i cut my self because my x-boyfriend broke it off! I AM GOING INSANE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jenny317]

Well today "Tuesday" my X boyfriend joseph broke it off between us, it was so stupid just because he barely see's me, and we only went out for 3 days and the day he broke it off was the same day i went ova his house. Me and my friend Jayme was hanging with him in his room, he didn't talk to me! But I tried to talk to him. There was some talk on the streets saying that the exact day Joseph asked me out was the same day he had sex with some girl, and when I asked joseph about him having sex with a girl, he just laughed it off and he looked like it was true, and not even ong that sae exact day, he asks me if I cheated on him! Well way b4 i went ova his house, right after he broke it off with me, i was so upset that i was cutting my self, and i wanted to get high( which i never ever did and never ever planned on doing something like that) but none of my friends would give me any weed because they knew that i was upset over joseph! I am rueining my life over him! I don't know how to stop what I am doing! If anyone knows how to help me from acting insane please tell me!

[honey2005]

Why are you hurting yourself over a guy you've only dated for 3 days? Once you start cutting yourself it is VERY hard to stop, it becomes an outlet for so much anger, it's better to STOP right now. If you can't make yourself stop go tell someone, a parent or something. It's dangerous and after awhile you'll start leaving deeper cuts that leave scars forever. Don't start something that is going to seriously mess you up over some guy. And drugs aren't the answer either. You have to learn to deal with your pain in a better way, talk to a friend, tell them how you're feeling, scream, hit a pillow, just vent some other way. There's going to be ALOT of heartache in your life, and cutting and drugs are definitely NOT the answer.

[moimeme]

Get yourself to a counsellor. You are WAY TOO upset over some guy you went out for three days with. You need to learn how to cope with difficulties in life or you will turn into one big mess.

[jmd28]

I am only 22 years old, and your story may have put my whole dating life before I got married to shame. How do you form a connection so deep with someone you barley know and barley dated. I know this is not something you want to read , but maybe you need some form of counseling. Maybe with a school counselor or someone older and more experienced with the whole dating seen.

 

Every time some random guy would turn me down, I would go into a depression feeling like I wasn't pretty enough or developed enough for that guy. F*** that guy!! There is no body more important than yourself at this time in your life. From your post, you seem younger than me, maybe between 15 and 18. As opposed to the rest of your life, these years are going to go by so slow and who you hang around with will have a huge impact on who you will be when you are older.

 

Dating right now seems like it is so important and cool to do. Well I don't know any cool people from my old high school that didn't get pregnant at a young age and have to drop out of school all because they thought dating and having sex was so important. If you seriously stop to think about it, what exactly are you missing out on... not having a boyfriend and not having sex? There are worse things in life, like delivering a baby at 15 and the father leaving because he didn't have to stay, like a 16 year old who is so eager to have sex that she loses it to a guy with AIDS. This is the kind of stuff you shoud be worried about until you can figure out what is good and right for you and your future.

 

The smallest choices you make now will have the biggest impact on your life in the near and far future. Don't rob yourself of the potential to become some body beautiful and successful.

 

And to be quite honest, more people have greater respect for virgins. Don't be in a rush to grow up, because you will miss out on all the good times you can have being a beautiful, independent, young woman.

[santa]

Originally posted by Jenny317

Well today "Tuesday" my X boyfriend joseph broke it off between us, it was so stupid just because he barely see's me, and we only went out for 3 days and the day he broke it off was the same day i went ova his house. Me and my friend Jayme was hanging with him in his room, he didn't talk to me! But I tried to talk to him. There was some talk on the streets saying that the exact day Joseph asked me out was the same day he had sex with some girl, and when I asked joseph about him having sex with a girl, he just laughed it off and he looked like it was true, and not even ong that sae exact day, he asks me if I cheated on him! Well way b4 i went ova his house, right after he broke it off with me, i was so upset that i was cutting my self, and i wanted to get high( which i never ever did and never ever planned on doing something like that) but none of my friends would give me any weed because they knew that i was upset over joseph! I am rueining my life over him! I don't know how to stop what I am doing! If anyone knows how to help me from acting insane please tell me!

