kandi13 Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 ok before I get started plz read this Well yeah he tried to cheat on me....I was so hurt but I couldnt cry, I wouldnt reject myself to cry over Steven, I couldnt do it, so I thought paybacks a Bitc*!! I know wut I did next was just plain awful. I called my exboyfriend and asked him if I could come over. Well I did and we kissed. Like 10 mins later Steven calls. He was like so your over your exes. If u are all im sayin is its over. I go excuse me. U was all up and over my best friend. Hes like no I wasnt. Hes like I dunno u that well. Im like yeah wut u gettin to. hes like its over. Im like its over ok, and he called me beat and I told him to F off. Then what i did next was so hard. I hung up on him. 2 hours later my cousin called him. She got all cocky wit him. He turned it all round on me sayin i did stuff with my ex and that he never touched my best friend, who isnt my best friend anymore over gay reasons. now so many pplz are gonna be after me and I duno. I really really thought he was different. Oh and he was tryin to get with my cousin to. How pathetic! I mean I feel as if I have no one to run to. I feel betrayed so BAD!! I liked him so much, and Im debating on if I should kill myself or not. I mean life feels as if theres no meanin n e more! I lost my bf my best friend and everything else. How could people do this? Help me. all i keep thinkin bout is his face and wut he told me...
average guy Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 Nothing is worth killing yourself over - don't even think about it!!! To take your mind off of everything, I want you to rewrite what you just posted without using the word "like" and using proper spelling. I know it sounds like a stupid thing to do, but it will take your mind off of everything else, and it will be much easier for other people to read Good luck Cheers, A.G.
uriel Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 Kandi, Please get help right away from someone where you are: a school counselor, a close friend, a family member you trust. No guy is worth hurting yourself over, even one who has been as close as a best friend. You need to think hard about why you don't care for yourself more than you do him. Why does his leaving make you and your whole life seem worthless? What are your own special qualities, hopes and dreams, plans for the future that didn't have to include him? Your feelings of worthlessness have to do with some deeper problem than being emotionally betrayed -- even though that hurts very much. Focus on healing this and things will get better. I've been there -- and I promise it works. You do matter and you will be happy again. Take care -- uriel
kirkyswife Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 Sweetie, you are so young and I realize that right now what you are experiencing seems like the end of the world but as hard as it is to believe it is not. I don't know how old you are but I am going to assume early to mid teens and you have a lot going through your mind combined with developing hormones. I want you to realize that there is nothing in this world that is more valuable than your life so ending it before you've had the chance to begin it would be doing not only yourself but the WORLD a great injustice. Not to mention causing such heartache and pain to your family - the people that suffer the most are those that you leave behind. They wonder what they could have done, what signs they missed, why you weren't able to come to them (ANYONE) and talk to them - so let's put suicide on the back burner while we dissect this situation okay??? I'm going to give you a dose of "Real Talk" little sis and I hope you take a moment to think - this whole situation is strange (and hard to understand because of the manner in which you type - but I'm fighting through it because I want you to be wise and not do something that can't be reversed). My concern is that you are contemplating suicide and I want you to seriously get some help from a counselor, doctor, minister, your parents SOMEONE you trust. There are some underlying issues here that have nothing to do with this situation and you need to identify what's truly going on and get in control of that. No matter what - you have been blessed with life and you should never take that for granted. Life is very precious and despite how you are feeling you are loved. Please, stay in touch - post every day if you can or send me a message and let me know how you are doing. If you need help finding help in your area - let us know and I am sure we'll do what we can to offer insight and/or contacts to help you work through this, But please, keep breathing because tomorrow is going to be a better day; and so will the next; and the next and the next and so on. Take care!
SuperDaimyo Posted June 26, 2004 Posted June 26, 2004 Look at all these people hurting on this forum, including myself. You are not alone sweetie, people are complex/idiotic creatures, but you gotta realise that everyone's life takes many twists and turns and you just have to stick through it to get to the good stuff. I wish there was a club all of us rejectees could date each other lol.
New_Wife Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 To both of you, and anyone else considering suicide - RUN, don't walk - to your nearest counselor, ER, trusted friend or family member. First of all - if you do it - you're dead. That's it. Finito. No neat wedding, no sweaty nasty honeymoon, no first house, first car, first time your baby cries in your arms, no vacations on tropical islands or sticky resorts with the kids - nothing. Just worms crawling through your bones. Secondly - you leave everyone that loves you to deal with the pain. Your pain would be over, sure enough, but your mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, friends, etc. will be forever scarred by this. You leave anyone who cares (even slightly) to pick up the pieces. I know you don't really want to do that. Third - Revenge. Think about it. When you are happily involved in other things, and your life is looking up - you've got the best revenge there is. Sure, that person may see you and wish they still had you, but better yet, you may never give them another thought once you're over this. Moving on, living better - that's the best revenge there is! Finally - if this is a strong urge - get help now! You may have a chemical imbalance talking to you & that's like driving your life drunk. See if you can't get some help to get through this, set some personal goals that do not involve a relationship and treat yourself very very well. If you have no one to talk to, call a crisis line or four & don't stop until you get what you need.
markraine Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 There is absolutely NO BETTER REVENGE in life against someone who has left you then to succeed, in spite of the wounds they caused you, the pain, to stand up, shake it off, step forward and succeed, use that rejection as a burning motivation to make yourself better, stronger.........nothing will upset the other person or make them regret their decision more than seeing you successfully and happily living without them. By that time, you'll show that YOU don't need them, and you won't care, and in the end, you'll be the one with the power, who was free to lead their life, in spite of rejection.
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