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So, I was bored last night, I went to the pool at the side of the hotel where I am staying right now and went swimming for about half an hour. I was sitting at the bench when a guy approached me, he told me he saw me 2 days ago at the hotel lobby and he was actually about to talk to me but told me he was shy. We talked for like 20 minutes about random things and then I excused myself and went to my room. I took shower and quick nap then I went to the concierge to ask something when the guy from the pool appeared and said "Hey! Good to see you again!" We talked a bit and then he asked me if I've already eaten dinner. I don't usually eat dinner but the guy was cute and seemed really friendly and nice! And I was really bored, I've been travelling and had no company for about 3 weeks so to be honest I was really excited to have someone to talk my leisure time away, I'm not suppose to just eat, walk and sit alone in my unit every night and every day. I'm not looking for dates though, I just need someone to have some fun with. I answered him, "No, I haven't eaten dinner yet." He then asked me, "Let's have some dinner, what would you like? Italian? Indian? Mexican? Chinese? Japanese?" I laughed and said, "I'm craving for pasta. And some fresh juice. So maybe, Italian?" He then answered with a smile, "Okay, I know an Italian restaurant outside the hotel. You wanna walk? Or do I need to get a cab?" I was feeling lazy to walk so I told him to get a taxi. The taxi came and guess what? He opened the door of the taxi and then he went inside! Really? Wasn't I suppose to go first? But anyway, I just ignored, maybe he was just nervous and forgot to let me in first.

 

When we came to the restaurant, he asked for table for 2. I have been dined and wined by guys before, I was expecting him to pull my chair but he didn't. Ugh! TBH, I have never opened a door and have never pulled a chair for myself in all my previous dates' and ex's presence, so I was really really disappointed. Anyway, again, I just ignored and acted normally. We asked for the menu and then I asked for lasagna and lemonade. While he ordered chicken salad and beef with veggies for his starter and appetizer and then he also ordered pizza for his meal and bottomless iced tea. And after that he also asked for limoncello. Then the bill came. So, obviously, he ate more than half of the total bill. Mine was only 13 dollars while his was 48 dollars. I'm more than willing to pay for the whole bill, but gosh!!! I was about to offer when he asked me, "Can you pay for the half?" I was shocked! I mean, can't he just wait and not ask for it? Anyway, yeah, I contributed 30 dollars.

 

I always offer seriously, but never been asked and demanded to pay. If they accept my offer, fair, and if they don't, fine. He was cute on it's real sense, nice built of body, nice hair, nice set of teeth, nice clothing style, but ugh, he came across as the most annoying loser I have had dinner with! But anyway, when we moved back to the hotel, I thanked him and I politely said goodbye and goodnight...

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LittlePrince Established Member

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Take your case to judge Judy and see what she has to say.

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HallowedBeThyName Established Member

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I'm a little puzzled what the problem is

 

 

 

Are you frustrated that he asked you to pay, even though you were gonna pay regardless?

 

 

 

Also did you pay the 30 dollars while eating 13 dollars worth? That's pretty stupid. The guy's an idiot for allowing you to do that

LittlePrince Established Member

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No, he is incredibly smart since he knew he could get away with that.

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I think that was rude of him to invite you for a meal and then make you pay half for a meal that was mostly eaten by him.

 

It sounds like he conned you and/or has poor social etiquette.

 

Either way, not a guy that sounds compatible with you and unfortunately not as fun an evening as you were probably hoping for.

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I think that was rude of him to invite you for a meal and then make you pay half for a meal that was mostly eaten by him.

 

It sounds like he conned you and/or has poor social etiquette.

 

Either way, not a guy that sounds compatible with you and unfortunately not as fun an evening as you were probably hoping for.

 

Absolutely! :(

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Yup.

 

I would have reacted the exact same way. "Can you pay half?"

 

AHAHA. Wow. Cheap ass indeed.

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DuchessKaye Established Member

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disaster..

 

Yes, that's the word!

A complete and total disaster!

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I'm assuming this is just ranting - girl doesn't want a date and then gets pissed off when the guy doesn't treat it like a date.

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I don't understand. So why is DK getting all the sympathy, yet when I say the same, i'm a golddigger? :mad:

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Are you 4 years old? This whole encounter sounds like a bunch of preteens gauging one anothers interest...dumb

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Dont you already have a boyfriend?

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I think that was rude of him to invite you for a meal and then make you pay half for a meal that was mostly eaten by him.

