StellaA Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Many of you will know my story, it's been a tough year. Roughly a year ago my ex had a bipolar episode (I did not know he suffered from this) he ended up in hospital for 2 weeks and he decided he needed a break from us. I was crushed, my whole world fell apart and I fell apart. 3 months on he decided he wanted to give us another go, I agreed as I still madly loved him. A year down the line and I was finding I just could not forget everything and he was not doing anything to help with the bipolar. He advised he had sorted everything out that was bothering him and he was ok now. this scared me and I just could not live with the thought of it 'maybe' happening again. I loved spending time with him but could not see us living together again/having a family as I worried the stress may cause another episode. We were gettig on great and I love his company but I also want a family etc and after 6 years I felt further away than ever. It's now been a week since I finished things with him but I miss him so much and have to keep stopping myself seeing how he is. I am now thinking whether it would be a good move to move abroad for a few months and stay with my sister as there are too many memories and I'm struggling
Squishy_Belle Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 StellaA, if you can go i think you should but you have to remember that when you come back you may still have to face certain things that just arent going to go away. I think getting away and looking after yourself may do you good. It is hard when you love and miss someone and everything around you reminds you of them but if you are better off without them and know this is the right thing to do then go ahead and get away. You will still need to deal with what has happened, don't ignore it otherwise going aways won't really change anything. Good luck!
Author StellaA Posted May 22, 2012 Author Posted May 22, 2012 Thanks Squishy, I think I have had the last year to deal with a lot of things and face a lot of things. I went to visit my sister abroad last year for 3 weeks and it did me the world of good. Im considering doing some voluntary work, I feel like doing something rewarding and to really focus on something. I will always love him but know that I made the right decision as I think we were in different places, after 6 years I was thinking about marraige, kids, living together. He wasn't, and it's not like we are too young, he is 34, I'm 29. I just think as much as I love him, I would have ended up resenting him
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