wow it hurts..

[Thomas44]

So I tried to contact my exgirlfriend through facebook messaging to ask if she would like to talk over lunch too see how she is doing. Really dumb mistake on my part. All in one message I asked that, and I also said that I was happy for her and that I also met some one and that I hope that we can talk time to time as friends again. I didn't stick to the no contact rule!!! Once again!!! She started technically dating this guy, well changed her relationship status on fb to in a relation ship 1 week ago. Not sure how long she been seeing this guy but her and I broke up 2 months ago.. I should've stuck to NC since we broke up. I didn't leave her alone and give her time right after we broke up and I feel like I pushed her into another mans arms. She definitley won't talk to me. Seems like she moved on quick to a better guy th an me. He has a waaayyy better job than me, and a lot more money to take her out all the time and she seems totally in love with him. I'm such an ass for just not leaving her alone for alil like she wanted. I think she hates me and just moved on. Lesson well learnt cause I lost the love of my life for ever I fear.. but I have to work on healing and moving on which seems almost next to impossible right now.. I know it takes time but wow.. I am hurting really bad but I have to try and move on to. People try to tell me that no matter how bad it was between her and I, that she will eventually talk to me in time. Could be tomorrow or ten years from now.. but I fear that I ruined it to the point that she will never talk to me ever again.. time to move on.. feels sooo hard to do when you still have these feelings..

[Chi townD]

First off. He's not better than you are. He just has a better job. It could be that he treats her like a complete jackass. But, she likes the nice things he provides for her. Having a better job doesn't automatically make you a better person. because, lets face it, with a little effort and determination, you could have a better job than him. It's easy. What's not as easy is keeping a woman happy.

 

So, it seems like she hates you....okay. Oh well! It seems like she doesn't want to communicate with you....okay. Oh well! Seems like she doesn't even want to know that you exist....okay. Oh well! That's her choice and you can't change the way she feels. But, given time. Those feelings are going to go away. Doesn't mean that she wants to get back with you, but I wouldn't be surprised that she wants to check up on you. See how you're doing. People get blown away because the go NC and the next thing they know is 7 months to a year later the get an e-mail or a text stating, "Hi! How've you been?" Out of the blue with no reason to it at all. It does happen.

 

Here's the rub. She made a choice to have you out of her life. You need to give that to her. No e-mails, texts or phonecalls. COMPLETE NC! Now it's going to suck really bad for a while. But, you need to heal and move on. Make improvements in your life. Then, one day you're going to wake up and she won't be the first thing on your mind. THAT'S when you know that you've started to heal.