mjm11 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 So my boyfriend if 5years asked for a break out of the blue! Come to find out a week later that he is dating a coworker he won't admit to it though ( I also work in the same company ). Well once I found out I broke up with him and he still is denying the other girl! I have gone nc since breaking up but want him back! It hasn't even been 3 weeks yet and I have heard they are already wanting to buy a house together ! What should I do? What should I do when I see them at work?
Balzac Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Seems to me you'd be moving forward, thankful to have avoided marriage. Are you in an active job search? 1
Wesker Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 So my boyfriend if 5years asked for a break out of the blue! Come to find out a week later that he is dating a coworker he won't admit to it though ( I also work in the same company ). Well once I found out I broke up with him and he still is denying the other girl! I have gone nc since breaking up but want him back! It hasn't even been 3 weeks yet and I have heard they are already wanting to buy a house together ! What should I do? What should I do when I see them at work? Nothing feels worse than dating a co-worker, and then getting left for another co-worker. Believe me. My ex of over 7 years dumped me a year ago for Mr. Fancy House, Fancy Car, etc. 6 months after dumping me, and she's already married to the dirtball. But karma does seem to come around sometimes. Beginning of the year, the Idiot Prick got canned. Then only a couple months after that, one of my buddies shows me his Online Dating profile, while still being married. Recently I heard my ex caught wind of this, amd actually read some emails he's been sending to one of his online floozies. Perhaps Chris Humphries won't have the shortest marriage after all..ha Unless you sit right next to him at work, I'd just avoid him, and try to find different routes to walk. Chances are, that relationship will blow up sooner than later anyways. Watch the show of them getting a house, and then trying to sell it later when they split.
sweetheart5381 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 So my boyfriend if 5years asked for a break out of the blue! Come to find out a week later that he is dating a coworker he won't admit to it though ( I also work in the same company ). Well once I found out I broke up with him and he still is denying the other girl! I have gone nc since breaking up but want him back! It hasn't even been 3 weeks yet and I have heard they are already wanting to buy a house together ! What should I do? What should I do when I see them at work? I work with my ex and in a large company and can tell you that this stuff happens way too often. So many sad stories of infidelity, makes me sick. He and I broke up after 9 months together, he said he wanted space, he saw another at work that piqued his interest and he chose to pursue. His loss completely and he (lol) is totally single now. He gambled and lost me. Dont worry a damn thing about him and her... they are made for one another, so to speak. Even if it hurts, be cordial and polite. Forget him and her. It will be over sooner rather than later and you will get the last laugh, trust me. You WILL laugh when you see his reaction to losing both of you. So fitting Not your loss, it's his. Stay strong, NC if at all possible. Cordial contact when needed. Nothing more.
fatang Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Hi mjm11, I can so much relate to what you are going through and i too can understand its not easy. I was with my ex for almost 4 years until on Sept 11 she asked for a break. She is 26 and i am 25, she said that she wanted a break and get ahead with life cause she wanted to marry before she turns 27. It wasn't easy. But the worst part was that while i was with her i was in self denial about her obvious relations with the VP in the office where she worked. 3 months after break up she told me that she might get married to tis guy and on Feb 12 when i walked into her place (We were still talking, NC didn't work out), She came hurriedly (in a fking gown) and nervous asking me why i cam when he is in her bedroom. I was so pissed and suddenly all things that i ignored came rushing to me (she spent so much time with him, bought most expensive dress for parties coz he was there, went for an unofficial office trip with him in a group, spent some weekends with him sometimes on trivial excuse like going shopping for his sister' b'day n anniversary). I couldn't take it anymore and i gave her a tight slap in the hallway of her place (not proud of it, i have never raised hand on anyone. But she kinda asked for it. ) Moral of the story: 1. Never be in self denial 2. Post break up give time to heal as much as you need its not easy coping up when you lose trust for someone so close. 3. Bring out your knitting needles or the old stashed out canvas and try to be creative, listen to music etc- i need a creative way to vent out my anger, my frustration.
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