East7 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 If I were in love with another man and unhappy in my marriage and did not have children.... I wouldn't move all the way to Asia for my husband's new job. Maybe she does love her husband...maybe she misled you. The hard cold truth.
Author Stoneman70 Posted May 23, 2012 Author Posted May 23, 2012 Do you think she misled me? Why? She is working in Asia too..so she doesn't want to quit her job, I'm sure. She has a very well paid, professional job. I tried to talk her out if going...asked her to stay..but she loves her job..so I figured is move too.. Anyway, I'm going to work on my marriage and see where it goes. At this point, I'm not going to tell my wife. I thought about it, but am going to see if our romance can reignite. I'm taking one day at a time... I appreciate everyones advice very much. Thank you. I just need to do what is best for me at this moment in time.
East7 Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Do you think she misled me? Why? Maybe yes, maybe not. We know for sure you love her. What we don't/can't know is how much does she love you..A married woman who claims loving another man than her husband and not having strong obligations such as children, would not make life projects with her husband. From my "life experience" in such situation a MW would instead do everything to stay distant to her H. Or else, she wants to rekindle romance with him. You are both contradictory, you both claim love and you both stay married and want to rekindle love with the respective spouses. Anyway, I'm going to work on my marriage and see where it goes. At this point, I'm not going to tell my wife. I thought about it, but am going to see if our romance can reignite. I'm taking one day at a time... I appreciate everyones advice very much. Thank you. I just need to do what is best for me at this moment in time. Good luck with everything. You will get over xMW i can tell you. It just takes time, distance, no contact. She will become a stranger in these conditions. I know it's ugly that the person you love the most in the world become dead to you. C'est la vie..We always lose persons that we love along the life.
Author Stoneman70 Posted May 27, 2012 Author Posted May 27, 2012 I know she loves me very much too...she told both my brother and cousin to tell me that, but all i could do was tell them i dont want yo talk to her...why am i like this? I just wish she and i met when we were both single...i just wish we could be together.
onthefence210 Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 I don't know what the future brings or if S and I will talk again. She doesn't have my new number or anything so it would be on my end if we where to talk. Also, we don't even live in the same country anymore and once she moves to Asia this summer, who knows when and if she will return to the U.S...so even though I still have strong feelings, as I said, its not meant to be. I'm going to live my life and work on my marriage and see where it takes me.....I can't predict my grieving process...I mean isn't there anyone else who fell in love like this, but wanted to do the right thing and see if their marriage could work? Am I the only one who decided to work on their marriage even though they were in love with someone else?? I can't be the only one I have been there, not the exact situation but have been there. Almost two weeks of NC and it has been hell. Btw I'm the OW and we are both married.
carhill Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 - mainly healthier personal boundaries which have assisted in nearly all aspects of interpersonal relationships, from romance to platonic friendship to business interaction. - secondarily that belief can be a potent motivator and how to separate out belief from objective assessment. LS has been instrumental in this path. - thirdly, along with death and divorce, that life is short. Lots of other stuff to do. 2
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