Eminemilee Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 (edited) Im 18(I know that's young) I'm still in highschool and I've never had a boyfriend. I think it's because I'm weird inappropriate and offensive but I'm pretty(I think) so shouldnt that attract guys? Should I not be myself and stop being inappropriate? http://photos-a.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/429018_360468947306730_100000308846522_1271388_2028131422_n.jpg?dl=1 Edited May 23, 2012 by Eminemilee
HallowedBeThyName Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Stop acting like a weirdo, most guys like a girl who is feminine and classy Also your hair makes you kinda look like a lesbian. Talk to one of the pretty girls in your school to give you a makeover because you have nice eyes and facial features, just have to bring them out properly.
udolipixie Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Im 18(I know that's young) I'm still in highschool and I've never had a boyfriend. I think it's because I'm weird inappropriate and offensive but I'm pretty(I think) so shouldnt that attract guys? Should I not be myself and stop being inappropriate? You're likely right about the why as being inappropriate and offensive usually doesn't mesh as you're a gal and generally expected to be appropriate, non-offensive, and pleasant (placating & subservient). Stop being yourself and inappropriate if you want to attract guys regardless of if they would like you as you are not. It's probably best suited not to change yourself to please guys but to please yourself. Why do you want a boyfriend? What do you think a boyfriend could offer to improve or enrich your life?
LittlePrince Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Im 18(I know that's young) I'm still in highschool and I've never had a boyfriend. I think it's because I'm weird inappropriate and offensive but I'm pretty(I think) so shouldnt that attract guys? Should I not be myself and stop being inappropriate? http://photos-a.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/429018_360468947306730_100000308846522_1271388_2028131422_n.jpg?dl=1 You are average looking so you shouldn't be having any problems based on physical attractiveness. Acting in a way that others might deem "weird" doesn't deter guys and certain guys will prefer someone like yourself. It's just that girls like you will have a propensity to flirt with as many guys imaginable and no guy feels you are all that interested in them alone.
wordrock Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Im 18(I know that's young) I'm still in highschool and I've never had a boyfriend. I think it's because I'm weird inappropriate and offensive but I'm pretty(I think) so shouldnt that attract guys? Should I not be myself and stop being inappropriate? http://photos-a.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/429018_360468947306730_100000308846522_1271388_2028131422_n.jpg?dl=1 Some people think of love as a numbers game, ie "get the most I can get". If you think that's what will make you happy, go for it. Change what you think will make you better. Personally, I'm not interested in sleeping and dating with as many women as possible. I'd forgo dating 1000 women to find and be with one I'm compatible with physically, mentally, and emotionally. My opinion: Be yourself. Don't compromise to the lowest common denominator just to get "more guys". 5
Author Eminemilee Posted May 23, 2012 Author Posted May 23, 2012 Stop acting like a weirdo, most guys like a girl who is feminine and classy Also your hair makes you kinda look like a lesbian. Talk to one of the pretty girls in your school to give you a makeover because you have nice eyes and facial features, just have to bring them out properly. You might be good looking but you have a bad personality. I am a pretty girl so I'll give myself a make over. Short hair doesn't make me look like a lesbian it means I'm not going to conform to your cookie cutter ideal of a girl. I'm not feminine or classy but I don't want to be you helped me answer my own question. I don't want to change for a guy. Thanks 6
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Im 18(I know that's young) I'm still in highschool and I've never had a boyfriend. I think it's because I'm weird inappropriate and offensive but I'm pretty(I think) so shouldnt that attract guys? Should I not be myself and stop being inappropriate? http://photos-a.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/429018_360468947306730_100000308846522_1271388_2028131422_n.jpg?dl=1 High school is the last place in life where even fairly attractive women can get ignored. When I went to college, there were a number of cute to very cute girls I met that had never had a boyfriend before. Usually, they were shy, and dressed goth or punk or indie. They usually had a lot of teen angst. But once they got to college, most of them hooked up in no time flat. In high school, so much depends on social hierarchy and structure, that even if a guy finds you attractive, he might not like you because of your social status. That will all go away in college. Also, it's hard to see what you look like from that pic, but it seems like you should do fine. 1
Eddie Edirol Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 You might be good looking but you have a bad personality. I am a pretty girl so I'll give myself a make over. Short hair doesn't make me look like a lesbian it means I'm not going to conform to your cookie cutter ideal of a girl. I'm not feminine or classy but I don't want to be you helped me answer my own question. I don't want to change for a guy. Thanks So youre not feminine, you refuse to do a makeover that will make you attractive to the boys, you arent classy and you are abrasive and overbearing. Are you still wondering why the boys dont like you and why you cant get a boyfriend? This will carry over to college btw. You will be single for a while with this mentality. 2
