MissyEX Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 (edited) I have a girlfriend for 5 years, nearly 6. We were totally okay but suddenly things turned cold. I found out she had a plan to go out with someone (guy), not the first time though, it's the 3rd. I broke up with her but when I learned about what the guy is, well he's a jerk. I asked her back because I still love her and so I can keep her away from him because I know she'll end up breaking her heart. She's already sleeping with the guy, to think we just broke up (a few days after the breakup she started seeing him) it hurts and I still want her back but I think I blew off all my chances. I was hurting too much and didn't know what I was doing when I asked her to just tell me she doesn't love me anymore, I think I wanted closure. These were her responses: 1. I don't know if I am just preoccupied 2. I still love you as a friend 3. I don't want to get hurt before I find out (if she still loves me) I told her it's hard for me because I am hanging, she said "stop, don't" and then she says she doesn't love me anymore but I can see she was lying. I replied with "thank you" and walked away then she yelled "what next?.... what next?". I am trying my best not to contact her now, but I just miss her a lot. I am worried too because I have no emotions, just thoughts about being mad and sad but I don't feel it. But there's one thing I am clear about, I still love her and I still want her back. Not sure what to do now, there are guys asking me out but I don't feel like dating them, I don't feel interested. Advice please. Sorry for making this one long, I just want to tell the whole story. Edited May 22, 2012 by MissyEX
january2011 Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 If fidelity is important to you, then I suggest walking away because you're unlikely to be able to get over what she did and what she continues to do. I suggest maintaining NC and throwing yourself into social activities and other pursuits to take your mind of things while you heal.
d'Arthez Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 As difficult as it is, you are better off walking away, as january said. Else you are setting yourself up for all kinds of emotional punishment.
TaraMaiden Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Sure she loves you. Just not "that way" any more. And sometimes, that's worse that "the love is completely gone".... I second January's advice. you need to tell her "what next" by telling her nothing - and going NC. See the NC guide in my signature. It seems screwy, and many people read it thinking, 'Yeah, ok, but....' There is NO 'Yeah, ok but....' This is no small feat, breaking up. It's like a bereavement, and when people die, they leave us, and they're not 'a little bit dead' they're dead. Unfortunately this is how you have to view this. As a bereavement. mourn, be sad and weep. But move on.
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