dsw31 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 I was doing really good today.Even wondered in there was something in the air! So many guys, walking around the city, looked really attractive to me...for the first time in forever. BUT... After my breakup, I had a plan.I told my ex's sister that if she ever needed anything, or just a friend to talk to, that she could always call me.In the back of my mind, I thought it'd be a perfect opportunity to kind of "stay in the family", let my ex see how good I'm doing without him, & possibly even get back together. Didn't even think she would call but, sure enough she did.I saw her today & after feeling great all day-it really brought me down.I miss my ex.I miss her, I miss the things we used to do.She's going to be calling every week or two from now on & I'm not sure if it was such a good idea anymore.
january2011 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 IDidn't even think she would call but, sure enough she did.I saw her today & after feeling great all day-it really brought me down.I miss my ex.I miss her, I miss the things we used to do.She's going to be calling every week or two from now on & I'm not sure if it was such a good idea anymore. Renegotiate. Apologise and tell her that you thought this was a good idea but you need more time and space to get your head clear. That you'll be back in touch when things have settled. Whether or not you ever get back in touch is up to you, but it's clear that you're not ready for this right now. I suggest initiating the talk rather than waiting until she gets in touch with you again.
Author dsw31 Posted May 23, 2012 Author Posted May 23, 2012 Sorry guys! Didn't mean to post twice! The other thread was meant to be the one I wanted to post.
Author dsw31 Posted May 23, 2012 Author Posted May 23, 2012 Renegotiate. Apologise and tell her that you thought this was a good idea but you need more time and space to get your head clear. That you'll be back in touch when things have settled. Whether or not you ever get back in touch is up to you, but it's clear that you're not ready for this right now. I suggest initiating the talk rather than waiting until she gets in touch with you again. Thanks for the reply January! I'm actually feeling much better already. I guess this roller coaster of emotions does get easier with time. I don't think I'll tell her that I can't talk to her anymore though. She really needs my help & I don't want my ex to think he's devastated me that much. (I just don't want to bump into him once he starts dating someone new) Hopefully I'll be completely over him by the time that happens! Thanks again for your response!
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