everchanging7822 Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 Hi there , I am new to this thing.Since January 2004 I was in a Long distance internet relationship with a man from another continent.At first it was fun and he made me laugh .Then in April I went ona scholarship in another country and as if he changed.I asked him what is happening and why he is so distant and cold.He said I have been trying too hard to become close to him and was putting pressure on him by demanding / wanting him to send me a postcard or call me or send me long emails , plan a trip to see me during my scholarship time.Because I am allowed to invite somebody to visit me and stay with me for 20 days here.He at one point thought that I want to marry him just because I said I want to marry in a year or two .I had to explain that I donot want to marry him because I know very well from previous conversations that he doesnot want to marry until he is 40 and now he is 30 .I just donto understand him .In his last e mail he wrote to me that I must learn how to make myself desirable??Why somebody will say that?And that I canot make him/force him fall in love with me???I just wanted friendship and to share my experience in this new country with a good friend.After his last e mail I ended this because after chatting with him I was unhappy and crying.He recommended me to visit some web sites about relationships and learn more because he sees and knows and I admit it I am very inexperienced in these matters.Ths is how I found this forum. Thank you for the help!!! I will read with interest your replies!
honey2005 Posted June 27, 2004 Posted June 27, 2004 Maybe you should invite someone you know well along with you. What happens if you invited this guy along and it turned out that you didn't like each other and your entire trip was ruined? Maybe you're more serious about the relationship you have with this guy than he is.
Author everchanging7822 Posted June 28, 2004 Author Posted June 28, 2004 Honey thank you for replying, I managed to have a friendly talk with him and it turned out he has been on couple of dates with a girl he obviously likes .In his opinion the biggest problem is that we donot have physical intimacy:).And as it seems with this girl he can have it. I do like him but since he has been dating this obviously should tell me one thing -he simply doesnot care about me. Why should I care about him then?
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