aegnir Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 three months after breaking up with a long term girlfriend, I find myself unable to adjust to being single. I feel empty and purposeless, almost void of identity. I just don't know how to contently exist without someone to share existence with. I know this sound cheesy but I can't imagine I'm the only one with these sentiments. as much as I'd like a new love interest, I figure it's probably in my best interest to become comfortable with myself first. my time is sucked away by both a job and a serious band, so there are no lack of fulfilling pursuits here - I simply find being romantically alone a strange and alien lifestyle. does anyone else feel this way? have you been able to shake it? am I doomed to forever chase this ethereal notion of completeness?
january2011 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Focus on yourself and being patient. After the end of a long-term relationship, it can be quite tough dealing with the gaping hole that's left behind. However, one way to look at it is that you have no choice. This is the hand that you were dealt and you need to play it. Besides, "empty and purposeless, almost void of identity" isn't a great start for a new relationship, is it? And no, you are not "doomed." If you don't feel fulfilled with your current activities, then cut back on those and phase in some activities that you find more fulfilling. From your OP, your situation does not seem as desperate as you think it is. Go make some new and happy memories.
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