Why would you do that to your self ? It is his loss.

[XNemesisX]

jmd28 gave you some great advice!

 

I know you have probably heard this 100 times...that it is "his loss" "he's not worth it" etc etc. And if you are anything like the way I was...that is NOT what you want to hear, and you sure don't believe it at this time. I used to get extremely depressed over any form of rejection when I was a teen and I counteracted this with doing lots of self-destructive things. This IS something that will pass though, trust me on this.

 

Now, I couldn't care less if a guy likes me or not. The only one that really mattered to me was the last boyfriend I had and I was with him for 2 years and lived with him! So in comparison, 3 days is NOTHING. You will develop much more deep, intimate relationships as you get older then you won't be able to understand why on earth you would hurt yourself over some little boy years ago! Trust me on this, you will look back in a few years from now and think to yourself "WHAT THE HECK WAS I THINKING?"

 

You need to work on your self-esteem and get some things in perspective. High school is nothing like the real world. Those years are so confusing, I know..but trust me it will get better. Before you know it, it will be over so don't let something stupid you do in high school haunt you forever. There are much better years ahead so don't ruin it for yourself. Please don't cut yourself, or get into drugs because of this little squirt. Talk to a trusted adult or counselor if you feel any more urges to cut yourself.

[pseud]

You want to use drugs and self mutilation to cope with a guy you went out with for only three days? What in the devil is wrong with the youth today?

 

If you want to think about your situation another way, you should know that you probably belong in a mental hospital for such behavior. Hurting yourself is never acceptable, least of all over a guy that lasted three days. If this is really a problem, you need to tell someone who can get you help.

 

I am not saying this to be mean; this is fact. If you are hurting yourself, you need to be in a 'safe' environment and treated accordingly.

[strange love]

First off I wish to say im sick of the american outlook about weed. Alot of people use

marijuana to cope with medical problems, ie a herbal pain killer instead of taking something like morphine. I know alot of successful people that smoke weed, and on top of eveything else CANIBANOL is naturally occuring in your body.

I totally think you would have been better off smoking a joint instead of mutilating yourself.

 

Now on the subject of hurting yourself. Ive been there, I didnt cut myself I think I used to break my own things. Its f==king horrible what he did to you I know and right now you feel ugly inside and are extremely hurt.

Im not sure what to suggest as an alternative, for me I just spend alot of time alone.

Or I write something down, or I listen to some music.

[LucreziaBorgia]

You have some serious issues going on - and I have a feeling that they have very little to do with this guy and what he did to you. It sounds like this situation triggered something far worse: an insecure, self destructive, impulsive, passive aggressive something that needs some serious attention. You can try to 'fix' your problem with this guy, but it would do you far better to address what caused you to react this way to this guy and the situation.

 

Do you have a counselor at your school you can talk to? The hardest thing to do is make yourself go talk to someone and be honest about things you are doing that could be potentially embarrassing to you, but you have a choice now. Choose to not talk to someone and perpetuate your own misery, or choose to talk to someone and take control of it and try to turn it around to a more positive future for yourself.

 

There is a way out of this, but it will require you to consciously choose to do it.

[Sobay247]

Cutting yourself is no answer...especially for someone you've only been w/ 3 days!!! Im fresh out of a 4 yr relationship, in which I my began to cut myself.I did it because any pain was better then feeling the pain he inflicted on my heart. I was wrong!!! NOTHING or NO ONE is worth hurting yourself over!! It didnt do a thing except leave scars on my body that will never go away. The pain I thought it would replace....I still feel to this day; but its gets better each day. When I find myself slipping backwards...I look at those scars on my body and remember Im better off w/out him!!! Love is suppose to Make you happy and feel GREAT, not hurt you and be painful!!!

[emotionsmessmeup]

when i was in high school..

i had a massive crush on thsi guy btu he wouldnt even look at me

i went to my mom and i told her...i wanna die...

 

she said...weak ppl give up and decide to kill themselves..

is that what you want to be called - weak...

ppl wont cry when u die...they will be like...HOW WEAK!

 

strong ppl live and survive it all...!