 

It sounds like he conned you and/or has poor social etiquette.

 

Either way, not a guy that sounds compatible with you and unfortunately not as fun an evening as you were probably hoping for.

But if he had paid for the meal then he would be the one being conned. I prefer the woman being conned. She has had plenty of free meals in her lifetime and will have many more thanks to guys she will con.

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I don't understand. So why is DK getting all the sympathy, yet when I say the same, i'm a golddigger? :mad:

 

It's different people saying those things to her.

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I don't understand. So why is DK getting all the sympathy, yet when I say the same, i'm a golddigger? :mad:

 

 

Because there's nothing wrong with paying for half, but paying for more than your half is pretty ridiculous

 

 

 

You're the kind to complain about even paying a third. You expect men to pay for everything everytime you go out. Your entitled princess syndrome is ridiculous

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Yes, it's more of a rant. I just want to screaaaaaam and slap somebody's face right now!

 

Cause even that wasn't a date, he should have atleast acted like he was going to pay and just waited for me to offer, and he ate almost all of the food, so it was like I paid for his meal. I would have paid for the total bill, but gawd, let me offer, don't demand me to do it.

 

No more boyfriend, Imajerk. And like I said, I just want someone to talk my free time away. I was alone and lonely. I just wanted some company.

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Doesn't sound like the most romantic man. IMO if you didn't think it was a date then the getting in the cab first or not pulling out your chair shouldn't of bothered you. I don't know if pulling out the chair in the US is dead or just a rich people thing as I've never seen it IRL. Him asking you to pay: Did he say "Can I take you to dinner?"

 

I belive in treating a woman like a woman and dont mind paying for the firt couple of dates, even 3. The problem I have is that where did the tradition go awry in that many wont even thank you for it? Not thanking me for dinner on the first date is a deal breaker for me now.

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LittlePrince Established Member

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The solution to all of this is get your own separate bill if this bothers you so much. Problem solved.

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But if he had paid for the meal then he would be the one being conned. I prefer the woman being conned. She has had plenty of free meals in her lifetime and will have many more thanks to guys she will con.

 

He invited her. If she'd invited him, then I'd have said that she pays.

 

And not only did he invite her, he decided to order lots of things on the menu and feed his face.

 

Then have the audacity to ask her to pay half the bill.

 

In my opinion, that's vulgar.

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He invited her. If she'd invited him, then I'd have said that she pays.

 

And not only did he invite her, he decided to order lots of things on the menu and feed his face.

 

Then have the audacity to ask her to pay half the bill.

 

In my opinion, that's vulgar.

 

 

 

I hate when girls say "Whoever invites should pay"

 

 

 

and then you ask the same girl "how often do you invite a guy to go out" and she'll tell you "Oh I never ask out guys, they should always ask me out"

 

 

 

That logic is nonexistent there. If you feel that men should always pay for all dates, just say that. No need to try to work around that with a lame and very transparent technicality

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He invited her. If she'd invited him, then I'd have said that she pays.

 

And not only did he invite her, he decided to order lots of things on the menu and feed his face.

 

Then have the audacity to ask her to pay half the bill.

 

In my opinion, that's vulgar.

He's the man. Of course he was going to be the one who invited. That's irrelevant. If she didn't want to go no one was forcing her. She went anyway so they equally wanted a meal together. Who invited whom doesn't matter.

 

And over the course of a man's life he'll pay for more food than he ever ate. Big whoop dee dooo.

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I hate when girls say "Whoever invites should pay"

 

 

 

and then you ask the same girl "how often do you invite a guy to go out" and she'll tell you "Oh I never ask out guys, they should always ask me out"

 

 

 

That logic is nonexistent there. If you feel that men should always pay for all dates, just say that. No need to try to work around that with a lame and very transparent technicality

But without transparent technicalities you would only be left with the truth and that's a big faux pas for any woman.

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If I invited a woman for dinner and expected her to pay her share, I'd make sure that was clear up front. Who knows how much she can afford, and it's not right to spring a bill on her at the end of the meal.

 

If I invited her on the pretense it was a date, then I'd expect to pay unless she offered to pay her share, which tends to make things awkward for me.

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But without transparent technicalities you would only be left with the truth and that's a big faux pas for any woman.

 

 

 

Feminism - We deserve 100% equality in all the areas that benefit us, but when the bill comes, you're paying

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