rd1978 Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 ok it goes like this,,,togethor for 5 years,, we have been split for 8 weeks,, she was hanging out with someone else after we split,, i refused to talk to her i said she couldnt have her cake and eat it to... and i told her to do whatever it takes not to call me or write me,,,,, so after not awnsering phone calls ....she went to hanging out with this guy all the time,, and she kept trying to contact me,, i didnt awnser or call back,,, she did it like 1-2 times a week,,,,, but i never awnsered or responded,,,,, ok so 11 days ok i did respond,, and out of those 11 days she has instant messaged me,, and she also called me a couple of times,,,, ok so she was Super happy tot alk to me we had some awesome conversation's etc etc.....And my friend told me he has seen her out quite a bit ,, but he hasnt seen her with this other guy in like 2-3 weeks......And i told her do not let me remind you i have not initiated contact with this girl in any way whatsoever in like almost 2 months,,, every time we talked it was because SHE wrote me or called me...... So i go out tonight to a place i havent been in like a month ,, and who do i see across the bar ... my ex with that deush bag,,, well i was surrounded by 4 of my hot hot girlfriends,,, but these are the girls she always called ugly because she was jelious about them,, i would have loved for her to see me with some other chick she doesnt know so i never made the eye contact because i was talking with my one friend but i know she saw me ,, and i looked good tonight ,,, so they went and sat down and the next thing i knew they had left,,,,, so what do i do ?? i dont know the situation of them,, i dont think she expected to see me there,,, so what do i do when she write's ,, should i say something or act like nothing happened , im not going to blow up on her because that will only show her i care.... the thing is i know this guy is asking her to hang out and she isnt going to say no,, because we dont hang out any more so she doesnt really do anything,,,, I know she is confused right now,,, i know that when we talk i always make sure to get of the phone or computer first,, and we usually have semi long conversations..... there has been no talk of us or anything like that we just talk ,, i wasnt really getting my hopes up but i def did feel she was coming around,,, and i think she is extremly confused,,,Seeing them didnt really hurt or stab me in the heart,,, i am just kinda annoyed that she has been talking to me so much and then goes and pulls that ..... she even called the other night around 6 right after i got off work but that one i didnt awnser,,,,,,, And goddamn we talked for like a half hour tonight to..... should i just keep things the way they are or is it just her comfort zone knowing if something happens ill be there,, dont get me wrong im out doing my own thing with other people to ANY ADVICE WOULD BE HELPFULL
honey2005 Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 If it didn't hurt you to see her with another guy, then maybe she's not the one for you and you should move on. She really seems to be trying to contact you a lot though, and you feel like you're still interested you should sit down with her and listen to what she has to say. Tell her you definitely don't want her hanging around with other guys...even though you said you hang around with your girlfriends? But anyway, if you care about her, let her know, but if not, tell her so she can move on, too. Don't be just someone she can comfortably fall back on when things don't work out with the other guy either...
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