logic really can be ridiculous

 

 

"I look pretty and I'm a woman so I'm entitled to free dinners"

 

doing hair, makeup, accessories takes time and money. my husband throws on some clothes and he's good to go. it's you with the entitled attitude. some exes were like that. they are exes for a reason!

HallowedBeThyName Established Member

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I don't mind paying. I'm a woman but I don't expect men to pay for dates. I don't have that thinking 'I'm a gorgeous woman, I deserve to get free dinners.'

No, spare me. I'm a very generous lady and I can make myself equal to the task. It's just nuts that he asked for it! Guys please, wait for us to offer so you don't come come across as a loser cheap ass!

 

 

I'm totally on your side in this regards. You have a reasonable mindset, the women that expect men to pay for every date in the year 2012 drive me insane

 

 

 

It's more about the principle than paying itself, I don't necessarily mind paying the first date or 2

kaylan Established Member

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Its a shame you only like the caucasian persuasion OP. Because I could show you a fun time without much cash spent =P

 

See, I told you I dont hate you.

fitgirl Established Member

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honestly, I don't mind paying more than a woman on dates as long as I'm not paying for everything. I don't mind paying for the first couple dates either as long as the girl offers and says thank you. Ideally, I would like it to be close to 50/50 after the first couple dates

 

 

 

What drives me insane is this entitlement attitude "I'm entitled to free dinners because I'm a woman" << it's the 21st century. Nobody's entitled to anything. What happened to all the equality you fought so hard for? Or is it equality when it suits you and chivalry when it doesn't?

 

nobody's entitled to anything. us gals aren't entitled to give cheap guys another date either.

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