guloshes Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 ok ME AND MY GIRLFRIEND HAVE BEEN DATING FOR ABOTU 4-5 MONTHS NOW AND I WANT TO GET CLOSER IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND SHE SAYS THAT SHE DONT WANT TO BUT when she calls or something she gets off the phone like the next 5 mins or so she dont talk to me long and it always keep me wondering if shes about to break up with me cause she says she loves me and i really do love her but not so sure that she loves me back even tho she says it to me and she always sayin how she wants to be with me for a long time and all but she always has to come up with somekind of excuse when we are on the phone and i hardly ever get to seee her becasue she works all the time and when i do see her were not together long she always has to do something else and i dont want to never lose her cause i lover her to much and shes everything to me se said she not ready to t get closer in our relationship but i think she has ahd her heart broken tomany times and if anyone could give me soem advice opn how to make her beleive that im not going to hurt here that i want to be with her for the rest of my life and ive told her that i want to be with her to for a long time and ive told her that i wanted to be with her and i wouldnt do anyhting to hurt her and couldnt even think about breaking up wiht her and i dont think she beleives me cause she always thats waht all the other guys have said to me to so if anyone could help plzz help
honey2005 Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 My ex boyfriend told me that he wanted to be with me forever ,too, and I think he was serious. But he just changed his mind one day. It's really hard to promise someone something like that. Just be careful and don't hurt her again, because that is something that takes a long time to get over. Do you mean get closer in the relationship as in sex? Because maybe she isn't ready to take that step yet.
Author guloshes Posted June 25, 2004 Author Posted June 25, 2004 OK i go over to her house maybe 1-2 a week and i say iw ant to see her alot more and she says that she doesnt wanna be around me 2 long that we might end up doing something that were not ready for and or that we would get tiered of each other but i could never get tiered of her i jsut cant explain it she the one i jsut got that feeling if i do lose her i wouldnt know what to do i mean i would just go crazy
undecided Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 You take english class I'm sure, and I'm sure youve been told run on sentances are not cool. Punctuation is cool. you dont even need capital letters here, but please use periods and commas. Im afraid you girlfriend may be thinking about putting distance between you, she may just be being careful of being hurt again, or she may be losing interest. i couldnt really tell from the lack of information. i say just relax, be yourself, see her often and occasionally. and pay attention to the signs. i took it really slow the first few months because i have been hurt by every irresponsible, selfish, inconsiderate, bad decision making girl ive ever encountered.
Amy22 Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 It is hard to tell if she really is afraid to get hurt or if she just isn't very interested. If she is afraid to get hurt as time goes by and you date more she should start to get closer to you and want to spend more time with you. If she means that much to you and you want to be in a relationship with her you will just have to let things go at her pace. If you push to much she could back away more. I don't think you can make her believe you won't hurt her. You just have to give her time to realize that on her own. Good Luck
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