aevf39 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 okay so my ex and i were on and off for two months... it was all about silly things and basically i would like to think we learned a lot and grew up from the experience. i posted on here before because the last time we broke up (the third time in a month) it was because i was looking through his phone and i found he was texting a girl he said was his friend but someone posted on facebook that they were hanging out.. anyways, we have been back together for 1.5 months and have been great, but we are not friends on facebook because he said he wants to wait until he can trust i will not get upset about something stupid and cause problems. I have only brought it up once and he kind of pushed it to the side... so heres my question-- is it bad that it bothers me that we are not friends on fb? I know it is dumb.. but i feel like if i am trusting him, then he has to trust me and my emotions. should i wait a bit more? or what????????????????
TMichaels Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Sorry, since FB caused the problem between you in the first place, he should know better than to refuse to Friend you giving you some b.s. explanation about "I will, once I know I can trust you not to get upset about silly FB stuff." How exactly does he think he's going to determine this? Does he have some sort of divine power or something? Frankly, it's just an excuse. He has no plans to Friend you - ever. He wants to be able to say/do/post whatever he wants and allow others to as well, and he doesn't want to take any flack from you. By telling you what he did he's just buying himself time with the hopes that you'll eventually drop the subject. So, basically you have two choices: 1. Lay down the law and kick up a fit about it. 2. Let it slide and keep the peace. Which way you go depends on how much *you do* trust him (or, think perhaps he's right, and you did overreact before). Tough call. But, if he's not acting suspiciously in any other way and is paying proper attention to you otherwise, it may be *he is* telling you the truth by saying he doesn't want to get hassled or get you upset about FB stuff that means nothing and the easiest way of doing that is just not giving you access. It's only been six weeks since you've been back together. I'd let it rest for a few more months. After that, broach the subject by saying you'd like to change your FB status to "In a relationship with X" and see what he says about that. Good luck. Best, TMichaels
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