Teal Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Most people aren't themselves in the sense that they don't filter their behavior to an extent. Making a point to consider how what you do and say is going to affect others is a good thing even if you're ultimately less wary of stepping on people's toes than most, but otherwise I don't think it's worth it to try to fit yourself into the culturally arbitrary mold of how a person of a particular gender is "supposed" to be. Too many people good at doing and being other things ruined that way, and too many people who didn't get to fulfill their desires in life because they weren't on the list of gender-appropriate desires to have. Plenty of guys do like women who aren't tame and subservient, by the way, but if you have difficulty socializing with and relating to others in general that can hurt you in dating, too. When I hear words like "inappropriate" or "offensive" to describe oneself, that's what I assume to be part of the problem and it's always a reasonable area to work on. 2
pteromom Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Weird = GOOD! Be yourself! Inappropriate = funny in the right situations. Embarrassing in the wrong situations. Offensive = Never good. You can be weird, funny, and yourself, and still be considerate of others. So it sounds like you need to do some soul-searching, and decide which of your behaviors and attitudes contribute to being who you want to be, and which get in your way. Hard to tell from that pic, but you look fine to me. I like your hair and you look like a fun and quirky person. You don't need all the guys in town whistling when you walk by, and you certainly don't want to attract someone who is attracted to some fake version of you. You want someone who likes you for who you are!
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Weird = GOOD! Be yourself! Weird is awesome. I love punk, goth and indie chicks. Or at least when I was younger I did. Don't listen to all these lacrosse playing preppy idiots. Stay yourself. Love the piercing too! 1
RiverRunning Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I never had a boyfriend in high school - I was 19 when I met my first boyfriend. In my case, it was appearance-based. But I know most of my friends (a wide array of people from different social strata and different looks) also didn't have boyfriends. Actually, come to think of it, the girls in our group who DID get boyfriends were among the least physically attractive (conventionally speaking). Some were really gorgeous. I had a friend people said could be a model - and one of my crushes at the time NEVER skipped a beat in telling me how hot he thought she was (thought he had an in through the best friend?). She never had a boyfriend in high school. I want to say she was about 20 before she started dating. So - while it's totally normal to freak out and to feel like you're the ONLY one - I can almost guarantee it's not true. Be yourself. But if you are being loud-mouthed or annoying just to attract attention, that's just going to drive people batty. But hey, there's something for everyone out there, and there's some guy who's guaranteed to like those traits. You're going to wind up dating later in life. And there are tons of perks to that. Every now and then I STILL feel like an ugly duckling (and I'm in my mid-20s) - I have, for too long, allowed the past to mire me down and make me feel ugly. On the bright side, NOT dating in high school made it pretty much impossible for me to ever have a pregnancy or STD scare as a teenager. In the meantime, I had all the means to focus on finishing up high school and starting college. So many of the people I know who paired off in high school have already divorced and remarried. Most didn't finish college. Most have dead-end jobs. By the time I got into my first serious relationship, I was a bit more than halfway done through college. Cheer up.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Im 18(I know that's young) I'm still in highschool and I've never had a boyfriend. I think it's because I'm weird inappropriate and offensive but I'm pretty(I think) so shouldnt that attract guys? Should I not be myself and stop being inappropriate? http://photos-a.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/429018_360468947306730_100000308846522_1271388_2028131422_n.jpg?dl=1 You are pretty. But sometimes, just like girls that wear too much make-up and try too hard to be sexy with too tiny skirts and tight tops, people can get lost under their style other ways too. I think perhaps you might be getting a little lost under your style. I don't want you to change who you are. But you might consider a little bit of a make over so that you can show off more of who you are. I like your short hair but I think the dark black hair takes away from your natural skin tone. I actually think you would look really amazing as a blonde or brunette. The dark black hair covers your face too much and you have really pretty features. But that's just my opinion. The other side of this is that you are still very young and still figuring out who you are. Don't fret just because a lot of guys don't seem interested. Sometimes guys are shy too, sometimes they just aren't interested..sometimes they are clueless...especially in high school. What type of guy do you generally like?
