Bateman Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 So I guess I haven't been on the forum for about a year...Loveshack really helped me through a breakup about a year ago but here is my story... Met a girl a few months ago. Instantly hit it off and started seeing each other constantly. It moved really quickly but was great at the same time for about 2 months. About a month ago, she started acting distant and I confronted her about it. She said we needed to talk in person which I though was a good thing coming from her and doing this face to face...I pretty much knew what she was going to say. She wanted some space and wasnt feeling the same way about me anymore. I accepted that and told her that we could still be friends and I felt good about the whole thing...now it gets confusing. A few days later I receive a facebook message from one of her friends saying, *girlsname* made out with my ex bf of 5 years...play it safe. This rattled me quite a bit and texted *girlsname* about it. She said that her friend was lying to make her life more miserable than it already is. Ok, fine. messaged friend back asking if she was lying to which she swears on her familys life that she is not lying. So I'm very confused by this whole thing. I decide to drop it and leave the girl I was seeing alone and try and get away from the drama and I told her that. She texts me a few hours later saying that she wants to see me. I tell her maybe she can come over but I dont think its a good idea. About a minute later, she shows up at my door. I let her in and we watch tv. I try to get her to talk but she cant find the words to say. We end up sleeping together and spend one more night together that week. that was last week. She was out of town with friends this weekend. A few texts here and there but nothing heavy like the way it was the week before or the months before. Right now I am initiating all the contacting and we may get up together later this week... So basically, meet a girl, hit it off, moves too fast, take a break, weird stuff happens, I get pulled back in and now I am stuck...any advice on what I should do? Sometimes I feel like I should just do no contact but then I don't want her to drift away. I feel like I developed some bad anxiety since my last breakup. I really need to get her to talk...
theseeker Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 My guess is that the reason she is wigging out on you is because you two went too fast. Some women can't handle it and get all weird and unsure of themselves. It is hard to explain. Anyway, the easiest way to get her to talk first is to stop initiating contact. And don't wait by your phone either, drop the whole thing and act like the last two months never happened. She'll be texting you in no time, and probably with explanations. If she drifts away then good riddance. In short, stop being needy, women can't stand needy men. And we can tell you are being needy even when you try to hide it.
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