hayley1357 Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 im confused. I dont understand whats happening, how i should be dealing with this & whats the best route to take. Background - We were together for over 4 years, met at highschool (uk). I love him unconditionally. About 2 months ago he broke it off saying things where too difficult and its easier for him not to care about me. He is enjoying life with his freinds, and has not been with any other girls ( although he did contact his ex from high school with his reason being he knew he could as me and him where not together). Everytime I ask him what he wants he says he doesnt know but does know he cant deal with not having me in his life. So he hasnt blocked me off anything, still texts me occasionally, we are civil when we see eachother and when we do see eachother its a good time. When we see eachother one on one ( have done this 3 times since the breakup) we near enough act as if were together but sex is a NO GO as he knows we need to be in a relationship for that to happen. His parents still talk to me, we both still have eachothers stuff at eachothers house, both wear jewellery that one another bought eachother. Ive come to the conclusion he obviously needs some sort of time. and Im not sure wether nc is the best route to take. I dont know I guess i wont know if i dont try but i also do not want to fizzle any hope for a recon. I feel deep down were not over, and theres more to us then this but only time will tell. I just dont know how to play it, do i ignore him, carryon how we are or what?!?!?! & what if he begins seeing someone else, I have trust in his heart that he wont but I guess you never know untill it does or doesnt happen. On the flip side, were not the same obviously, bros before h*es is happening and he litterally has told me he doesnt care enough to spend time/be in a relationship with me anymore. Yet he says he knows its a phase and he will eventually begin to care again and knows itll probs be too late. I feel somewhat understanding as I essentially experienced the same thing with him, put my girls before him and took him for granted 85% of the time. I learned from my mistakes and we moved on. I feel like i WANT to wait for him as he did for me and I feel in my heart its the right thing to do. Just wanted to see if there is any opinions/advice? confussssssssssssssed isnt the word right now!
gibson Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 (edited) I told you before... many of the answers you seek, you will find in the following threads: "The Grass Is Greener" Syndrome and... Dumped by someone with G.I.G.S.? All your Questions are Answered within this thread! Edited May 22, 2012 by gibson
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