wheream_i Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I think it's because I'm weird inappropriate and offensive but I'm pretty(I think) so shouldnt that attract guys? Should I not be myself and stop being inappropriate? Well, at least you know your faults. That's a start. I wouldn't try to change, that's just who you are. I'm sure some dude, sooner or later, may be able to put up with that. Or will at least have the same personality type as you. 1
PoeticRose Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Listen, its not the fact that you cant get a man, its the fact that men feel that they can't get YOU! U are pretty that true. But men feel like they dont stand a chance. When I look at your picture it's like ur reading into my soul with those eyes lol. I think a lot of men feel intimidated by you. Try smiling more! Not in a sexual I want u way, but friendly. And itll become happen. Itll change the inside too! But be glad that these men arent BOLD enough to approach you. Because the one that approaches u is the one who really IS interested. The other men are just being lazy, they always want whats easy and less work to get. So stay true to yourself, but dont be a b.itch while doing it lol Ciao 1
kaylan Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Stop acting like a weirdo, most guys like a girl who is feminine and classy Also your hair makes you kinda look like a lesbian. Talk to one of the pretty girls in your school to give you a makeover because you have nice eyes and facial features, just have to bring them out properly. Dont listen to this noob OP. He doesnt really get women to begin with. A girl doesnt have to rock long hair to be feminine. Your hair is fine. I used to date girls like you when I was younger (im 25 now). I was a punk kid so I had weird hair and piercings, so you wouldve been right up my alley. Im not a fan of cheek piercings though. Im more a fan of lip rings and bridge piercings. But you still rock it well. You dont need a make over. Just find a boy whos into the same things you are. And plenty of guys like a weird, quirky, and slightly offensive girl. I know I do. I like a chick whos blunt and not afraid to speak her mind. Women like that usually get painted as "offensive" by weak people.
Eclypse Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Your face is pretty but I don't think the short hair does it justice. Some people look better with short hair, others with longer. It doesn't have to be super long, but I think shoulder length will be cute. Also I am not again of piercings. But this is just one guys opinion. However the fact is you will have to change some things about you unless you want to be waiting a very long time. Eg: I'd love nothing more than to go out to Uni and work and social engagements wearing my holey, comfortable t shirts and the tracksuits that double as my pjs. But I can't imagine many web being into that. Food for thought.
Author Eminemilee Posted May 24, 2012 Author Posted May 24, 2012 You are pretty. But sometimes, just like girls that wear too much make-up and try too hard to be sexy with too tiny skirts and tight tops, people can get lost under their style other ways too. I think perhaps you might be getting a little lost under your style. I don't want you to change who you are. But you might consider a little bit of a make over so that you can show off more of who you are. I like your short hair but I think the dark black hair takes away from your natural skin tone. I actually think you would look really amazing as a blonde or brunette. The dark black hair covers your face too much and you have really pretty features. But that's just my opinion. The other side of this is that you are still very young and still figuring out who you are. Don't fret just because a lot of guys don't seem interested. Sometimes guys are shy too, sometimes they just aren't interested..sometimes they are clueless...especially in high school. What type of guy do you generally like? My hair is brown its just really dark its actually my natural color it's lighter in the sunlight. Generally I like guys who are nice funny(find the same things I find funny funny since most people don't) likes horror comedy and love stories alike. Likes reading and video games. I could say a lot more but I'll stop there.
shorty7 Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 You might be good looking but you have a bad personality. I am a pretty girl so I'll give myself a make over. Short hair doesn't make me look like a lesbian it means I'm not going to conform to your cookie cutter ideal of a girl. I'm not feminine or classy but I don't want to be you helped me answer my own question. I don't want to change for a guy. Thanks I think you just answered your own OP question. The offensive part yeah, you'll likely want to read up on some manners and etiquette to be socially acceptable. As far as your looks though, do what's comfortable and allows you to be the best "you" that you can be. Any guy who doesn't see that and judges you for your looks or personality otherwise, as you said, aren't worth your time or attention. So don't give it to them. Simple as that.
dasein Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I think it's because I'm weird inappropriate and offensive More detail needed. Please give some specifics of how you are weird, inappropriate or offensive.
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