Miolrogga Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 For a brief over view ...... 5 yrs ago I met my ex and let me tell you it was love at first sight for the both of us. Something so powerful nothing could explain or compare .... For those who have experienced this type of connection you understand... We were together for nearly 2 years. Before meeting me she was with the same man for 15 yrs. After meeting me she saw a whole new world and example of being loved and adored by someone.... We never fought and things were always great, all though she never committed fully.... Anyway she wanted space after 2 yrs and we split.... She dated others after who never last long and through out the whole time maintains contact with me to this day. Always finding stupid reasons to innocently have me cross paths with her and be in her presence without it looking strange to her current bf I suppose. Eg ... Fix leaking faucets at her business ect. Now of she wanted nothin to do with me I'd be the last on earth shed call for that.. She even told me after we split she knows she will never be treated like I have treated her. I think she just needed to see what's out there and is missing and realizing what she HAD. As deeply as we had a connection for each other I can't believe anything else. We split for no reason really ..... Just her wanting to run free a while.... Even with me not initiating contact it never passes a month of 1 1/2 at most and I will get some reason to stop by her shop for something. Sue does keep tabs on me I know since I am good friends with her bro and talk to him nearly daily along with her mother and myself are close..... I will not stop talking to them and punish them for me and her not working out. I have been through alot of tough personal times with the fam and they see me as one of their own...... When I see her there's no speaking of us but friendly flirting ....... Comments on the familiar scent of my cologne ect .... What am I to think of all this ???
Reddice Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 What am I to think of all this ??? She's keeping you on a backburner and with great success I might add. If I understand your story correctly; You broke up about 2 years ago. She has been shagging around in the meanwhile and keeps on contacting you from time to time (aka breadcumbs). You, on the other hand, are in the same spot as you were when you broke up. No new relationship, no sleeping around. You're still lingering about, waiting for her to come back to you. Am I right?
Author Miolrogga Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Yes you are correct ... I am patiently waiting for that day.... Is she keeping me in her life cause of genuine feelings still felt ??? A test too see if I'm still hooked for her entertainment or is she some where within her being coming around somehow ??? Or filling the void of me not being in her life with the little pieces she gets here and there giving her it all ..???
Reddice Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Your attitude is completely wrong. You are handling the situation the worst way possible. I hate to break it to you, but... she doesn't love you and she doesn't miss you. She has a bf for crying out loud! It's just convenient to have you around. You are basically her puppet. When she needs attention, she gets it from you. When she needs to have something fixed, she has her personal handyman. You are only there to make her feel attracted and desired if somebody else makes her feel bad. You are only there for her personal gain. You know this already, you just don't want to come to terms with it. After two years, the time has come to take the most drastic step you will ever take in your live: Move on. You need to get rid of your past completely. This means NO CONTACT with her. You must not react to any telephone call from her ever again, you may not reply to any email or tekst, you cannot stop by her shop. If you still have pictures of her lying around, throw them away and delete them from your computer. Gifts from her? Trash! Make sure not a single trace of her remains in your life. This means that last, but not least... You may not have any contact with her family at all! Visit them one last time, explain them the situation and tell them you really need this to move forward in your life. If they care about you, they will respect your decision. You may contact them after one or two years again if you wish so, but for the time being no contact whatsoever. Also, I recommend you start reading more threads on this website. There are many stories and many tips, hints and advices which will help you move on. You will start realizing what went wrong and why. But whatever you do: NC till the end of days!!! Please believe me on this and follow it through.
LoveAnimals Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 No doubt she is stringing you along for when she is bored...Do yourself a favor, stop being at her beck and call and start seeing other women. When you start going out, having fun and dating she will soon not be so important to you. Move on now!
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