xxheartbrokenxx Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Hey everyone... My ex and I were together for 3 years and were each others firsts. We had some pretty rough patches but he really did love me. We lived in the dorms together, traveled the world, and did some amazing things. 6months ago he broke up with me due to trust issues and immediately started dating someone new. They then broke up a few weeks ago before finals and my ex contacts me saying he couldnt stand dating the new person. asked if i was with anyone, and he wanted to meet up with me. He then got cold feet and decided not to meet me because he heard I was with the old guy (which wasnt true) and he woudlnt even text me back... Now we are both on summer break and I miss him so much. Before heading back home I left a note on his car stating how much I love him still, and that if he wanted to connect with me he has to make the next move. I just received sinus surgery the other day and I got a text from him wishing surgery went well and I have a quick recovery. I texted him back once and he replied, but I didn't text back after that. I was getting hopeful that he was reaching out but I found out my mom asked him to text me to make me feel better. His birthday is in a week... can I call him? can I text him? If I do, do I just wish a happy birthday and end it, or do i try and muster up a conversation? -was he reaching out to me when he texted about surgery or was he just being nice. If he truly cared wouldnt he have asked me again how recovery was going after a few days? I am just still so in love with him even after 6months of being broken up I want to rekindle some type of relationship, but at the same time me and him are both studying abroad next semester in different countries so it really wouldn't matter anyways (unless we skype -which I would enjoy). I just dont understand why he would contact me after 5months of being with someone else, and then leave breadcrumbs of him being interested and then dropping me. I feel like I need to do something more, but at the same time I left that note on his car stating everything and that it would be his move. Any advice is appreciated.
Reddice Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 [/url]The only thing you can do is go on full NC. There is nothing you can do to make him change his mind. He doesn't want you back, and you know this. I suggest you read the following threads: CaliGuy: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/81399-no-contact-q-you-ls-newbies No Foolin: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/56954-do-you-really-think-contacting-your-ex-going-help-you-guide-long-walk
gibson Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Read the threads above and read the one below: Don't ever be a "BUTT"!
Author xxheartbrokenxx Posted May 22, 2012 Author Posted May 22, 2012 i understand NC is probably best. But the thing is I went NC. For roughly 5 months! And then towards the end of the semester he started asking friends about me. ANd then he reached out and contacted me and asked if i wanted to meet, and if i was seeing anyone. If he didn't have interest in me why would he do these things? If he didnt care about me why would he text me wishing me well after my surgery, even if my mom did ask him to text me a message. My guess is that he wants to have some type of relationship but is afraid I will hurt him again. i am also assuming that he may not want to start anything because we are both going to be away for 6months around the world.
Reddice Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 i understand NC is probably best. But the thing is I went NC. For roughly 5 months! And then towards the end of the semester he started asking friends about me. ANd then he reached out and contacted me and asked if i wanted to meet, and if i was seeing anyone. If he didn't have interest in me why would he do these things? If he didnt care about me why would he text me wishing me well after my surgery, even if my mom did ask him to text me a message. My guess is that he wants to have some type of relationship but is afraid I will hurt him again. i am also assuming that he may not want to start anything because we are both going to be away for 6months around the world. In my opinion you're asking all the wrong questions. The question should be: If he really wanted to be with you, what's stopping him?
Author xxheartbrokenxx Posted May 22, 2012 Author Posted May 22, 2012 In my opinion you're asking all the wrong questions. The question should be: If he really wanted to be with you, what's stopping him? Yeah... I guess if he wanted to be that badly nothing would. But I do have an answer to that question, actually two. 1) we are both studying abroad for 6months and will be in different hemispheres. I hear LDR are rough, especially when you are trying to reconnect after a rough breakup. 2) I cheated at the beginning and hurt him. He said he forgave me but will never forget. There is more involved with this "cheating' which honestly it wasn't cheating because we were not together at this point -but it still left a bad impression. I think that he is afraid to let me back into his life in fear I will hurt him again
Tiera D Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 well u did cheat on him..im in opinion once a cheater always a cheater..but still i think u should wait when u came back six months later,things should be clearer by then,good luck TD
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