Author A1135 Posted September 23, 2012 Author Posted September 23, 2012 Yes, something i forgot to mention in my reply. I agree with Belkin2 - Your wife might be frustrated and hurt by seeing you "try" so hard to do these things, but in her mind she sums it up to you are only doing these things to get some action from her, so that you are pleased. I can tell you first hand. It is the most degrading thing for a husband to make his wife feel like an object of sex, that she is just there for his pleasing and for him to get off. You need to do these things out of the kindness of your heart, not to get something in return as a "thank you". If you truly are doing these things to help out, then find a way for her to see your actions of being nice and romantic are not connected to wanting to "butter her up" and get her "in the mood". This is something I am ALWAYS careful not to do! I make it perfectly clear that by doing all these things I am trying to get her to relax, feel good, and spend quality time together. If this sometimes helps lead to sex then thats a bonus. Its all about trying to make her feel happy, content, loved and adored.
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