HallowedBeThyName Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 More and more older women do. The ones that don't are afraid of society's judgment. I prefer younger men or men my age to older ones for sure, for relationship or sex. Not too much younger tho at this stage, maybe when I'm older lol how old are you and how young are the guys you date? Are you okay with the fact that most of these guys will not want to marry you? I am 23 myself and would love to date an older woman and it would be a fantastic experience, but I just can't see myself ever marrying anybody more than a couple years older than me
january2011 Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 The point is that your logic is nonexistent here. The idea that people radically change their life views in 1 year is asinine. That's because your worldview and my worldview are radically different. Now, let's not derail a perfectly good discussion with petty arguments about logic. I'm perfectly happy to agree to disagree and have nothing more to add to the discussion beyond what I've already expressed about my dating preferences regarding younger men, which is what the OP requested.
HallowedBeThyName Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 That's because your worldview and my worldview are radically different. based on what? U know nothing about me. My god, women really do have zero ability to argue based on any form of logic
mesmerized Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 how old are you and how young are the guys you date? Are you okay with the fact that most of these guys will not want to marry you? I am 23 myself and would love to date an older woman and it would be a fantastic experience, but I just can't see myself ever marrying anybody more than a couple years older than me I don't see age affecting the guys wanting to have a relationship with me at this point. The lover I had who was 5 years younger was the one who gained feelings for me and wanted more not the other way around. He even talked about marriage and having babies since that was a dream of his lol I just don't like older guys because they are desentisized, I find them less moral when it comes to dating and less likely to love/care about/respect women. Of course not all older guys are like this but it kinds seems like at this point.
HallowedBeThyName Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 (edited) I don't see age affecting the guys wanting to have a relationship with me at this point. The lover I had who was 5 years younger was the one who gained feelings for me and wanted more not the other way around. He even talked about marriage and having babies since that was a dream of his lol I just don't like older guys because they are desentisized, I find them less moral when it comes to dating and less likely to love/care about/respect women. Of course not all older guys are like this but it kinds seems like at this point. Fair points, I don't think there's anything wrong with dating younger guys. My best friend is 23 and dating a 28 year old and they have a perfect relationship. Another one of my friends is 22 and dating a 27 year old, they're also doing great. Only problem is gonna be when they want to get married in 2 or 3 years, whether or not the guys want to settle down at the ripe young age of 24-25 Edited May 22, 2012 by HallowedBeThyName
Alma Mobley Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 how old are you and how young are the guys you date? Are you okay with the fact that most of these guys will not want to marry you? I am 23 myself and would love to date an older woman and it would be a fantastic experience, but I just can't see myself ever marrying anybody more than a couple years older than me Well, as I posted recently in another thread (and others), I met my husband when he was 23 and I had just turned 34. I respond to these kinds of threads -- not because I think age-gap relationships are awesome -- but to remind people to give others a chance. If there is compatibility, attraction, and chemistry, why rule someone out because she's a few years older, or he's a few inches shorter, or his/her skin is darker? Sure, if the relationship is unconventional, proceed with caution (as large cultural, etc, differences can overwhelm a relationship), and I understand many men don't want to date women over 35 because they want a good shot at having kids. But I almost denied myself a wonderful relationship due to age. Luckily, others told me to give this younger guy a shot; I am so glad I did, so I impart the same advice to others. My god, women really do have zero ability to argue based on any form of logic. That's not true either, btw. Sorry, but that accusation at women and its variations here on LS really bug me.
LittlePrince Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 So to all the older women out there, say women in their late 20's and beyond, I see you have the same philosophy as a certain animation that saw women as Christmas cakes.
Emilia Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 The difference is also that these women aren't considering these younger guys for anything but short term things. The older guy younger woman pairing often leads to marriage. Big difference. A friend's friend who is 41 has just been dumped by his girlfriend who is 22 when he proposed to her.
LittlePrince Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 A friend's friend who is 41 has just been dumped by his girlfriend who is 22 when he proposed to her. That happens sometimes especially when your gf is just a party girl. No matter a party girl's age she is never marriage material.
Emilia Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Are you okay with the fact that most of these guys will not want to marry you? I am 23 myself and would love to date an older woman and it would be a fantastic experience, but I just can't see myself ever marrying anybody more than a couple years older than me Correction. Those women don't want to marry you. As a 23 year-old you are way too immature to be considered marriage or even LTR material. So yes we as older women are pretty okay to just use your young body. Speaking as someone who has dated men 10+ years younger for years.
