mesmerized Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I can't stand flaky guys and there are sooo many of them. Usually when a guy is being flaky with me I cut him loose. It's a huge character flaw to me in a man or a sign of lack of interest. Sometimes they get upset after and say I overreacted and they just forgot or whatever. To me if you say you call at a certain time to arrange something or want to meet up on a certain day means that you should confirm or cancel it instead of just disappear and talk to me sometime later. It's rude. Do you think guys like this should be given a second or third chance?
Author mesmerized Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 If you happen to come across one cut him loose. Oh, I come across them all the time. I would say about half of the male population I encounter are like that.
grkBoy Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I can't stand flaky guys and there are sooo many of them. Usually when a guy is being flaky with me I cut him loose. It's a huge character flaw to me in a man or a sign of lack of interest. Sometimes they get upset after and say I overreacted and they just forgot or whatever. To me if you say you call at a certain time to arrange something or want to meet up on a certain day means that you should confirm or cancel it instead of just disappear and talk to me sometime later. It's rude. Do you think guys like this should be given a second or third chance? I tell guys never to give flaky girls a second chance. Same goes for women who meet flaky guys. Flakes act like flakes because too many allow them to behave that way. Best way to deal with a flake is not to give them your attention. Man or woman...you can do better than a flake. 1
Author mesmerized Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 I tell guys never to give flaky girls a second chance. Same goes for women who meet flaky guys. Flakes act like flakes because too many allow them to behave that way. Best way to deal with a flake is not to give them your attention. Man or woman...you can do better than a flake. Can't agree more. I wish more women were like me so these guys didn't think they can get away with it so easily. I don't even mind if a guy cancels on me as long as he tells me well beforehand. But talking about making an arrangement and then disappear? Go away! 1
Woggle Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Oh, I come across them all the time. I would say about half of the male population I encounter are like that. Where do you meet these guys? Around my way it seems to be the other way.
Author mesmerized Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Where do you meet these guys? Around my way it seems to be the other way. Only guys that I met through school or work and had a close relationship with weren't like that. The other guys I meet no matter in what way are like this. Soo annoying.
mtber75 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I think they are just not interested in you? Or your looking in the wrong place. Successful guys (work and personal lives) are not flacks.
ThaWholigan Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Flaky guys are the ones who talk a big game really but don't do much. Their indecision is a flaw. 1
Author mesmerized Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 I think they are just not interested in you? Or your looking in the wrong place. Successful guys (work and personal lives) are not flacks. Probably. Doesn't make sense though. They ask me out but they are not interested? No one made them do that! And at the end they get upset acting like an apology should erase everything.
threebyfate Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 People flake for a number of reasons, of which none are worth investing in: Playing the field.PUA/gamer mind screwing.Not invested. There are more but these are the three main ones. When someone's a flake with you, move on.
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I tell guys never to give flaky girls a second chance. Same goes for women who meet flaky guys. I'm kinda desensitized to flaky behavior from women. It's basically the only type of behavior to expect from women since being passive-aggressive is the only way they can communicate. Some flaky behavior I get tired of: i.e. giving out the number with no intention of answering the phone. Some flaky behavior from women all guys deal with: i.e. expecting the man to directly ask for a date.
somedude81 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Guys are a dime a dozen, don't bother with the flaky ones.
mtber75 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Also this is usually part of their personality...Being flaky is normal behavior for them. If your organized and punctual than this kinda of behavior will conflict.
blackorchid Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 I'm right with you and am having a similar issue. I don't expect him to really invest because it's new, but just call/cancel if you change your mind. It takes 20 seconds. He apologized profusely multiple times but it's happened multiple times. I know if I put up with it that would mean I'm letting him get away with behavior that is well, ****ing up my life (I could make other plans). I think the only reason why it really bothers me is because I really am into him, but no, I have never encountered this level of flakiness. I'm with you girl.
Woggle Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 While I am against this kind of behavior either way I must say welcome to our world. I am sure a number of the women here have flaked on a guy they were not attracted to.
LittlePrince Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 I can't stand flaky guys and there are sooo many of them. Usually when a guy is being flaky with me I cut him loose. It's a huge character flaw to me in a man or a sign of lack of interest. Sometimes they get upset after and say I overreacted and they just forgot or whatever. To me if you say you call at a certain time to arrange something or want to meet up on a certain day means that you should confirm or cancel it instead of just disappear and talk to me sometime later. It's rude. Do you think guys like this should be given a second or third chance? Most people don't live their lives like a swiss time piece, but expect if a person has difficulty keeping their affairs in order it will persist through their entire lives. Someone like that would drive an anal retentive like you mad within a couple of days. Right now all they have done is made you teeter on the brink and that's only after knowing them for a bit.
LittlePrince Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 flaky=not that interested. Simple as that. Not really. No.
truth_seeker Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Where are you meeting these men? on OLD sites? I would say the majority of people on OLD sites, both men and women, are flaky people. This is why they're single for the most part: indecisive, commitment-phobes, delusional, history of being burned. I would agree with the people who say flaky people are generally the ones playing the field. These people will always be playing the field. You don't want them and you don't need them. Even if they come around and you date, within months they'll take off on you. The best bet to meet a quality mate is to get out there, be involved in activities and eventually someone will unexpectedly come into your life.
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