Emilia Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 That happens sometimes especially when your gf is just a party girl. No matter a party girl's age she is never marriage material. She is quite mature for her age actually, a party girl wouldn't date a 40+ year-old anyway. It's just that she doesn't want a man who will be putting his teeth in a glass for the night when her sex drive is still sky high
LittlePrince Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 She is quite mature for her age actually,Maturity is the mass delusion of women used to uplift themselves and those they like while casting down those they aren't quite fond of. It means nothing in any serious sense. a party girl wouldn't date a 40+ year-old anyway.Actually this happens quite often. Party girls can't get enough attention started by their inability to secure their father's so they are always on the hunt for a father figure whether he is their own age or old enough to be their father. Many of them will end up with a man twenty or more years their senior at least once or more likely multiple times. It's just that she doesn't want a man who will be putting his teeth in a glass for the night when her sex drive is still sky highThis sounds more like your thoughts on the matter than hers. Besides women have so little libido at any life stage compared to a man's and by the time he is in his 60's or 70's she'll be in her forties and fifties. Her libido won't be a raging inferno but a candle's wavering flame right before it is about to go out 1
HallowedBeThyName Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Correction. Those women don't want to marry you. As a 23 year-old you are way too immature to be considered marriage or even LTR material. So yes we as older women are pretty okay to just use your young body. Speaking as someone who has dated men 10+ years younger for years. That's actually awesome, that's pretty much what I want In terms of marriage though, I just can't marry a woman where I'll be 45 years old and she's going to be near 60. I hate to say it because I'm going to sound like a typical male pig, but I would like to ideally marry a woman around 5-6 years younger
FitChick Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 In terms of marriage though, I just can't marry a woman where I'll be 45 years old and she's going to be near 60. Yes, women become hideous old bags after 50. Catherine Deneuve Diane Sawyer Christie Brinkley Cheryl Ladd
Alma Mobley Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 That's actually awesome, that's pretty much what I want In terms of marriage though, I just can't marry a woman where I'll be 45 years old and she's going to be near 60. I hate to say it because I'm going to sound like a typical male pig, but I would like to ideally marry a woman around 5-6 years younger What about when you are 45 and she is 45? Or you are 45 and she is 48? Or 50? Or... 52? Or ..55? I used to worry about such things until I realized a small age gap (10-15) is minor. It's the person that matters, not the age. A man focused on youth and tight skin and perky tits is going to leave me when I am 50+ no matter what his age or mine. Or maybe he'll leave me after I have his children, and I have a softer tummy, and my breasts don't look the same after pregnancy and breastfeeding. Etc. It's not the age, it's the person. Huge age gaps, sure, hesitate.. small ones? Who cares. Live your life and be happy!
HallowedBeThyName Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Yes, women become hideous old bags after 50. Catherine Deneuve Diane Sawyer Christie Brinkley Cheryl Ladd your average 55-60 year old doesn't look anywhere near that good I hate to say it because I'm gonna sound like an *******, but I want to marry a woman who is at least 5 years younger so she'll be in her late 30s when I'm in my 40s. I plan on working out with a rabid intensity and looking good till I'm 70. I can't be in my 40s and married to a woman nearing 60s I would marry a woman who was maybe a couple years older if I really liked her though
Alma Mobley Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 I plan on looking good for as long as possible, too! But, you have your preferences (a woman five years younger or thereabouts) and that is fine. I just try to tell others not to rule others out based on something arbitrary, like age, race, etc.
FitChick Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 your average 55-60 year old doesn't look anywhere near that good Neither does your average person of any age. That's why they are AVERAGE! There are exceptions in every age bracket. I'm another one who plans to stay healthy and look good for as long as possible. Just wish I could find my male counterpart. I'm not even asking for handsome, just slim, healthy and fit so they don't drop dead when they climb a flight of stairs.
Author manup Posted May 22, 2012 Author Posted May 22, 2012 Well, as I posted recently in another thread (and others), I met my husband when he was 23 and I had just turned 34. I respond to these kinds of threads -- not because I think age-gap relationships are awesome -- but to remind people to give others a chance. If there is compatibility, attraction, and chemistry, why rule someone out because she's a few years older, or he's a few inches shorter, or his/her skin is darker? Sure, if the relationship is unconventional, proceed with caution (as large cultural, etc, differences can overwhelm a relationship), and I understand many men don't want to date women over 35 because they want a good shot at having kids. But I almost denied myself a wonderful relationship due to age. Luckily, others told me to give this younger guy a shot; I am so glad I did, so I impart the same advice to others. That's not true either, btw. Sorry, but that accusation at women and its variations here on LS really bug me. I mean I wish you the best of luck, but the stats aren't in your favor.
Alma Mobley Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 I mean I wish you the best of luck, but the stats aren't in your favor. Elaborate?
Negative Nancy Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 The difference is also that these women aren't considering these younger guys for anything but short term things. more like the other way around
persevere Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 It's interesting how younger women seem to like older men. I won't go any more than around 6 years younger, yet it seems I get a lot of looks from women far younger. It seems they sense when you don't want to mess with them. Sure, maybe I limit myself but I have found there's little to relate to and frankly, I have grown to distrust younger women.
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